Edging Techniques & Advice(?)

[Gentle_Femdom]

A significant kink of mine is Edging: both on the giving and receiving ends.

 

I'm an amorous person (more sexually charged than my partner, which is okay for us) and my craving him at nearly all times is like an ongoing Edge that never quits. It's lovely. 

When my partner Edges me in sessions, it drives me wild in such a positive way... Mmm.

On the same thread of thought, giving him pleasure turns me on like no other (literally almost more than actual climaxes). So, in lieu of this, I want to learn how to Edge him with reciprocating mind-/body-blowing experiences that he gives me.

 

I've watched a lot of women Edge their male partners via porn, but much of how they do things won't work for us because both me & my partner are plus size people.

For instance: (1) me straddling him to Edge his cock isn't as effortless for us as people who are slender can do it; (2) his cock is a perfect fit for me (1,000% satisfied with his physicality) but it isn't as long as those in porn, so a lot of their 2 hands techniques aren't easy for me to complete; (3) I'm a Gentle Femdom, so many of their techniques involve too much *** to give either me/my partner pleasure. 

 

Now, to get to the crux of my question... How do I learn his signals of when he's getting close to the edge versus when he's at the point of no return? My partner isn't really a verbal lover (unlike me, I'm loud) so it's difficult for me to know the difference of him getting tense in general pleasure vs getting tense in climax.

Any tips? Should I make him vocalise more? We have words in place but he forgets to use them... literally, not in the "faking to forget" sort of way to control his climax... but because he's simply not a vocal lover.

 

All-in-all, my ultimate goal is to Edge him extremely close, several times in a session, until he practically begs for release. We've discussed me giving him "ruined" orgasms and he's willing to try with me, but I end up always failing in the attempts because I can't read his signals.

 

Thanks for reading my question(s) to the end! I hope you're safe and well <3

[Wo****]

17 hours ago, Gentle_Femdom said:

A significant kink of mine is Edging: both on the giving and receiving ends.

 

I'm an amorous person (more sexually charged than my partner, which is okay for us) and my craving him at nearly all times is like an ongoing Edge that never quits. It's lovely. 

When my partner Edges me in sessions, it drives me wild in such a positive way... Mmm.

On the same thread of thought, giving him pleasure turns me on like no other (literally almost more than actual climaxes). So, in lieu of this, I want to learn how to Edge him with reciprocating mind-/body-blowing experiences that he gives me.

 

I've watched a lot of women Edge their male partners via porn, but much of how they do things won't work for us because both me & my partner are plus size people.

For instance: (1) me straddling him to Edge his cock isn't as effortless for us as people who are slender can do it; (2) his cock is a perfect fit for me (1,000% satisfied with his physicality) but it isn't as long as those in porn, so a lot of their 2 hands techniques aren't easy for me to complete; (3) I'm a Gentle Femdom, so many of their techniques involve too much *** to give either me/my partner pleasure. 

 

Now, to get to the crux of my question... How do I learn his signals of when he's getting close to the edge versus when he's at the point of no return? My partner isn't really a verbal lover (unlike me, I'm loud) so it's difficult for me to know the difference of him getting tense in general pleasure vs getting tense in climax.

Any tips? Should I make him vocalise more? We have words in place but he forgets to use them... literally, not in the "faking to forget" sort of way to control his climax... but because he's simply not a vocal lover.

 

All-in-all, my ultimate goal is to Edge him extremely close, several times in a session, until he practically begs for release. We've discussed me giving him "ruined" orgasms and he's willing to try with me, but I end up always failing in the attempts because I can't read his signals.

 

Thanks for reading my question(s) to the end! I hope you're safe and well <3

My mate has medically induced ED which hampers his erection but he can, and does, orgasm.

I don't know how you both feel about anal play but a finger teasing his anus, and gently fingering his prostate gland results in the most delicious, sensual, slow "ruined" orgasms. It's not uncommon for him to have two, sometimes three.

 

As for learning his signals, or getting him to communicate verbally. Maybe he could tap you in a certain place or way? Or hold a clicker and click when he's close to orgasm.

 

 

🐥🙏

Edited March 8, 2021 by Bounty
Clarification

[Th****]

I'm trying to learn this too! I either stop because I think he's lose and he's not or I over do it lol! 😂

[Gentle_Femdom]

@Bounty,

At this point in our relationship (of 3.5 years) we are not quite ready to include prostate massage into our sex life. It is definitely something that we both show great interest in, but we're holding that back for when we want to spice-up our sex-life down the road. Nevertheless, I'm intrigued by prostate massage/play and am willing to learn all I can about it. 

 

5 hours ago, Bounty said:

As for learning his signals, or getting him to communicate verbally. Maybe he could tap you in a certain place or way? Or hold a clicker and click when he's close to orgasm.

These are wonderful suggestions! He can continue to be non-verbal but provide me signals. *giggles excitedly

[Undergruntled]

Id be interested to hear how it goes. I'm new to trying this

[Deleted Member]

As they said, the easiest way is to communicate. And it doesn't have to be anything direct, it can be a certain facial expression .. my wife always knows when I'm really close just by looking at my expression. But of course, you can define a code or a touch, as long as it's natural for you both.

Other body signals are more subjective and individual, like a shiver, a contraction, a drop of precum .. or the cock receding like a bow just before shooting an arrow. Things you can learn through playing =)

Edited March 10, 2021 by Deleted Member

[cincy11]

My wife takes me to the edge multiple times a day, but never lets me cum.  She sits on the edge of the bed, lays back, and pulls her knees up to her chest.  I get on my knees between her legs and lick her pussy and ass, then I stand up and rub little willy on her pussy and ass.  When I am ready to cum she tells me to stop, keeping me horney and on edge 24 hours a day.  It's great.

[Deleted Member]

wow, that sounds superb.
i've learned to look at my partner's toes (yes really). when they begin to flex in a certain way, i know he is close, and its then that the activity slows or stops.  i can often tell by the pelvic thrusts too, pushing higher and harder as he/we get closer.   it's important to not expect everyone to be the same, and to play a lot to find out what works but i have been able to make him climax three times after a long edging session - he had amazingly strong body convulsions that took me by surprise for sure !
play and practice and repeat many times

[BadDesires]

In my experience the best tip I can give anyone is to take it slow and leave him wanting more.
Find ways to stimulate the mind for a much deeper intense experience.
I've always thought "Please" is a good simple verbal cue when I think I'm close. This allows a dominant partner to interpret this anyway they choose. Either stop to prevent orgasm or continue to climax.
Setting stroke limits and making them beg for more is another good way to help build things up slowly. Being denied also makes me more desperate to feel the edge making it much easier to get into that zone with minimal effort.

[Cimky]

This feed is a bit on the old side but I felt to add my 2c hopefully it can help someone. Paying attention to his body will be your best clue. For the 1st round let him cum do this with a simple hand job what ever way works best for you both dont try to copy what they do on porn for now you want to read his body watch and listen for changes even when he does not make a sound his breathing will change and he will start to tens up his body when this happens stop stop dead and wait a moment till you see him relax then start up again the 2nd round will go faster as he is already there but just as he tense up you drop him cold again. Do this till you and him both knows how too read his body once you know the signs you can start playing around with different techniques and add toys or vocal commands. It takes time but are so much fun plus the added bonus when he is able to stop and hold it fun can last so much longer

[It****]

I find that a slow OILED hj and "palming" is the best. simply slowly slowly slowly oil up your hands, slowly use your palm on only his head. slow work the oil where it is on your wrist and inside of forearm. Then start using your entire hand and arm to move across the head. starting from the fingers and rub it allllll the way up to your elbow. DONT go fast, dont move to mush, just eneough to keep him erect. You'll know when he's almost their from the precum oozing out. Then,,, slow it down even further an dkep doing it. then, when he does finally release, DONT stop. make him suffer thru the post orgasm play

[ThumperG]

On 4/4/2021 at 11:55 AM, cincy11 said:

My wife takes me to the edge multiple times a day, but never lets me cum.  She sits on the edge of the bed, lays back, and pulls her knees up to her chest.  I get on my knees between her legs and lick her pussy and ass, then I stand up and rub little willy on her pussy and ass.  When I am ready to cum she tells me to stop, keeping me horney and on edge 24 hours a day.  It's great.

THANK YOUR WIFE FOR ME... she is doing a wonderful job with you,