Discussion before sex

[Mr****]

Discussion is just one form of communication, so I'd say "Yes if you're new, if the dynamic is old, or if there's something you want to try that is new for that dynamic." People aren't mind readers: nobody is going to suddenly know that you want heavily ***d when you've never done or talked about that with them previously.

That said, body language is also part of communication. You can say that you would like to be ***d beforehand and graciously express that you look forward to having fun with them either way, sure; or you could lightly place a hand on their chest for a quick-pause mid play, grab their hand and place it on your throat with slight pressure to indicate how much you want gripped, and give them a look of passionate approval if they respond in a way that shows they got the message. Both are what might be considered effective communication (particularly positive rein***ment)—one is merely more primal than the other (and as such needs to meet the balance of your existing dynamic).

And yes, dear brats, that also holds for you and from us to you IMO: if you expect discipline, you *should inform of your behaviors (as known—part of the fun is learning those things) that are to be read as discipline triggers, and we *should gain a mutual understanding on times/places/spaces/modes of discipline before enacting such practices. Failure to do so could be catastrophic—then again, I consider "should" to be a dirty word and consider intimacy to be a "myriad forms" event, so YMMV.

[li****]

ES PEC I ALLY before doing kink stuff, yes.

[Co****]

I prefer to, not RIGHT before, but get a general sense of what's wanted at the very least. When it comes to kink, definitely discuss.

Plus since I prefer they're done together, having the discussion on both prior does not take the anticipation out of it all, merely builds it.

Doesn't work for everyone, but hey, I like knowing the vibe that's wanted me for both things 🤷