Sub Space--What is it to you?

[De****]

For those in a D/s dynamic....subspace! I've heard it mentioned before although very little. Do you believe its a real thing? Subs--have you experienced it? What is YOUR subspace like? Dif you hit a subdrop afterwards? Doms--do YOU have an equivalent to a subspace? If so, what's it called and what's it like physically & emotionally for you?

[Vl****]

I have put several of my former subs into subspace. Which is why aftercare is so important. To go into subspace they have to feel safe. Sometimes sub drop may happen several days later.

[my****]

If you want to call it Dom space, there is a moment when a rule has been broken or a task neglected, and I have to discipline. When I discipline I have to shrug off my feelings for the woman I’m with and cause her mild to heavy discomfort. My jaw tightens, and I have to say the severity of the infraction with the severity of the punishment. When I bring my belt down and she yelps, or whines, of just grunts I have to ignore that and focus on metering out the punishment.

[Zis]

I had the privilege to experience both. As a femdom I get very calming and warm feeling, and a tingling sensation in my brain for some reason.
I switched one time for someone close and wouldn't do it again, BUT because of our very deep connection at that point I did and I got in a very deep subspace. He could have thrown me around and I wouldn't have noticed. I wasn't able to think or process instructions, but i wasnt dissociated. That behavior is very far from my natural character, so yeah, I would say there is a sub space and there can be a very severe sub drop, which I also had to experience.
D/s is not a game to my knowledge

[Qu****]

Subspace isn't relegated to a d/s dynamic, it can happen during any form of play. I have experienced it from both perspectives and can get there fairly easily with electro play. For me it enhances my feral side, others will have different effects. Most typically you'll hear it referred to as top space from the dom perspective.

[Deleted Member]

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[ni****]

I dont know if its this exactly but i believe ive experienced sub drop. I was with a brilliant dom and we had a lengthy play session in my early days of kink and we really went for it. It was incredible only for a few hours later i felt like i had been hit by a bus! My whole body head to toe felt like a heavy weight and i had no energy in me to even lift a cup i was utterly exhausted
But then it was like i think a 4 hour impact session
Another time i just felt this incredible wave of heightened emotion and i just shook and whimpered in his arms

[Deleted Member]

Subspace is a state that is achieved through a release of endorphins. People who are in subspace can appear to be checked out or floating and can take some time to come back to being grounded physically. It’s comparable to a runners high or similar. It’s not uncommon for people in subspace to go non verbal.

There are reliable and predictable ways to get one’s partner into subspace, though every person is different in the exactly combination that gets them there. There’s a great article by the folks at Sporkwood on the science of S&M that acts as a good primer on the topic.

Note that subspace is a chemical condition and similar to things like Dom space or little space that are much more a state of mind.

[Qu****]

58 minutes ago, OttoTechnika said:

Subspace is a state that is achieved through a release of endorphins. People who are in subspace can appear to be checked out or floating and can take some time to come back to being grounded physically. It’s comparable to a runners high or similar. It’s not uncommon for people in subspace to go non verbal.

There are reliable and predictable ways to get one’s partner into subspace, though every person is different in the exactly combination that gets them there. There’s a great article by the folks at Sporkwood on the science of S&M that acts as a good primer on the topic.

Note that subspace is a chemical condition and similar to things like Dom space or little space that are much more a state of mind.

I would disagree that dom/top space is more of a state of mind. Topping can release the same chemicals especially for some forms of edge play. You light someone on fire, you're going to get a rush of chemicals. You use a body contact probe & feel some of the same sensations that your partner feels with electro play you're going to get a rush of chemicals. Some even get a rush when they see bl*od, I get that way.

[ho****]

Hell yeaaaaa. I fucking LOVE IT. I’m addicted to it lol. I looked drugged out supposedly. My subdrop is just me being sad/nonverbal and then angry for hours because I want more sex. And yes doms do have a domspace. They basically just feel rlly rlly bad. I have intense concerning kinks so I dealt with this before lol. “Are you sure you’re okay?” “It didn’t hurt too much?” “Do you hate me?” So cute

[Deleted Member]

Subspace is a different state of mind that is distant from being mentally present. When I do selfbondage and give myself a lot of ***,I sometimes can push myself so far I enter subspace. Don't worry, I only do this with estim in a controlled environment, and while I'm there, I'm skilled enough to get back to earth if I want or need to. When you play with a partner, you give away control, so you don't have to be on alert when going into subspace. While there, *** changes. It's both there and not. It can feel like experiencing *** in a dream. You don't feel it, yet you know it hurts. I can be in agony, not able to stay quiet and moan of the ***, then go into subspace and fully relax, no sound from me unless I choose to, though that would drift me out of subspace.

[po****]

You think it might actually be a clever way to hide the fact that you’re talking about Drug/Sex.
I’m not trying to be suggested I’m just curious myself

[po****]

I know I’m getting kicked for this one lol

[BlueGrace]

As a female sub that has 4 Doms and has been in the lifestyle for 17 years, I’ve never been in subspace before and nor do I ever want to be. I don’t like the idea of it or the loss of any control I have over my body. My anxiety doesn’t enjoy it either.