Ghosting VS Blocking

[ic****]

I see it as the easiest and safest way of cutting a cord regardless of why it needs to be cut - it can b SO deranging tho, like tf I do 😂 I've blocked someone out of protection of my own emotions (like seeing them or wanting to reach out to someone toxic if they're on my feed), or to protect my safety otherwise if I have a problem with someone I'll tell them bc I over think tooo

[Ch****]

I think on another level, some are incapable of experiencing anything that is not praise or enthusiastically reinforcing to their own perspectives. Social media is tailored so specifically to each person's preferences that, when people engage with actual humans, that have varied ideas & mannerisms vs an endless stream tailored to the exact same ideas, concepts, & in the same manner of delivery, it strikes them as being much harsher than what it is. Almost like the hot water suddenly running out during a shower. It requires an immediate escape to make it stop. Blocking is the only way to stop the stream. I think it's hard to transition when from this conditioning for alot of people. Idk just my take. Hope no one is offended

[Pe****]

Insecurities or just moving on. People are strange and make decisions based on their perception. Who really knows, tbh.

[Wo****]

this 👆🏾

[Wo****]

And I go straight to blocking when somebody completely disregard what’s in my profile

[Deleted Member]

Facts 👆🏻
Or if they are just always seem to message with they are horny… or don’t actually try to get to know me

[GentlemanDom]

I find the opposite to be true. I get blocking someone who doesn't respect your boundaries. I've blocked quite a few people, subs and Doms

But ghosting after talking for a bit is so frustrating. Especially when I can see they're reading messages. Just say you're not interested and we can both move on. Why keep reading messages and not responding, especially since we seemed to have a good conversation before?

Just say ya found someone or push the 'not interested ' button or something. No idea what ya want if you don't communicate properly.

[Deleted Member]

It’s a maturity thing. You’re dogging bullets and don’t realize it.

[Sweetestsadist]

This!!! ☝️☝️☝️
Comments on this seem to keep disappearing. Weird.
Also when I've said I'm not interested, and the messages continue regardless.

[DB****]

I’ve only blocked those scammers that want to chat only, never meet, then want to borrow ***.

[Ki****]

People like the idea of you. An idealized notion they hold in their head from watching something or someone.
The idea of you is a turn on to me. I like your style, or the angle of your smile attracts me. Yet when it comes time to progress with a conversion, there are many obstacles.
Distractions, judgements, uncertainties abound.
Relationships are hard. Some people are different than we imagine, and this cannot be reconciled. So we move on to the next idea, in a fever dream of choice. Pushing our hopes and fantasies until we find that ideal, or one that clicks just enough. For the moment.
And the next distraction is upon us.
"Now that Bob Marley, he was a man of focus"

[Ki****]

Is it really you they blocked, or just themselves?

[Yi****]

There is a temptation slash immature response to "teach them a lesson" when we get slightly annoyed or disappointed online so we block them. There take that! You will miss me LoL. I dont do that but I ghost a fair number if I don't know what to talk about or lose interest

[Th****]

I lost my fwb almost six months ago and since then I've been applying myself online a little more.
I've been blocked here, sent a few short, non sexual messages to a woman I know and was promptly blocked (awkward...). Also happened to me recently on POF as well, met a very nice autistic woman, (I'm autistic and I've recently been medicated for ADHD which has blown my libido through the roof), we were doing good but.. blocked.. and of course with my mind working overtime I started to let it affect my sense of self worth which was the sign for me to get back to the isolation game where I'm strong. I'm almost better now but I still have to be careful not to fall into the first pile of red flags I trip up on.

[Jx****]

I mean…ghosting causes the exact same thing. Either way, you still have no idea what you did wrong, especially if the conversation precluding it was going well.

Bottom line is just communicate. If you’re not feeling it for whatever reason, be an adult and say so.

[Do****]

Never ghost just say not a good fit

[Vi****]

Ghosting is far ruder than blocking. Blocking is blunt. Obvious. It is an answer. It isn't polite, or nice, but it is an answer.

Ghosting leaves questions.

[Deleted Member]

I myself am pretty open to my boundaries pretty early. I’ve done this dance enough to know what happens if you disclose certain things to people you’ve never met in person.

If something wasn’t disclosed and it’s brought up I establish that boundary immediately. If it’s pressed and I have to defend it then the block button is used once I’ve decided enough is enough.

Once you’ve established a good conversation with someone it’s not a bad idea to basically say that you are enjoying the conversation thus far and wanted to let them know that boundaries are important. If at any time something is discussed they are not willing to talk about to simply say so and you’ll respect it; no questions asked.

People can be weird. Especially when you are dealing with people with less common kinks. Establish discretion and boundaries early on and if things go south and they block without warning then consider it a bully dodged. It’s not a reflection on you.

[Da****]

so true on here…

[ar****]

...humans......

[Do****]

I think people block because they just insecure with their own selves. perfect example I was talking to somebody on here and she was dominant I was willing to be submissive. however as soon as I said as long as you're not one of one of them *** hungry mistresses we're good. next thing I know I'm blocked. Just because I didn't want to feed her pockets she'd rather take me to the curb because she's just the *** hungry person she rather get a bag then get a person she rather steal from somebody which I believe that's what she was going to do instead of making connection

[Ye****]

Ghosting is just as bad! You deserve to get blocked, if you're someone who typically ghosts as well

[Va****]

I agree I get blocked simply because I won’t give it up or I’m making it too hard for the guy to get off and dip… I’m not a h*e I’m a person that what’s a real connection to my dom and a LTR but they not ready 😂

[ar****]

Yea that always kills the vibe

[Ha****]

I've got some theories lol. I would say never let the actions of others determine how you feel about yourself. If they're cool, they're cool. If they're not, they're missing out, right? In the realm of possibilities as to why people block, I would say, they could be fake, scammers, or catfishing and maybe got cold feet. Or maybe that's their ninja way of dealing with things. I guess some people deal with absolutes in drastic ways. Or maybe they found someone and want to block others for some reason. Some people will sabatoge themselves by blocking first as a power move, thinking they didn't have a chance with you in the first place, so they want you to feel the rejection instead. That's a few, even if you do get an answer, I don't know if I'd really believe it anyway