Discussion before sex

[Deleted Member]

Intimacy is a must IMO

[am****]

I have a discussion before sex because most of these people i have never meet before or hear there voice before. I would like to be able to feel a little safe in a 10 min. Conversation. That is all I ask for. I don't think that is to much to ask out of a person I am going to have sex with. If you don't want to do it then there is the front door don't let it hit you in the a** on your way out.

[sp****]

Absolutely, Communication is sexy!

[Do****]

It does take away from the thrill for me. We are both adults and know when something should be discussed, but part of the fun is trusting your partner. If you can't "read the room" so to say in that moment... just do what you're doing. If it's crossing a line, then you obviously need more communication.

[br****]

Body language is all I need. More less, harder, deeper. Read the signs and she'll leave happy

[Bl****]

Nothing wrong with double checking boundaries and safe words.

[Ki****]

If your talking about a 1st time with a new Dom or sub, communication is crucial. If you are talking about just a casual sexual encounter, not so much!

[am****]

Thank you for agreeing it means alot

[el****]

Consent is crucial

[Mr****]

Talking before sex can be fun, you can make a game plan. Don't get me wrong spontaneous sex is great but sometimes your looking for an experience that your fantasies have cooked up

[De****]

I think it depends. Newer partners, yes, absolutely. Communication, consent, and learning and understanding eachothers wants, needs, limits and desires is super important. As you get to grow and learn more of eachother, and find more comfort and trust, things become a little more fluid and relaxed.

But communication will always be a priority imo, and everyone of course is different :)

[ma****]

I agree talking can be great foreplay and I always desire to know a basic like/dislike of a sub and what things they are thinking may be enjoyable BUT this shouldn’t be like a movie script but more like a shopping list of possibilities to which your budget may only be the constraints of time. When I start a session I cannot tell you exactly what is going to happen at all, I like to let things unfold naturally and having said knowledge of what general things a sub desires I can pick what feels right for that moment. Everyone has different moods and these sessions are rarely exactly the same, so versatility and a bit of imagination based on foreknowledge goes a long way. Without a basic understanding of what a sub is into it could easily go in a wrong direction if you’re just flying blind.

[Pi****]

Always. I dont understand people who want spontaneous and accurate connection physically. Mentally you can and it's great, but physically just knowing everything is crazy.

The top 3 things that I make sure to know.

1. What are you wanting from sex, to cum, to just have sex, to spend hours doing it. To try something new?

2. what do you like about sex physically. Sensitive spots, fingers, licking so on.

3. How can I get the first two from you and both of us still enjoy sex.

And no matter what, have an open mind, and be up front. If someone has a kink you hate or aren't okay with, is it still okay to have sex or am I forcing you into pleasuring me for a few hours and then I'll never hear from you again.

[to****]

Not a huge fan personally. It seems to give too much to the hype of it and then if it doesn't feel right or is ***d. It has been my experience that if you engage and tread lightly even things that you may not like or, vice versa they may not, particularly enjoy if done slowly without the precognitive thoughts already in place , then there's more open ness to try and be accepting than if it's been brought up already. It seems to be mainly due to the beliefs that I didn't like it before I won't later. When the reality is that I didn't enjoy it done this way maybe I might in this manner

[Su****]

Wow, this is enlightening!!! I think I’ll hold my tongue until there are a few more views from the ladies are added ! ☺️

[Bi****]

My Dom brought up the contraception discussion before we had sex. We also discussed a safe word, and any limits.

[Deleted Member]

Communication is easier for some than for others and not all things are spoken verbally. Issa gotta be a vibe

[TD****]

It's key to full concent and understanding. If we can't be excited through and after a discussion, then we likely don't fit well as lovers.

[Ap****]

Yo Denver is spitting fax out here 📠

[ma****]

1 hour ago, Sussexcpl said:

Wow, this is enlightening!!! I think I’ll hold my tongue until there are a few more views from the ladies are added ! ☺️

Don’t be shy maybe you will start the important input from the female perspective I’m always interested in those views.

[Re****]

Say yes, also depending on experience with said partner, someone new, not familiar with them, yes. If it's someone spent time with and know them well, still yes, but it may not be verbal. Not all communication is word of mouth.

[no****]

Hell no it does not lose the thrill of it. The actions and the momentum is what makes great sex great

[da****]

In short. Consent and understanding is extremely difficult without it. Ergo why gags go on last.

[ba****]

It degrades a lot of the excitement for me but it’s necessary with new partners.

[vi****]

You must to get consent! Nothing should happen before a discussion