The female point of view - Bondage

[Tieyou4love]

Advice from the females on here into bondage or for that matter any interest. It seems like you find so much to read about bondage, what it’s about, or again anything that you might consider a kink. What we don’t hear it seems like is what the female has to say. Especially in depth! What does she want to get out of it? What are the feelings or sensations that she seeks? If rope is used should it be tight or loose? What does she enjoy the most about what ever she chooses to be involved with? Take bondage, if ropes are used is her goal to actually have an orgasm or just be a captive? If she’s in bondage is a goal in her head multiple orgasms or a different object in her mind? If we look at ***d orgasms. Is her goal to be ***d into orgasm when she’s mentally trying to fight it? Or is it being left on the edge of an orgasm or denial so to say for a period of time and then allowed? Or is it a goal in her mind to just see how many that she can actually be ***d into having? I guess what I’m looking to hear is to find out what her side of the pictures is like because it doesn’t seem like too many people find all this out in advance. They just jump in and assume so make it educational girls. Tell us what it is. It’s always in your head. What do you think?

[PL****]

I discuss in advance with my partners each need i have for a kink within a scene prior so they understand my motives or needs. As far as bondage, it has many uses for a woman. I cannot speak for all women, but myself it can vary from a need to be bound because it makes me feel safe and so I do not have to feel the need to be in control. It's often a need of edged to denial as well. However, it can also be a need of wanting a fight the binding and a reason to be punished. Sometimes, I need to be bound because it makes me feel like im all his/hers. It really just depends on the day and the scene.

[Ha****]

Personally. Wow so much. I like submission and being tied down and various positions but not so much ropes because they take a long time and I lose interest. Also, I get cold when my body isn’t kept stimulated - it’s just not exciting for me. I like my body to be stimulated, pushed into orgasm and I find I have the greatest experiences when my body and brain doesn’t have the ability to fight it.

[Le****]

I highly recommend checking out The Bondalist / Julieta Chiara. She is a Kink Coach helping Women to activate their Submission with a very feminine perspective on all of it and also Shibari Instructor. Check out her website and/or instagram!

[Le****]

I loved her „Activate Your Submission“ Workshop (online & for free), because she dives into different „Flavours/Styles“ of Submission with a very wholesome approach: What draws a women to different forms of submission and what are her needs and gifts for/in each different style? Very unique approach, very deep, very insightful! Learned a lot about myself and wish more people would engage with BDSM in this kind of way!!

[an****]

For me it is the feeling of being submissive, of not having any say in what someone does to me. But it is really important to be consensual and also I can never do it with someone I don't trust because you are in a *** position.

[Deleted Member]

That was a lot in one post, but I'll give you my response. I think every scene is different, even with the same people. For me, I like rope because once bound there's a sense of freedom and safety I don't get from other things. Yes, that means I want the rope tight, but it needs to be tight if doing suspension for example. When I'm being flogged, there's an amazing feeling of just deep tissue massage, but that sting can certainly give a different sensation too. Not having that control is very freeing, especially mentally. You know you are serving your Dom/Master/Top to the best of your ability and ironically in some cases taking the scene to an extreme can allow someone who doesn't release emotions easily to have that release. In a sense it can be the***utic. I've seen all of these over the years, and each has it's own sense of beauty.

[Sa****]

For me it's really just freeing up my mind ,no decisions to make etc

[we****]

I like being tied up because I like to be teased with pleasure

[MistressWhipplash]

As a Dominant Sadist Woman who loves to tie with rope I prefer a smooth skin, clean body/breath of the person I'm tying. I did laugh at the term female as it reminds me of the Ferenghi on Deep Space nine who are as creepy as f**k but hilarious with their misogyny.

[jinxed]

On 4/13/2026 at 7:44 AM, Lea-Marie said:

I highly recommend checking out The Bondalist / Julieta Chiara. She is a Kink Coach helping Women to activate their Submission with a very feminine perspective on all of it and also Shibari Instructor. Check out her website and/or instagram!

Thank you so much for sharing this! Watching her tie herself up was a kind of revelation and definitely an inspiration. 😍