Discussion before sex

[po****]

Have a conversation and be flirty

[St****]

I think communication is key in any relationship, casual, romantic, nsa, and such. These discussions should be about consent, limits/hard no's, and just creating a comforting environment for you and your partner. I believe that having a discussion is a good way to ease some of the tension. Whether it's a new partner or someone you would like yo be romantically involved with. Thats just my perspective

[pr****]

Honestly the insight you get from both parties is nice. I agree with Denver

[Er****]

Personally, knowing whats in my partners head is a major turn on for me. Its almost like voyeurism, but for the soul instead of the body.

[fo****]

I think it’s very important while yes the act is fun and intimate there are certain boundaries and a level of understanding that should be reached by both parties before engaging. Though I can’t see the merit in both sides of this argument. I’ve also had encounters where it’s completely feral, and you move based off of instinct. Almost as though you can feel what the other person is thinking and react to it.

[ne****]

If you are having a "BDSM" play setting out limits and boundaries are absolutely mandatory, even if it's not that wild good communication between you and your partner will make sure you both have a lovely time, perhaps discussing things you would like to try

[sa****]

It’s a must

[pu****]

Def discussion before to set the parameters

[Da****]

If a discussion ruins it you probably don’t like them at all.

[Jo****]

communicate

[Ch****]

NEVER TALK OR THINK. DO AND BECOME, GET LOST IN IT. talk after,

[ja****]

"what, you don't like getting ***ed on?" <-- why communication is essential

[ja****]

Just now, jacquesness said:

"what, you don't like getting ***ed on?" <-- why communication is essential

I.e. why communication is essential

[Deleted Member]

Depends on the situation. If you’re meeting in the heat of the moment a conversation may ruin it, but if you’re looking for a relationship then conversation is extremely important.

[Od****]

17 minutes ago, MyMan21804 said:

Depends on the situation. If you’re meeting in the heat of the moment a conversation may ruin it, but if you’re looking for a relationship then conversation is extremely important.

Until you try something, that something is a hard pass, and the other person bugs out.

I'd rather at the very least establish a "red" and "yellow" safeword before starting, because a "yellow, easy" can be followed by "your doing so well" and actually make things hotter.

Remember, if your safe feels safe, they'll relax, and possibly be open to more things then, and in the future.

[Od****]

*sub feels safe

[Re****]

Theres nothing hotter than consent. Tell me what you want and you can beg for more

[Ru****]

I'm always a fan of talking about sex and what we each want and need beforehand. Especially since, with enough practice, the conversation itself can be a form of foreplay. Partners that emphasize safety, communicate in healthy ways and aren't shy about what they do and don't want are always the hottest to me 🥵

[Deleted Member]

I like that even better

[po****]

Absolutely need to talk about it beforehand, even if it’s just to set rules and terms, but ideally to fantasise about what you are planning to do to the other person… assuming of course we can follow through ;)

[Ja****]

Depends. Old fwb would wanna talk at first it was weird but i understood why. She wanted to express what she wanted to accomplish that night and or do... or also of she was in *** from a medical condition, therefore wanted to message aware of what can be done

[Ja****]

As well others can also get stimulated by conversation and get in the mood

[Li****]

Absolutely, not in the bed right before sex but maybe over dinner. Couples will play cat and mouse for years because he doesn't push too far and get smacked, and she doesn't want to let on how much of a freak she is because she's afraid she'll scare him away.
You'll end up with a better result if you know what each other likes and wants

[Ji****]

Really it should be something you do at some point beforehand no matter what. Lot of things can go wrong if you don't discuss beforehand.

[Deleted Member]

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