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How do I show I am submissive without saying it?


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A photo of you kneeling is a very clear sign, if you’re referring to your profile.

If you’re referring to in life then you can wear a necklace with a loop on it. Look for day to day submissive collars in search engine and lots of things come up. Or a little tattoo of the BDSM Ying Yang emblem.

In a relationship, kneeling by someone or asking them what they’d like you to do for them, offering or running a bath, making or bringing drinks, fetching their shoes or bags etc are all sure fire ways of showing you’d like to be in a submissive role for them.
Regularly sacrifice your comfort for the comfort of your Dom. Jump at the opportunity to serve..whether it’s intimate, chores or errands. Make it clear that your satisfaction only comes from their’s. Praise your Dom often and build them up constantly🙏🖤
Look down , bowing your head without making eye contact unless asked
The act of bowing ones head is the most prominent act of submission there is. That says more loud than words. Usually being submissive it comes naturally when there is a Dom or a very strong person. A true Dom will usually pick up on not so obvious signs of submission. A submissive is also very soft spoken. Usually when a submissive catches the look of a Dom they usually look away first and then the head bow happens.

Just kneel before your Dom/Domme and start sniffing a** or kissing a** and or crotch area

Acts of submission are actions.... not just words..... You show it through your behavior ... attentiveness... obedience.... respect... patience and willingness to serve or please....

Little gestures like anticipating needs... asking for permission... following instructions carefully or showing gratitude for guidance.... This speaks louder than saying "I’m submissive"

It’s a gift meant only for a worthy Dominant/Domme who earns that trust and devotion....

Best of luck on your journey....
Take the BDSM test?
Just saying “I am a submissive” should work.
I guess you are looking for subtle signals you can display irl.

How about:
- body language like lowering gaze, keeping hands behind your back.
- use honorifics like “Sir”, “Ma’am”
- asking permission before action “May I sit?”
- wearing a collar
- acts of service like preparing food or offering to carry things
- deference in decision making
- showing trust like openly sharing feelings or seeking guidance

It’s difficult though - most of these are perhaps too subtle.

I could design you a t-shirt saying “I’m a sub” or “Submissives have more fun”. That might work 😂
I think it depends entirely on your partner or partners, some people are just objectively and tragically obtuse when it comes to these things. But some ways to start out in my opinion is being softer around them, slip in a bit of neediness in the way you act around them but not too much to come off as immature. Oftentimes reversing the roles of simple activities can help also, if you cuddle with this person are you usually the big spoon? If so try to slowly ease into the position of small spoon. A lot of people forget that intimacy isn’t the end all be all of these things, regular affectionate gestures give off plenty of hints depending on your body language and attitude towards these things.

Like, in what context?

With a partner or prospective partner (and why can't you say it to them?)

in a friend group

walking down the street (no one needs to know, soz)

at a fetish club/event

on vanilla dating apps (again, just put you're submissive)

If youre talking about how to show.in public or without stating such, wearing a collar is a good way to show that.
Are you trying to show just everyone or a specific person you are interested in, or your romantic/sexual partner?
Kneel before your dom and say ‘hello sir! I’ve greatly missed your presence!’
What is about the old outdated scarf or wristband color code?
Kinda depends in a relationship you can talk to your partner and agree on certain things they should take charge on, could be in the bedroom, could be something like, they order my food for me

Outside a relationship is a bit more of a challenge, and will require you to be a bit, public, about it. Things like collars and such can be good here
No nd yo worry people naturally show that side of themselves when the time is right
Honestly though, just being yourself is more Important unless you're wanting tips and tricks for the performance of being submissive
Show him you focus more on his pleasure than yours. If he says he needs a drink or snack. Go get it for him.
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