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Would you be open to relocating for your person? I feel like so many of us limit ourselves to only people within a 10 mile radius from us. We put up settings and ignore messages of anyone whose not nearby. I feel like my person could be in Alaska or Poland or something.

How do you feel? Are you open to relocating for love?
I can only speak for myself but it’s not an option to go more than a 30 mile radius. Family, etc means even if our person is on the other side of the world then we’re chuffed
I moved from MI to CA for "love" after dating for over a year of seeing each other once a month and 24/7 phone contact. I didnt make it 6 months before the truth of how the ex really was came out. Needless to say, even after trying to make it work, things didnt and I moved back to MI. It was a very costly leasin learned, both emotionally and financially. I would advise against it. 90 Day fiancee is just a tv show, not to be tried in real life. Dont fall for it, and dont let your ignorance of the person and who/how they really are be taken advantage of.
sardonicus87
7 minutes ago, DYSY25 said:
I can only speak for myself but it’s not an option to go more than a 30 mile radius. Family, etc means even if our person is on the other side of the world then we’re chuffed

Pretty much this, I have too many responsibilities and also already have love, damn sure not relocating just for a play partner (not that I wouldn't or couldn't love them too), but I have a radius set that's upwards of 1.5 hours travel time one-way, that's about the max I can do.
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That said, I'm also not interested in playing once a year... I want play to be regular or not at all (without, I don't have to worry about it and can get used to it, but one-off play is just going to make me want it more, re-ignite the desire and then get frustrating), hence 1,000 miles away doesn't work at all.
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Not that it matters, people with my kinks are apparently at the closest, over 2,000 miles and a passport away.
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I ptetty much gave up years ago even before meeting my wife, just have always been online "just in case". This is the life of most edge-players it seems.

sardonicus87
I mean, maybe if I were single and had no life, sure I'd be willing to relocate... but if I had no life, nobody would want me then, so there'd be nobody to relocate for.
Unfortunately, no. I just purchased a house after moving across the country. I’m not moving anywhere for a while
I have done this and it's a long story but it worked until I broke I almost 11 years after I moved for love. It can happen and it can be wonderful but both sides have to really want it, finding a woman willing to do that when she has men in her life constantly telling her how pretty she looks is the hard part. We all know us men don't get compliments like women do so it's not such a problem for a man but let me tell you bro, if you do get a compliment from someone DO NOT TELL YOUR WOMAN UNDER ANY AND ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!!!
8 minutes ago, Crispycris7970 said:
Honestly, i probably would

Lol id be the crazy one to do it without even really knowing her all that well. Why? Becsuse thats what a relationship is. It's an adventure, we change EVERY SINGLE DAY. We grow as people daily, and I feel like if you're not willing to take that leap of faith on the unknown, are you really looking for love or lust?

48 minutes ago, bigdaddyT84 said:
I have done this and it's a long story but it worked until I broke I almost 11 years after I moved for love. It can happen and it can be wonderful but both sides have to really want it, finding a woman willing to do that when she has men in her life constantly telling her how pretty she looks is the hard part. We all know us men don't get compliments like women do so it's not such a problem for a man but let me tell you bro, if you do get a compliment from someone DO NOT TELL YOUR WOMAN UNDER ANY AND ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!!!

Drivel.

I've gone around the world for less, I'd go anywhere for the right one
I would if it were a LTR not just a play thing every so often. I’m looking for a partner to do things with, not just in the bedroom. I have done it before and for true love, I’d do it again.
I have no ties where I am, absolutely for the right fit 💯

Like. Particularly in the past I said I would.  But like... over the years I've known people who have (and those where it worked, those where it didn't) and those who said they would and then in the heat of reality, things didn't happen.

Like there will be people ideal for you 100 miles away, and hopefully some ideal for you 10 miles away.

But due to distance a lot of the early phases which define relationships can be difficult because you can't see each other as often as you'd like and when you do - well - it is more special plans.   So then should the relocation happen, you then find that the actual being in a relationship and seeing each other every day brings it's own issues.

But then plenty of course who said they would and then have cold feet because of this, or maybe didn't have ties... then suddenly did... like starting a new job, or getting a promotion, or a family member needing care.   So on.

So yeah, some people do limit their radius because they are aware of all this. 

As long as there was true chemistry and over time we both were ready to make that move.
I would not. You can't get to know someone that lives so far away the right way. I know more than one person that relocated for love and then the relationship was over in three months.
If a man still insists that he wants to get to know me in spite of the distance, I let them know that he's 100% responsible for coming to see me and for all the travelling expenses. He usually changes his mind quite quickly.
15 hours ago, RyanfromGR said:
I moved from MI to CA for "love" after dating for over a year of seeing each other once a month and 24/7 phone contact. I didnt make it 6 months before the truth of how the ex really was came out. Needless to say, even after trying to make it work, things didnt and I moved back to MI. It was a very costly leasin learned, both emotionally and financially. I would advise against it. 90 Day fiancee is just a tv show, not to be tried in real life. Dont fall for it, and dont let your ignorance of the person and who/how they really are be taken advantage of.

Very sane comment.

Also, if the relationship ends and you have ***, things can get very ugly. Understand that this person has his or her family and friends back home. Once you're not together anymore, they'll probably want to come back to their home countries, that have their own culture and legal system. And they might want to take the *** with them.
1 minute ago, liliththedivine said:
Also, if the relationship ends and you have ***, things can get very ugly. Understand that this person has his or her family and friends back home. Once you're not together anymore, they'll probably want to come back to their home countries, that have their own culture and legal system. And they might want to take the *** with them.

Chil-dren****

It’d have to be something really powerful. I have incredible friends. And I’ve considered leaving the state for many reasons but my people are here. But if the connection is really strong perhaps.
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