Understand your partner

[la****]

Do you see submission more as an act of trust in someone else, or as a journey into your own vulnerability?

[D_****]

In my opinion, it should be both. This way everyone gets more out of it.

[Deleted Member]

Both for me

[no****]

Agreed both

[Sa****]

I believe that in order to journey into your own vulnerability, you have to trust… so for me it’s both. Great question!

[in****]

D_Ba1313-;I was about to say the same thing but add that you have to trust yourself and as a Dom I have to communicate always and be able to not take advantage ot or *** the power that someone has given you.

[se****]

A journey into MY OWN vulnerability

[Ce****]

Both. Trust allows you to be more v*lnerable. I think they both grow together, trust and vulnerability. Symbiotic, perhaps.

[ca****]

BD is as individual as your partner mate but yes it's trust. Not crossing the line taking *** hurting when *** often due to direct management of past trauma taking control. Lean on me right. It is the gentlest calmest most erotic sensual thing done right. Personally I don't like *** or disrespect but Ur partner may so just keep communication open. Gl friend

[Do****]

Depends on which role you ask. For me it’s both, her trust in me is very important to maintain. If you lose trust she no longer feels safe to take that journey and explore her limits. But I also get to explore my limits.

[St****]

For me i have to trust and know that you care about my safety and care about me physically and mentally...i know with my current bf he has shown that and that how i can fully submit to him

[Ra****]

I see it as both. It’s a decided journey of Duality Vulnerability and Trust. When it’s done right no matter what role you take own, it’s transcendent.

[ki****]

I'm definitely of the both crowd. I will not submit to someone I can't trust can take care of himself first, and me as well. So I have to build a massive amount of trust in him.
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I also see it as learning is two deeply into a space that terrifies me after being ***d all my life. There is that craving for the surrender, but it's also a deep journey into a level of vulnerability I've been terrified of trusting in again. So a journey too in learning self in a deeper way (if that's possible.) I apparently must absolutely conquer every aspect of who I am to understand self deeper and deeper by the day. And in that way find a deep level of terrifying vulnerability. lol

[Deleted Member]

Both. In order to be ***, I have to feel safe. Like harm is not intended. To do that, I need to trust. To trust, I need connection, presence and consistency

[Pa****]

I think it’s like two sides of the same coin. The more you push yourself to trust in someone else the more you stretch your ability to be ***. But, I think if you are asking what one a person focuses on (the person they trust or their own capabilities in trusting another). There is certainly a combo any relationship but I also think that one is more self reflective and can be more of an opportunity to learn about oneself. Like how being in an relationship, we learn about how selves - how we treat others , how we want to be treated, how we want to be seen. Any number of things, and those of *** things can be most interesting - how we find comfort in being restrained and taken care of. I suppose I probably look at more reflectively. A journey into my own vulnerability. But it requires both. Haha that’s was probably long winded

[Da****]

I think the answer is in the question itself. It is all the above. I think it is a journey into trusting someone and yours and their vulnerability.

[am****]

I love that they can take it so far to the outer limits and know when enough is enough.

[am****]

Want to explore & find out!!!!

[Bo****]

I think it's how they relax. Do you want to hand the reins over to someone else and have them take over for you?

[Deleted Member]

For me its a little of both. I trust you not to take it too far, and *** because I'm opening myself up to trust you.

[Wa****]

Trust

[am****]

If you don't have trust do you really have anything?

[am****]

I don't like handing over thr reins and letting them have total control over my body.

[Submissive_summer]

Trust… that’s the foundation.....
I don’t see it as a journey into my own vulnerability....
For me... it’s about stepping fully into my part of a shared journey with my Dominant that's built on trust and connection

[Wh****]

Both. Yes its about trusting your partner, but also I struggle with vulnerability so to be able to open up and submit... its both for me.