The flame for submission, and the spark to earn it.

[Fl****]

I've grown comfortable in my masculinity. I am someone with affinities and aspirations regardless of how society reacts to them. I knew sometime around my late ***age life that I was deeply interested in submitting to a strong female presence. Whether thats due to how I was nutured or my nature. I strive to serve. But now that strive is infecting the aformentioned affinities and aspirations. I want whoever I submit to, to truly feel a sense of pride knowing that someone like me chooses to so needily, desperately, bashfully intensely submit to whoever my dom may be.

I want her to be addicted to what I relinquish to her. That the strength I yield unto her empowers her so completely and totally, that the show I put on is one she never wants to look away from.

All that being said. It has been 2 weeks since I started running. My goal is to run a mile every other day, and to lift twice a week. The desire to submit has now further kindled my passion for self improvement.

Have ya'll had a similar experience? Either as a submissive trying to impress your dominant or even vise versa? Cheers friends.

[Odd-1086]

Wonderfully said. I wish you the best. I try to keep slim, kayaking, bike riding, hiking. One taste of dominated obedience is all it took to be hooked. Too bad I can't find someone who wants it.

[Bl****]

I feel the exact same way and there no shame in it at all. My first real gf was a dominatrix who got me into this I was 23 she was 47. She trained me well. As a submissive to dominant, strong women. More and more women are getting into it. They love the power. Especially the cuter you are lol.

[Bl****]

Also, yes I have lol! I find myself in such great shape so I can be prepared for when I meet another dominant woman. I find myself being more and more submissive… it can be a deep rabbit role. Before you know it you’re cross dressing and OMG haha.

[Si****]

3 hours ago, FlemishGiant said:

I've grown comfortable in my masculinity. I am someone with affinities and aspirations regardless of how society reacts to them. I knew sometime around my late ***age life that I was deeply interested in submitting to a strong female presence. Whether thats due to how I was nutured or my nature. I strive to serve. But now that strive is infecting the aformentioned affinities and aspirations. I want whoever I submit to, to truly feel a sense of pride knowing that someone like me chooses to so needily, desperately, bashfully intensely submit to whoever my dom may be.

I want her to be addicted to what I relinquish to her. That the strength I yield unto her empowers her so completely and totally, that the show I put on is one she never wants to look away from.

All that being said. It has been 2 weeks since I started running. My goal is to run a mile every other day, and to lift twice a week. The desire to submit has now further kindled my passion for self improvement.

Have ya'll had a similar experience? Either as a submissive trying to impress your dominant or even vise versa? Cheers friends.

I wish I could upvote this twice!  This is just my own personal sub brain's opinion... Once you begin to judge your own happiness, existence, and worth by your Dom's/Owner's happiness, approval, and satisfaction, you have crossed the Rubicon.  You are well on your way to becoming an authentic, often unfulfilled, selfless submissive.  Congratulations!  You are now signed up for an arduous, introspective, often confusing, lifelong journey.  Because I know your plight, I'm both apologetic and excited for you!  Quick pro tip, learn to enjoy the twisted irony the cards you've been dealt bring.

Here's what comes next... Now, and increasingly in the future, it will be much more difficult for you to find that perfect Dom/Owner that can inspire, focus, and motivate your entire self (mind, body, and soul).  Your past experience and critical thought will begin to reject Doms that don't truly see all of you, in its entirety; even the parts you don't see.  The right Dom, for you, should be able to see what you cannot.  Knowing this, you will begin to crave and even require, perhaps without recognizing at first, the presence of true romance, sensitivity, and understanding in your future Dom/Owner.  The idea or notion of random, transactional acts of submission will lose its luster, no longer bringing you the same joy as it did before.  You might still be able to, and likely even enjoy, playtime or scenes here and there, but increasingly, this will leave you feeling depressed, baffled, and vapid.  At this time, you fully realize you now require deep, profound, genuine connection to motivate your true submission.  Mixed, bittersweet emotions will increasingly flood your brain.  You might crave living with constant sacrifice such as sadness, ***, celibacy, and so much more; all for your future, unknown Dom/Owner.  Now, the entire, cumbersome weight of the dynamic and all that it includes, will be your motivation, focus, and satisfaction; a far more wholesome, authentic, inherent submission will develop within you.  From this point forward, you'll only be able to find genuine, authentic, true happiness from the ownership of Doms that are willing, able, and excited to see, nurture, and control all of you; to know, appreciate, and love all of you... your flaws, imperfections and untapped potential.

Congratulations, fellow sub, you have leveled up!  Your heart has just enlisted your brain in the most arduous, obstacle ridden, perhaps never ending, journey of self discovery you've ever embarked upon.  The prize is genuine, faerie tale, happily-ever-after, type happiness.  That may sound absolutely grand to you, but from someone who's been on this journey for almost two decades, it very well may never end.  Further, it will likely take your mind years of unhappiness for it to accept this reality.  There will suredly be points where you'll reject all of these newly discovered "requirements" needed for your submission.  You'll try your best to regress to the old, familiar, transactional forms of submission to receive attention from Doms/Owners.  This is purely your brain's survival skils kicking in, itching for fulfillment.  As more and more time goes by, you will realize, and reluctantly accept, there is perhaps no light at the end of this tunnel.  Once this realization is accepted, and eventually embraced, a whole new level of submission and sacrifice will dawn on you.  This is when things go from optimistically bleak to realistically devastating; there's no sugar coating this.  Your brain will probably take years to develop the coping skills necessary to live a fulfilling life while knowing you will NEVER find your Owner, and true happiness.  It will take years to come to peace with live your life lost, knowing you are never to be found; years to accept you will never find your true calling, and your potential will remain, forever untapped.

This is where my advice leaves you, and where most subs remain...  Living a romantically unfulfilling, forever meaningless, almost vapid life; forever yearning to be seen, appreciated, and loved; devoid of connection, emotion, and true happiness.  Craving submission is a lifelong sentence in solitude, self awareness, and overall, depression.  Congratulations, you're well on your way.  Good luck...

[Odd-1086]

Thanks, I think

[Fl****]

26 minutes ago, SinfulAlphaSub said:

I wish I could upvote this twice!  This is just my own personal sub brain's opinion... Once you begin to judge your own happiness, existence, and worth by your Dom's/Owner's happiness, approval, and satisfaction, you have crossed the Rubicon.  You are well on your way to becoming an authentic, often unfulfilled, selfless submissive.  Congratulations!  You are now signed up for an arduous, introspective, often confusing, lifelong journey.  Because I know your plight, I'm both apologetic and excited for you!  Quick pro tip, learn to enjoy the twisted irony the cards you've been dealt bring.

Here's what comes next... Now, and increasingly in the future, it will be much more difficult for you to find that perfect Dom/Owner that can inspire, focus, and motivate your entire self (mind, body, and soul).  Your past experience and critical thought will begin to reject Doms that don't truly see all of you, in its entirety; even the parts you don't see.  The right Dom, for you, should be able to see what you cannot.  Knowing this, you will begin to crave and even require, perhaps without recognizing at first, the presence of true romance, sensitivity, and understanding in your future Dom/Owner.  The idea or notion of random, transactional acts of submission will lose its luster, no longer bringing you the same joy as it did before.  You might still be able to, and likely even enjoy, playtime or scenes here and there, but increasingly, this will leave you feeling depressed, baffled, and vapid.  At this time, you fully realize you now require deep, profound, genuine connection to motivate your true submission.  Mixed, bittersweet emotions will increasingly flood your brain.  You might crave living with constant sacrifice such as sadness, ***, celibacy, and so much more; all for your future, unknown Dom/Owner.  Now, the entire, cumbersome weight of the dynamic and all that it includes, will be your motivation, focus, and satisfaction; a far more wholesome, authentic, inherent submission will develop within you.  From this point forward, you'll only be able to find genuine, authentic, true happiness from the ownership of Doms that are willing, able, and excited to see, nurture, and control all of you; to know, appreciate, and love all of you... your flaws, imperfections and untapped potential.

Congratulations, fellow sub, you have leveled up!  Your heart has just enlisted your brain in the most arduous, obstacle ridden, perhaps never ending, journey of self discovery you've ever embarked upon.  The prize is genuine, faerie tale, happily-ever-after, type happiness.  That may sound absolutely grand to you, but from someone who's been on this journey for almost two decades, it very well may never end.  Further, it will likely take your mind years of unhappiness for it to accept this reality.  There will suredly be points where you'll reject all of these newly discovered "requirements" needed for your submission.  You'll try your best to regress to the old, familiar, transactional forms of submission to receive attention from Doms/Owners.  This is purely your brain's survival skils kicking in, itching for fulfillment.  As more and more time goes by, you will realize, and reluctantly accept, there is perhaps no light at the end of this tunnel.  Once this realization is accepted, and eventually embraced, a whole new level of submission and sacrifice will dawn on you.  This is when things go from optimistically bleak to realistically devastating; there's no sugar coating this.  Your brain will probably take years to develop the coping skills necessary to live a fulfilling life while knowing you will NEVER find your Owner, and true happiness.  It will take years to come to peace with live your life lost, knowing you are never to be found; years to accept you will never find your true calling, and your potential will remain, forever untapped.

This is where my advice leaves you, and where most subs remain...  Living a romantically unfulfilling, forever meaningless, almost vapid life; forever yearning to be seen, appreciated, and loved; devoid of connection, emotion, and true happiness.  Craving submission is a lifelong sentence in solitude, self awareness, and overall, depression.  Congratulations, you're well on your way.  Good luck...

I am truly honored that you found the time to open your soul and rummage around the depths of it to offer me such wisdom riddled with warning, promise, and empathy. My goal in making these topics is to educate myself and better understand the community and my place in it. This may very well be the deepest and most hydrating well of knowledge i've come across yet.

I have many questions yet worded, both for myself and for myself and for whomever choses to be with me. The way I see it. It is a truly beautiful experience being human. Regardless of labels or kinks, the innate desire to march forward despite hardship and to do so with your ***rs is a hopeful prospect indeed. To do so with someone your soul truly sings with is a blessing.

I am still left reeling after a recent absolutely abhorrent breakup that left me both mentally, physically, and financially devistated. I know I am on the right path and making progress to recovering. This is just another step on doing so.

I take this, even the notion of being here. As a way of accepting my own desires. The desire to serve, and the aknowledgement that I'd like my future partner to be someone who wants to be served. If I feel like I havent earned that right yet then it will continue to push me toward the things I do want.

I was of the mind that I will continue to treat people as people. To continue to be me. But if a woman yearns for my relinquishment equally as I yearn to give it. Then truly a beautiful thing can be experienced.

It may take time, but nevertheless. Im happy I was able to do so. Even if it is overwhelmingly terrifying being being part of such a niche and *** demographic, I remain optimistic. Cheers to you friend, good luck on your journey as well. May the seeds of our efforts bear delicious fruit for us and our people to enjoy!