Ghosting VS Blocking

[goon2yu]

Since I'm feeling generous, I divulge what the Dating coaches don't know, or wont share about ghosting/blocking.

Some men "ghost" or block so they can lay pipe with another woman higher up the roster. If you allow that fella to bounce back, you're letting him know that you're ignorant of the GAME.

If Mr. Wonderful contacted you via dating site, and you found him attractive. No less than 30 to 40 other women also found him attractive. Some contacted him, while he pursued the rest. At this point in the story, women allow their emotions and excitement for a new man, blind them of basic male biological nature.

That dude is not ghosting because he's scared, intimidated, or can't manage his time. His decision is based on the woman he finds most attractive.

I realize many are gullible and assume men are seeking commitment and marriage. DO NOT believe that BS, most men (especially men considered high value/attractive) don't seek commitment and marriage until they're way into their forties. Women seek commitment, but many men under 40 are seeking the juice.

Dudes will obfu***e the truth while making plans for "the next one". I realize this might make some butt hurt, but as long as a fella can milk the cow for free, he'll continue to follow his lust and denigrate any semblance of commitment to a never arriving future date.

Follow the lyrics of Jennifer Hudson's song, and "Think Like A Man". That means you have to devise a strategy that helps a man fall into commitment. Which is extremely difficult to accomplish as long as you keep your legs open.

Plan accordingly.

[ey****]

5 hours ago, goon2yu said:

Since I'm feeling generous, I divulge what the Dating coaches don't know, or wont share about ghosting/blocking.

Everything you went on to post comes up on a lot of dating blogs

you haven't tapped into an inner secret

But still

5 hours ago, goon2yu said:

Some men "ghost" or block so they can lay pipe with another woman higher up the roster. If you allow that fella to bounce back, you're letting him know that you're ignorant of the GAME.

The term when someone reappears after a period of ghosting is called Zombie-ing. And there's a lot of reasons people do it which ties in with the reasons people ghosted in the first place

if the vanishing even was ghosting.  Which for me is one of the top issues. Like there's a world of difference between meeting someone frequently and thinking you're in a relationship with them and they suddenly block you on every platform - versus - "they stopped replying my messages and I thought it was going well" with a whole world in the middle.  

Usually for it to be ghosting there needs to have at least been some meetings, or strong agreements to meetings, and then suddenly no response for no apparent reason.  There are multiple reasons why this happens, and yeah - sometimes this can be because someone got what they wanted (typically sex) possibly on the promise on something they didn't want to, or couldn't, deliver (a relationship) and so now either can't immediately go back or feels they can get someone else (not necessarly perceived "better") -- messages going quiet without meetings/promising typically isn't ghosting

Anyhow, yeah - the zombie will typically return for many reasons.  That perhaps they had found someone else and that didn't work out so are now hoping to pick back up with someone else.  That they are bored/horny and see the other person as being an option. Perhaps knowing their approach is wrong, perhaps feeling it's just "NSA".  But, yeah, there needs to be a damn good reason on the return, unless the other person is happy simply being an option. Which if they were, they wouldn't have felt they were ghosted.

But, a lot of time comes to context.  There are people I've been messaging who went quiet and there's 100 reasons for it and if they came back and said they'd been busy with work, weighing up what they wanted, so on so forth - it's less of an issue. 

[Da****]

From my point of view it is totally a copout to ghost or block someone without at least letting them know what line they crossed or that they just are not interested. If you cant act like an adult and just so no thanks then you probably cant communicate well enough to have a true kink relationship.

[do****]

This is why I don't even want to get to know people anymore because they never fail to ghost me regardless of how good we hit it off. Dating feels like there's no transaction made, Thers no meet up