Meeting couples

[bi****]

If he us a cuck say so but if he wants a 2some say that but make it clear he is ok about you advertising on here alwats meet first time social the both of you that way if do not want social ypu will weed out a lot of those who say they will but never turn up

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, DarkGable said:

It’s an etiquette as old as life styling itself: if you as a single male example, get invited into a couple circle, out of respect, always approach the husband FIRST! For introduction, interaction anything that’s gonna move things forward once the wife is comfortable. I’m sure she’ll chime in but always talk to the husband first once the wife sees how you treat her husband,that will determine if it’s a go or no…. females unicorns same way…. approach the wife first. It kind of dissuades the underlying sense of insecurities.

Lastly, meeting, the couple also shows them that you are understanding in your role of enhancing their fun time and not attempting to be a replacement…. That’s just my two cents With 40+ something years of experience.

This is totally the answer (at least for me). First, it's a safety thing, I don't meet men alone for a first meetup and I don't meet women or couples looking to play by myself. Even platonically I don't meet alone, unless we have spent time getting to know each other and it's in a public place. I used to, however I've ended up in a couple scary situations. This lifestyle opens doors for traffickers and ***rs to gain access to their next victims. I've almost been one and I don't plan to put myself in that position again.

Second, reaching out to my partner first shows me they actually took the time to read my profile and will most likely respect his and my boundaries. There are very few men (single or partnered) that I will meet with if they approached me before my partner. I put that tidbit in my profiles and reference him so they know who to talk to. It helps me weed out some of the thirsty ones.

Lastly, by approaching my partner first there is less of a chance he will have any insecurities. He is able to approve someone through his own vetting and lay his ground rules down before they ever have access to me. He knows what I like, whether it's physical or mental, so he can tell them if they even have a chance. He also gets to decide how safe he thinks it will be.

I'm not saying I have no say and don't entertain conversation before they speak with him... But by going through him you have a greater chance of me saying yes. And even if I have talked to them first, there will be a point that they have to meet and speak with him. If he hasn't said yes, there is no way I will say yes.

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, DarkGable said:

It’s an etiquette as old as life styling itself: if you as a single male example, get invited into a couple circle, out of respect, always approach the husband FIRST! For introduction, interaction anything that’s gonna move things forward once the wife is comfortable. I’m sure she’ll chime in but always talk to the husband first once the wife sees how you treat her husband,that will determine if it’s a go or no…. females unicorns same way…. approach the wife first. It kind of dissuades the underlying sense of insecurities.

Lastly, meeting, the couple also shows them that you are understanding in your role of enhancing their fun time and not attempting to be a replacement…. That’s just my two cents With 40+ something years of experience.

This is the way, at least for me. I very rarely meet someone without my partner... And usually I have someone along spying on me and the potential when I'm single. This lifestyle opens the door to ***rs and traffickers to find their next person, it sucks but it's the way of the world nowadays. I've been in a few situations that have turned ugly and I'm thankful I'm still here to talk about them....

As a woman, I let my man make the decision. It shows him respect, helps alleviate any insecurities, and it helps keep me safe. If he says no, it's no. If he says yes, it's a maybe while I decide if it's what I want.

To attract that attention, I simply state that they can speak with him if they want to play. It's stated in my profile and his info is there. If they don't contact him first, the answer will most likely be a no... They didn't read, so obviously weren't interested in more than my pictures and getting in my pants. They have also shown a disregard for my own boundaries and expectations. Not the kind of person I want to meet up with. The few people who do reach out to me first, and have a chance, can hold a conversation that doesn't involve sex.

Potential playmates also don't balk at the fact my partner will be joining us until he has deemed safe for me to go solo.... If they do, they have no respect for my relationship. As a group I had been involved with put it, "I'm not in an open relationship, I'm just able to play."

[Ap****]

I think most guys would write you off only because it's pretty foreign to them and having another man next to you kinda screams I'm not available so here's an idea how about bringing another female friend ? I've had guys approach me when I'm in a group of 3 and hit on the woman just have fun :)

[LR****]

I think it depends on the setting sometimes it’s polite to just be direct and tell the husband straight up other times you can do it discreetly and get the wife attention

[wa****]

I think in this type of situation she needs take action as far as introducing other people and couples it makes for an easier connection …

[tr****]

Wear a hotwife necklace, anklet, ect

[Ke****]

Just give a heads up. Don't blind side, and be chill. We are all here for each other anyway 🤙🏾

[Sc****]

She would make the first move. After that, let things go where they may. Especially if she’s straight forward and tells the guy her husband/bf is cool with it. If that happened to me, I’d be totally open to it and feel comfortable chatting up the woman (or both).

[Co****]

As long as the husband isn’t a surprise, it shouldn’t matter much. The girl is going to have to be very obvious and clear about her intentions if she expects to meet someone new while she is with a man - unless you are attending a swingers event.

[Da****]

@bambino. Thank you

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, trinity32095 said:

Wear a hotwife necklace, anklet, ect

Always do

[Co****]

I prefer my husband with me as we are a duo even if we weren't then it would be for security as these days who don't know who your meeting. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[pu****]

Something that speaks to your kink, what you are seeking, like wearing leather, or a nice fashionable puffer coat.

[bo****]

I think it's hot having someones partner there watching, participating, or just checking things out before play.

[mo****]

Would rather meet girls with there partner, how ever is more comfortable.

[in****]

Whe think it's hot too... the conference is amazing