Why communication is so important

[DJWolfDaddy]

As a loving Daddy who has lived this way of life for several years, to me communication open and honest communication is vital in getting to know one another when you're just starting to see if you can build a connection.
For me daily and regular messages, phone calls, text messages, sending pictures and videos are all important in getting to know one another and when that communication breaks down from either side means that you have failed to show that you are truly interested in forming our connection and bond.
I am one who needs to have regular daily communication to know what is happening and when the other person just playing stops talking communicating whatever to me it is disrespectful and it also shows me that you are not a real person or sincere. Back when I first started out in this way of life respect and showing respect to each other was very important but nowadays it seems to get thrown out the window and that is unacceptable to me.
I'm also 57 going on 58 at the end of this month and I have no time for game players people who cannot be honest about who and what they want. I know exactly what I want and I will not settle for anything less.
So again it is my humble opinion that communication is absolutely required on a regular basis in order to form the connection and bond between each other.

[St****]

I am wanting to get back into the life style and I have also noticed that it’s a bit different now. At least when it comes to communication standards.

You can’t set safe boundaries and bring fantasies to life without proper communication.

Also, effort can be small. If it takes someone an extensive amount of time to reply. Then I just assume disinterest. When you want something you apply effort to it.

[ey****]

I don't think it's people being 'not real' or insincere or even playing games.

Online comms is difficult.  There's no tone, no body language, so on.   There's also a big issue in often expecting someone to be always available, which can take it's toll.   

Obviously it sucks when someone does just stop replying - though - there was a guy on here who later found someone who 'ghosted' him had actually died - and in some cases folk are just busy (can that be communicated "hey, I won't be about for a few days" - yes - but if a close family member was rushed to hospital or any other emergency then logging on to tell someone I won't be about a bit isn't a priority, if they can't wait a few days, then...) and in a lot of cases, where was the conversation left - what was the last unread message?  Was it a question? Was it conversational? Was it yet another "how are you", "how was your day", are they actually just bored...   and as we found in another thread, telling men they're boring hurts their feelings.

I guess the other issue is that we often trick ourselves there is a connection or bond that the other person just isn't also feeling.   There wasn't one, we just loved the idea.    And like, if there isn't a connection or bond then at some point one person has to be the one that goes "this isn't working" -- and, like, if non-response is something you'd find disrespectful, they weren't the one for you anyway so you dodged a bullet.