Ghosting VS Blocking

[goon2yu]

Since I'm feeling generous, I divulge what the Dating coaches don't know, or wont share about ghosting/blocking.

Some men "ghost" or block so they can lay pipe with another woman higher up the roster. If you allow that fella to bounce back, you're letting him know that you're ignorant of the GAME.

If Mr. Wonderful contacted you via dating site, and you found him attractive. No less than 30 to 40 other women also found him attractive. Some contacted him, while he pursued the rest. At this point in the story, women allow their emotions and excitement for a new man, blind them of basic male biological nature.

That dude is not ghosting because he's scared, intimidated, or can't manage his time. His decision is based on the woman he finds most attractive.

I realize many are gullible and assume men are seeking commitment and marriage. DO NOT believe that BS, most men (especially men considered high value/attractive) don't seek commitment and marriage until they're way into their forties. Women seek commitment, but many men under 40 are seeking the juice.

Dudes will obfu***e the truth while making plans for "the next one". I realize this might make some butt hurt, but as long as a fella can milk the cow for free, he'll continue to follow his lust and denigrate any semblance of commitment to a never arriving future date.

Follow the lyrics of Jennifer Hudson's song, and "Think Like A Man". That means you have to devise a strategy that helps a man fall into commitment. Which is extremely difficult to accomplish as long as you keep your legs open.

Plan accordingly.

[ey****]

5 hours ago, goon2yu said:

Since I'm feeling generous, I divulge what the Dating coaches don't know, or wont share about ghosting/blocking.

Everything you went on to post comes up on a lot of dating blogs

you haven't tapped into an inner secret

But still

5 hours ago, goon2yu said:

Some men "ghost" or block so they can lay pipe with another woman higher up the roster. If you allow that fella to bounce back, you're letting him know that you're ignorant of the GAME.

The term when someone reappears after a period of ghosting is called Zombie-ing. And there's a lot of reasons people do it which ties in with the reasons people ghosted in the first place

if the vanishing even was ghosting.  Which for me is one of the top issues. Like there's a world of difference between meeting someone frequently and thinking you're in a relationship with them and they suddenly block you on every platform - versus - "they stopped replying my messages and I thought it was going well" with a whole world in the middle.  

Usually for it to be ghosting there needs to have at least been some meetings, or strong agreements to meetings, and then suddenly no response for no apparent reason.  There are multiple reasons why this happens, and yeah - sometimes this can be because someone got what they wanted (typically sex) possibly on the promise on something they didn't want to, or couldn't, deliver (a relationship) and so now either can't immediately go back or feels they can get someone else (not necessarly perceived "better") -- messages going quiet without meetings/promising typically isn't ghosting

Anyhow, yeah - the zombie will typically return for many reasons.  That perhaps they had found someone else and that didn't work out so are now hoping to pick back up with someone else.  That they are bored/horny and see the other person as being an option. Perhaps knowing their approach is wrong, perhaps feeling it's just "NSA".  But, yeah, there needs to be a damn good reason on the return, unless the other person is happy simply being an option. Which if they were, they wouldn't have felt they were ghosted.

But, a lot of time comes to context.  There are people I've been messaging who went quiet and there's 100 reasons for it and if they came back and said they'd been busy with work, weighing up what they wanted, so on so forth - it's less of an issue. 

[Da****]

From my point of view it is totally a copout to ghost or block someone without at least letting them know what line they crossed or that they just are not interested. If you cant act like an adult and just so no thanks then you probably cant communicate well enough to have a true kink relationship.

[mr****]

This is why I don't even want to get to know people anymore because they never fail to ghost me regardless of how good we hit it off. Dating feels like there's no transaction made, Thers no meet up

[Ex****]

I think equally as bad to say not interested. If someone writes you can have the decency to say hello. I always do.

[su****]

I recently had to resort to blocking someone. Spent 4 years as his submissive. And everytime i tried to speak up for myself or set boundaries he gaslit me and finally I realized it was time to go when I tried to end things peacefully but he told me I wasnt allowed to leave until he was done with me. I spent another month trying to be "perfect" only to feel worse and worse and began to realize hed eventually make me choose between him and my husband. My husband introduced me to him. And my husband is the father of the child he bred into me. Id never choose him over my husband. Finally enough was enough. Id tried to leave 3 times and every time he convinced me to come back. The 4th time he told me I could never leave. So the 5th time I just blocked. Sometimes a person had tried to say what they need to and its fallen on deaf ears. Other times maybe they realize they need to set a boundary for themselves and by talking to the other person they'd be violating their own resolve. Honestly blocking should never need to happen. People shouldn't be creeps. And people should be open to listening to each other. But it does happen.


Other reasons.... I can't say. But even when justified blocking is a very ***ful way to find out you've been cast aside. In my case it hurt me to block him just as much as it probably hurt him to find out I was actually gone this time. Honestly he probably still thinks im gonna come back. But sometimes blocking is for the best.

[cu****]

Personally in that circumstance I feel either it’s something they are firm on and don’t foresee continuing but also, just say that, or it was an excuse. Only they really know and if you’re left without answers then just have to find a way to move forward without those and remember it’s a them problem with communication.

[Deleted Member]

i’ve blocked a lot of people who contacted me on here because they don’t read my profile and they asked me a lot of questions that are already answered in there if you just see a pretty face, but you’re not interested on what it’s actually is going on. It’s not gonna work for me and I’m not gonna waste my time you will end up blocked.

[Go****]

*** of communication I’d say.

People have been losing their ability to speak and their attention spans progressively since social media started taking over our lives.

Not everyone seems to have this atrophy.

But I see this too,
People blocking for no real reason when there was no conflict or disrespect.

Oh well,
They disqualified themselves 🤷🏽‍♂️

[wa****]

The thing is a person will make up their mind about you within at least the first seven seconds they meet you whether essentially it is online or in person especially in person and if your values differ from their values usually a conflict of interest May and to but at the end of the day if you've done everything you can to be respectful kind thoughtful caring listening you know all those positive qualities that the other side should be more than happy to find that you have that you're genuinely wanting to know them as a person as an individual not as someone that you can just hit it and quit it and just for them to ghost you two things one they are fully excuses and they are weak as an individual and sadly it was better off they do it then so you know what their true colors are now versus finding out down the line when it's a more critical moments versus now in the beginning when you get to know what kind of person they are and they can't even spend more than one minute of minimum of a few minutes to get to know you genuinely then they're not the ones for you cuz that is everybody values other people's opinions or those states that their former lovers or their previous past is what prevented them from moving on you should be like okay shouldn't you be working on that before anything like this so relationships are about work efforts honesty respect discipline communication and if you're not even willing to communicate with your partner stating that essentially they don't give no rats but about you because if they did they would have responded to you like they should have but unfortunately they did not and you will genuinely truly find someone that's there for you only for you you look back at this advice and go yeah I'm glad I heard that called old fashioned but it's worked for thousands of years I don't see it faltering now

[Me****]

It is hard even to find a someone just for talking. And when you do, you and them spend so much time just to ne ghosted or block. Why they even bother to talk if they are planing to ghost or block.