Collars

[Ph****]

16 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

I have no problem with you having a different opinion. I see it as a wedding ring. Some people will return those and others keep them. From my pov the collar is mine, I give it to a sub (I’ve never given it to one because I’ve never had that relationship) if she asks for release that comes back to me. It’s her final act while being mine. I would dispose of it. Giving it to another girl would be very tacky. I don’t think there is a wrong opinion either way, just different points of view.

Absolutely. I agree with you 100%. It's okay for 2 people to have 2 different points of views on things. And neither is wrong.

[he****]

Hope you figured out what you are doing with it.

It had meaning, although that meaning has changed it will have meaning too.

Always here if you need to talk

[Ta****]

6 hours ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

I disagree with returning it.. it doesn't matter if it's was abandoned or not.. this from a submissive side opinion... regardless of who is in the wrong, it should be the submissive to decide.. I know a lot would disagree with me, and I am ok with that..
But one if she takes the responsibility of doing what she wants with a collar.I don't have to worry about it going around someone else neck ..
I have seen this too many times. Old collars going around another submissive neck After it's been on someone else's neck..

I understand the concept of that was that Dom's collar for that submissive...
But sometimes we have to step back and take a breather. And has nothing to do with power as to do with what is right.
The collar is very emotional for the submissive.I'm not saying it's not emotional for the Dom.
But just for a second , take the dom out of the equation , we're not disrespecting the Dom , we're just saying , hey , when we take our power back , we should have a little say so too..

P.S. i hope that helps understand from a submissive side , a point of view.

Thank you, despite how things ended because of his actions, choices etc, I dont want to disrespect anyone including him which I know few will understand but I also dont wish to disrespect myself because I want to do the right thing all the way round but you're so right I am saying "Im taking my control back" because I owe it to myself after everything thats happened.

[Ph****]

7 minutes ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

Thank you, despite how things ended because of his actions, choices etc, I dont want to disrespect anyone including him which I know few will understand but I also dont wish to disrespect myself because I want to do the right thing all the way round but you're so right I am saying "Im taking my control back" because I owe it to myself after everything thats happened.

You matter to. And it was really brave of you to come on here and ask other people for their opinions ... I know how it feels. Take your time... I have been there.

[Ta****]

18 minutes ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

You matter to. And it was really brave of you to come on here and ask other people for their opinions ... I know how it feels. Take your time... I have been there.

Thank you that means a lot

[Deleted Member]

I’ve always requested that collars be returned to me, as the Dominant, at the end of the dynamic. They are My collars and My symbols of the claim that I had on my submissive, not a gift of jewelry to them. This is an expectation that I set up front before entering into any dynamic.

Once returned to me, I keep it around the house for a period of time and then write about my thoughts and feelings on the relationship as a form of memorium to bring the entire relationship to closure. Then I place it the writing and collar in a manilla envelope and place it in a drawer.

[Ta****]

10 minutes ago, MasterLenHard said:

I wrote a short text based on everyone's responses here, as far as I've seen. It's in Portuguese, my native language, so if anyone needs a translation or specific terms, I'll be happy to help. https://www.toymaker.top/post/o-que-fazer-com-a-coleira-ap%C3%B3s-o-t%C3%A9rmino-da-d-s

I would be interested to read it please

[Ta****]

21 minutes ago, MasterLenHard said:

I wrote a short text based on everyone's responses here, as far as I've seen. It's in Portuguese, my native language, so if anyone needs a translation or specific terms, I'll be happy to help. https://www.toymaker.top/post/o-que-fazer-com-a-coleira-ap%C3%B3s-o-t%C3%A9rmino-da-d-s

This was never discussed & unknown to me at the time as he is a dismissive avoidant i dont think he ever had any intention of things coming to an end & i only woke to his behaviour patterns after his betrayal, deceipt & lies were disclosed & as stated i really do not want to give him any excuse to contact me because the dark place i have pulled myself out from because i loved, trusted, adored & worshipped him as his sub & partner & he almost destroyed me!!!

[MasterLenHard]

1 hour ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

Eu teria interesse em lê-lo, por favor.

The link is at the end of what I wrote; unfortunately, the app doesn't allow copying external links, so you would have to copy and paste it into your browser.

 

 

 

 

 

[MasterLenHard]

The link is at the end of what I wrote; unfortunately, the app doesn't allow copying external links, so you would have to copy and paste it into your browser.