How to handle a Brat

[do****]

19 hours ago, SweetNSourPatchBrat said:

That DV not brat taming 🙄

Exactly smdh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[BC****]

Talk to her about it and what she wants, everyone is different and brat is a broad term. Some just need a firm word others want physical dominance, others want even more. You won't know unless you talk about it and it's very easy to cross over boundaries if you aren't aware of limits. Like every kind of relationship communication is key.

[Wh****]

Yesterday at 02:49 PM, TomWhttt said:

Bratting isn’t a problem. It’s how she checks whether I’m actually present and capable of leading.
When she pushes, she’s really asking: “Are you steady enough to hold me?”

Here’s how I handle it:

1. I don’t react. I direct.
If she’s trying to provoke a reaction, and I get flustered, she’s in control.
So I slow down. I speak softer.
That’s where the authority is

2. My expectations are clear and simple.
No debates, no monologues.

“When I speak to you, you answer”
Straightforward. That’s enough

3. I rein*** what I want to see.
Brats respond incredibly well to calm approval.
A quiet, “Good girl”
A hand in her hair.
She settles when she feels she’s being held, not managed.

4. When she says “make me,” I don’t argue.
I take one step closer, look her in the eyes, and say:

“I wasn’t asking”
No heat, no edge. Just certainty.

Bratting fades when she trusts the person leading her.
It’s not about punishment or control for its own sake; it’s about presence.

You don’t “handle” a brat.
You lead her until she no longer needs to test that you can!

This exactly!! I brat to make sure he can always be my rock…

[ce****]

I like to let them say and do as they please while testing boundaries and limits but with fair warning that it will have consequences..
I will then let them believe that they're going to get what they want in the bedroom both in terms of play and in turns of giggles under the duvet 😉
Then once we get into bed I just say right you've been a bad girl, I'm off to sleep... I usually make sure that they are fully charged as it were and absolutely gagging and then I just point blank refuse them.
Don't get me wrong I often want what they want, 😉😀 but I've learned the hard way sometimes that giving a brat what they want ends up with a very one-sided dynamic that can actually turn quite aggressive and abusive and is never very satisfactory in the long run.
So I let them understand who is the Dominant and I dictate the play....😈😈😉😀
It is quite fun seeing how frustrated a bratty submissive can get when they realize that they're not going to get their way after thinking for the last few hours that was precisely what they were going to get...
Surprisingly they learn very quickly that whilst I enjoy a bit of pushback and friction with their brattiness there's only so much of it that I will tolerate if we both want to get what we want.