What kind of man do you need?

[Fu****]

The “I don’t need a man” culture has stripped our world of the masculinity it needs. Many women believe strength means doing everything alone and that needing a man makes them weak.

However.

Women do need men. Not to complete them, not to save them, but to stand with them.

A woman needs a man for balance, to be challenged, for steadiness, and to build beside them.
A woman needs a man who doesn't run from responsibility, but leans into it.
A man who doesn’t confuse bravado with strength, or silence with stoicism.
A man who knows who they are, what they stand for, and how to lead with integrity.
A man who teaches, mentors and guides while actively listening, caring, and forging trust.
A man who protects without controlling, provides without boasting, loves without hesitation and stands tall without tearing anyone else down.
The kind of man who makes the people around them feel safer.
The kind of man who brings order into chaos, direction into confusion, and calm into places where emotions run high.

If you are a woman, do you need this type of man?

[Su****]

I need a man who cries and whines and begs and I want him to be on a leash and grovel at my feet

[mi****]

I dooooo 😩

[No****]

You can’t say a woman needs… Women need different things from different men

[Rainydaye88]

Yeah. This is a very myopic viewpoint. Glad you are at least attempting to ask what women want, but you are asking through a lense of how you think it should be so it definitely doesn't seem genuine. If someone views themselves as masculine, then what a woman does wouldn't have "hurt" your masculinity.

[Deleted Member]

Women are not responsible for ruining masculinity LOLOLOL
This piece, certainly that first paragraph, carries an air that says to Me OP doesn't fully understand therefore is unable to respect the weight of the what and why the world is / men are FINALLY starting to take notice of Women's agency, autonomy.

The rest of the words describe HUMAN attributes which are desirable for any and all to both possess and seek in others.

We ALL *"need"* ALL KINDS of Humans.

Also, cishetnorm is not required by nor to all humans let alone all Women.

[Fu****]

10 minutes ago, Rainydaye88 said:

Yeah. This is a very myopic viewpoint. Glad you are at least attempting to ask what women want, but you are asking through a lense of how you think it should be so it definitely doesn't seem genuine. If someone views themselves as masculine, then what a woman does wouldn't have "hurt" your masculinity.

U can’t read my mind to assume that it isn’t genuine ? And there is nothing in there about hurting my masculinity 😂 u misinterpreting what’s writing is your problem not mine

[Rainydaye88]

8 minutes ago, FunSin said:

U can’t read my mind to assume that it isn’t genuine ? And there is nothing in there about hurting my masculinity 😂 u misinterpreting what’s writing is your problem not mine

The "you" wasn't directed to you personally. It's general ideal. If any man who says they are feeling less masculine because of what a woman is doing, then how is it a woman's fault for that man to be insecure in themselves? If they are true to themselves, they would just be.
Its common English. Not a personal attack.

[de****]

This is a perfect summary appropriate for any Standard- dating app. All sounds super vanilla, what you describe to cravers here. Fantasy lovers here. Fantasy is life here. Over 90% of users in here crave the pendulum of *** vs. pleasure. Masculinity is out the door there

[jinxed]

I wouldn't say that I need a man, the verb doesn't work for me. I would love to meet a man who can stay steady. Even if craziness rules for a while. Someone who can simply relax into the time together. Without thinking he needs to protect me or lead me or change me. Now that would be something.. 

[de****]

P**n vs pleasure*

[ra****]

No, that sounds like thee most boring man with way too much time on his hands.

[ra****]

also needing a man, nobody needs a man especially a woman. I didn’t even look to see if you were a straight white man, but I have a feeling you’re a straight white man.

[AKA_Copper]

I do love when a man tells me what it is I 'need' 🙄

Anyway.

We're now responsible for stripping the world of masculinity, who knew we were so powerful, powerful enough to strip an entire gender identity???

If a man’s definition of masculinity is dependent on women needing him, it's not masculinity, it’s anxiety over job security.
Don’t worry though, the world isn’t running out of masculinity. It’s just running out of the kind that requires applause for basic decency.

[be****]

I’m gonna say this right now…I know what I bring to the table so trust and believe when I say I’m not afraid to eat alone. That being said, my little is on the same page as I am when it comes to what she wants and not only that, I understand her on a level that most (thankfully) never will as we have a lot of shared life experiences.

[de****]

I can tell my former woman what she needs because she felt she needed to cheat in a monogamous relationship. Have someone all lined out bail, to leave me in the absolutel dust. The irony of it all is I support the BDSM lifestyle, and easily could have spoiled her in every way in that department. She just didn’t open her big f*t mouth and roast beef p***y and lay it out for a degener*te down grade BOY to “put her in her place”

Jokes on her,I haven’t even told her I know everything so she thinks she’s just lil miss kinky innocent in every way. Grass is ALWAYSgreener on the other side right? Just another typical H*e ho ho phase for her. What a waste of space

Oh by the way I was that one constantly good, caring listening boyfriend who always carved out time and wanted to make her happy in every day. B**ch

[ra****]

3 minutes ago, bearded_heathen said:

I’m gonna say this right now…I know what I bring to the table so trust and believe when I say I’m not afraid to eat alone. That being said, my little is on the same page as I am when it comes to what she wants and not only that, I understand her on a level that most (thankfully) never will as we have a lot of shared life experiences.

What does this have to do with the topic? Even as this is not my topic I really want to know what it has to do with the topic spell it out for us.

[de****]

The boy she “met” was fcking on here

[ra****]

4 minutes ago, deerfield422740 said:

I can tell my former woman what she needs because she felt she needed to cheat in a monogamous relationship. Have someone all lined out bail, to leave me in the absolutel dust. The irony of it all is I support the BDSM lifestyle, and easily could have spoiled her in every way in that department. She just didn’t open her big f*t mouth and roast beef p***y and lay it out for a degener*te down grade BOY to “put her in her place”

Jokes on her,I haven’t even told her I know everything so she thinks she’s just lil miss kinky innocent in every way. Grass is ALWAYSgreener on the other side right? Just another typical H*e ho ho phase for her. What a waste of space

Oh by the way I was that one constantly good, caring listening boyfriend who always carved out time and wanted to make her happy in every day. B**ch

From the sounds of it, she was escaping…

[de****]

Rainbowcat, escaping in what way?

[de****]

I was the opposite of over controlling and manipulative. I was as cool cucumber as it got

[Sw****]

I had this conversation with a friend on the weekend 😂

Thing is back in the day, women needed men to provide for them cos they couldn’t work.
Then times changed.
Nowadays women are all for equality etc which is a whole other can of worms that I’m not going to go into, but basically long story short, women don’t NEED men in their lives any more.
Nowadays it’s all about CHOOSING to have a man in a woman’s life because he brings something to the dynamic. This means he has to be beneficial to her life. Otherwise she’s more than happy and more than capable of staying single.
If a man doesn’t bring anything but chaos and drama to the dynamic then she’s not interested.
And due to the way society has moved forward, boys are being brought up differently (girls are too!).

In my very personal unpopular opinion, a real Man who has his shit together and will actually bring something positive to the dynamic of a couple is extremely rare and hard to come by.

But there’s quite a lot of psychologists and whatnot who have commented on this recently. 😅

[Fu****]

3 minutes ago, Sweety-953913 said:

I had this conversation with a friend on the weekend 😂

Thing is back in the day, women needed men to provide for them cos they couldn’t work.
Then times changed.
Nowadays women are all for equality etc which is a whole other can of worms that I’m not going to go into, but basically long story short, women don’t NEED men in their lives any more.
Nowadays it’s all about CHOOSING to have a man in a woman’s life because he brings something to the dynamic. This means he has to be beneficial to her life. Otherwise she’s more than happy and more than capable of staying single.
If a man doesn’t bring anything but chaos and drama to the dynamic then she’s not interested.
And due to the way society has moved forward, boys are being brought up differently (girls are too!).

In my very personal unpopular opinion, a real Man who has his shit together and will actually bring something positive to the dynamic of a couple is extremely rare and hard to come by.

But there’s quite a lot of psychologists and whatnot who have commented on this recently. 😅

I completely agree with you on all fronts. There are too many chiefs and not enough Indians in the comments 😅 but yeah, I mean nobody really needs anybody anymore, you actually want them, and what the 2 of you got to offer and provide one another, wether that support is emotionally, mentally, financially, or just even brain stimulating

[de****]

@sweety well put. Honest to god I can say I was one of the rare raised to be one of the really good egg men out there. So why did my woman of a year a half venture onto this app for a lo*er whose life from day 1 has been centered around this lifestyle, never wanting anything real and just making use of partner after partner.. and she wonders how she contracted (a more minor but flare-up possible) doing this in the past. I bet there are PLENTY on here who don’t disclose what they carry disease-wise bc they are boys and heartless and just want the immediate next pleasure. makes zero sense, totally abandoned everything positive and futuristic promising we had created together

[DY****]

What a gross take. Imagine a man telling any woman what it is that they need. This is exactly the problem, you don’t listen. You just reckon you already know and, clearly, that isn’t working out for a very large portion of you. Not only do women not need men any more, we don’t even want most of you. And it’s all your own fault