Hypocrisy and double standards

[mi****]

I dont really feel like the consent thing is a double standard or hypocrisy.
Like the dom may be in charge of the scene, but both People consent or its not ok

[Co****]

It's not hypocritical at all? The consent does flow both ways, you can revoke it at any point and cease being a dom whenever you like, just as she can cease being a sub whenever she likes. You both hold equal *actual* power, seperate from the scene or play. Why does this bother you, and why do you find it hypocritical?

[Wi****]

I understand

[Ba****]

13 hours ago, Cowboyleone said:

It's not hypocritical at all? The consent does flow both ways, you can revoke it at any point and cease being a dom whenever you like, just as she can cease being a sub whenever she likes. You both hold equal *actual* power, seperate from the scene or play. Why does this bother you, and why do you find it hypocritical?

Wait really??

First of yes consent flows both way, that was part of the point and you really can’t see how it’s hypocritical too happily have someone else hold all responsibility while retroactively claiming all power using one persons ability to consent as the justification??

Second if you actually can just „cease being a dom/sub whenever you like“ please do so, my identity is not your fashion

[wi****]

First let me say that I am talking about ANY relationship. I was married for a long time to my, now ex. I was with a lot of other people of the opposite gender, for a long time. I was sleeping around with anybody. My ex-wife was focused on her career. I never thought about it. Now with my new wife, we r in the lifestyle and I have begun to think about it....and it slightly bothers me. Me with other women is fine, but her with another guy is a different thing, to me. My ex drilled it into my head that sex=love, but I have found that it doesn't need to be. I need to teach myself that sex does not =love. I now want us to have sex with others.

[pa****]

Sexuality it takes 2 to Tango, whatever the dance the 2 decide on, communication is paramount to life, and being honest with your partner is the ultimate experience to share with another intimacy elevated to the highest experience 2 souls can experience together, to be Loved and accepted unconditionally not just a part All whether you or partner agree etc, you still unconditionally love and accept them for who they are not who u want them to be, I have that and it's awesome

[ba****]

February 28, wbl51265 said:

I have been told by a few Dom’s I as the sub hold the “true” power in the relationship because I can end everything at any time.

I disagree, here’s why. As a sub I have a safe word to end the interaction true, however my Dom has the same. He (in my case) can end everything at any point just as easily as I can, if not easier. The only real difference is who has to “request” the end via a safe word. Which is the sub, the Dom can just say we’re done and everything stops, whereas the sub can’t. Also it is up to the Dom as to whether the sub is released from bindings.

I know there are going to be people who say using the safe word isn’t requesting the play to end. I would challenge you to think of the number of boundaries that get ignored. The number of people who have said no and not been heard.

In my opinion it is the Dom, Master, Owner, Rigger, Tamer, Hunter who has the power. It is 💯 up to them if the encounter is going to end when we say we want it to.

Soooooo ***.

[ba****]

Subs do have the power. If you're not interested in earning that consent, damn you're just *******.

[xx****]

6 hours ago, babygirlBites said:

Subs do have the power. If you're not interested in earning that consent, damn you're just *******.

Consent was given years ago its not about consent its about double standards equality and compromise does the sub set all rules all boundaries or is a give and take thats the point of the post not consent theres no relationship without consent plain and simple its about the particulars of how the dynamic plays out