What Chastity Means to Me

[Pa****]

I’ve been reflecting about what chastity means to me personally. Thought I’d share it in case it resonates with anyone else here.

When I’m locked in chastity, it’s not just about denial. It’s about connection.

I want to feel close to my keyholder. I want to know them. Not just some idea of control, but a real person. Someone whose pleasure becomes part of mine. Even if I’m not there. Even if I’m not the one giving it.

Because what really matters to me is that they hold my pleasure. They own it. They control it. And in doing so, they get to enjoy theirs. Whether that’s with me, or with someone else, it doesn’t matter.

Knowing they’re getting pleasure, while I’m held in frustration, is the dynamic that feeds me. It doesn’t need to be physical. It just needs to be true.

That’s where my submission lives. Not in ***, not in punishment, but in the power exchange. They are free. I am bound. They are pleasured. I am aching.

And that ache isn’t empty. It’s full of meaning. It tells me I’ve given something real. Something important.

Chastity, for me, fits naturally with polyamory. If someone else is giving them what I’m denied, that excites me. I want to support it. Encourage it. Even witness it, if I’m allowed. But even if I’m not, just knowing is enough.

Their pleasure, their power, their freedom. My denial, my restraint, my service. That’s the shape of me, when I’m at my most submissive. That’s where I feel whole.

I’d love to hear from both keyholders and wearers. Do you feel it too? That chastity isn’t just about denial, but something deeper. A connection. A truth. That when one holds and one aches, something real is shared between them. Does that live in you like it lives in me?

[am****]

Yes it does live in me

[Do****]

I love this description. Many parts of it resonated with me. I also love that throughout life males depict their constant need for an orgasm, frequent erections, handling themselves throughout the day, playing with themselves whenever they want, going hard at multiple things and without anything causing it…. It’s a huge element of their lives from an early age. Many men would have you believe that without daily orgasms they would suffer great ***. To give that over to me is like a part of their core. Something key to them, significant and meaningful. It’s a huge deal. And creates a strong connection. It says a lot, to want me to hold the key and the control. The level of trust that if it was an emergency or a real problem, I would of course do the right thing. To place such a significant element of themselves completed in my control.
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I find it incredibly sexy!
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But also in direct opposition to those men who define themselves by their appendage, and the role it plays in their day to day…. A subby is happy to hand over that part of their life and still be a man without it. It is not want defines them. I respect that a lot. It shows strength.

[me****]

I just do chastity as it's a great feeling and the fact that I'm in our in public is exciting really to me anyway