Play Partner vs Life Partner

[Ve****]

Women here are hyper-sensitive and accutely irritated because pathetic and thirsty losers have bombarded them to death to such an extent that so many of them have entirely lost their sense of humor and take everything, completely, literally. It’s understandable because fatigue from overstimulation has set in but I find most women here don’t even realize there are settings to filter out messages and to set a higher bar to avoid the lowest common denominators.

I’m saying that regardless of what women actually want, they have little to no patience in discovering it and are their own worst enemies on here because they can’t intuit authenticity on apps.

[an****]

I don’t know there seems to be 2 extremes on both sides, women and men some people just want to casual hard-core or like me want kind of a relationship and bonding and loyalty as well as the kinky side I think like with all Internet dating it just takes the search and there’s plenty of other apps that are less like this, but of course you have more scams and bots to go through. I’ve only been single for four months, but in those four months I’ve seen so many scammers and so many bots and so so much fake iv been literally thinking the Internet it’s not the place to date or find somebody because it is become too toxic

[an****]

I think a majority of the population has become too narcissistic or toxic due to unhealed childhood traumas, broken attachment styles, and unwillingness to do ones own shadowwork and making the ***, conscious. Emotionally immature parents have passed on their toxic traits and society has taught us that men arent supposed to show their emotions so they are not taught how to express them either. Its creating a very dangerous loop and pyramid effect on their *** who then grow up and repeat the same traumas in the generations that follow. And it all makes my head and my heart hurt.

[Au****]

Sunday at 03:02 PM, Barthold said:

Well i got this app with absolutely no expectations aside from assuming i’d be banned after a month so my experience here has been almost unnervingly positive^^

But i found that in practice this seems to be more of a janky forum app with integrated event calendar and location registry and for that it’s not bad

And in general i’m looking for something more long term whether that’ll be a romance, bromance or something in between is something “we” can decide as things go on

Ps “a southern woman living in the west“ ey?? So you are australinan and live in ireland?? Also i‘m not even sure what a „western man“ is supposed to be in this context, and while i should count as one that like a dozen levels of specificity too far removed from my personal identity for my „purpose“ to be representative of anything, at that scale even dropping the „western“ or narrowing it down by continent doesn’t really change much

KittyMath’s reference to western men is men from the west coast of the U.S. I believe she’s referring to the sort of independent, pioneer spirit here that doesn’t align with the level of civility one would usually experience when engaging a southern gentleman.

[je****]

16 hours ago, anonfor2day said:

I think a majority of the population has become too narcissistic or toxic due to unhealed childhood traumas, broken attachment styles, and unwillingness to do ones own shadowwork and making the ***, conscious. Emotionally immature parents have passed on their toxic traits and society has taught us that men arent supposed to show their emotions so they are not taught how to express them either. Its creating a very dangerous loop and pyramid effect on their *** who then grow up and repeat the same traumas in the generations that follow. And it all makes my head and my heart hurt.

i agree with this. because also there is no true consensus on talking and dating for some people. like some people believe in loyalty in that stage while others don't. i think it just boils down to communication or the lack there of.

[Ba****]

4 hours ago, Auragon said:

KittyMath’s reference to western men is men from the west coast of the U.S. I believe she’s referring to the sort of independent, pioneer spirit here that doesn’t align with the level of civility one would usually experience when engaging a southern gentleman.

Ah ok

I assumed it was used like the usual umbrella term for counties with majority of european descent
Which wouldn’t be a much more specific descriptor than just saying men in this context

Instead it was just the usual „american assuming to be the standard in a international conversation“
So i was wrong about counting as western man in this context, as a german i‘m just his third cousin or something

[Di****]

Well sounds like you do need a man, not only to maintain your needs but wants. I do that stuff for a woman I want care for or if being honest just wants to pay for it all with love and care and other stuff… lol . Let’s be real. I am still a guy I have needs and I can take care of your wants just like any man if you take care of their needs that’s being married, but who’s trying to get married here I’m just trying to get my freak on girl.

[Ar****]

For me a LTR on this app is finding the right Dom to play longer term with. All connections are a relationship of sorts, long or short.
I had a FWB over the course of 13 years, so that would class as long term 😁

[Ja****]

Looking for a play partner

[Vy****]

For me its both. I have some play partners that I'm in a F+ relationship with. I do not mind having more but I'm also happy if I happen to find a life partner. That is certainly a lot less likely though.