Orgasm Training

[Mi****]

Is it possible to train/teach a partner (particularly a female partner) to orgasm more easily, on command, or orgasm period?

Some people have a hard time reaching orgasm. I’m curious if anyone has trained, taught, or helped another to orgasm. Or if anyone has been trained, taught, or helped themselves. If so, how was it done?

Personally, I trained/taught at least one woman who struggled to orgasm to be able to orgasm easily, multiple times, and even on command. Lo, I do not know exactly how I did it (though I have ideas). I’d like to get better at being able to do this though and gathering information/crowdsourcing is the best place to start.

TIA!

[Va****]

I have actually ran across this a few times. One would orgasm anytime she pinched her nipple. One orgasm when she heard a bell (that was so much fun) and another that could just by me telling her. I only fully trained the last one and finished the training for the one with the bell

[Sa****]

Absolutely. Study behavior modification

[Mi****]

2 minutes ago, SayPerdyPls said:

Absolutely. Study behavior modification

Could you say more? Like is there specific way to apply it to orgasms or is it straightforwardly the same approach?

[Da****]

Yes

[Mi****]

4 minutes ago, Daydreamer_69 said:

Yes

Know from firsthand experience?

[Deleted Member]

It’s a connection made between the sub and Dom. Difficult to explain but when it happens, it’s an amazing feeling as a Dom.

[Ni****]

Yes. 100% possible. Personal experience with multiple aubmissives. Like everything, it takes 2 to tango, and important things like establishing a strong foundation of trust and acceptance (aka not shaming or expectations) is fundamental, in addition to her having desire to go in these directions.

Having said that... one of my top experiences is directing when my partner can and cannot cum... and the mutual enjoyment from both the withholding and the release! 💦

[Ni****]

Apologies for the spelling errors... didn't review before posting.

[M1****]

Yes it’s really easy actually

[Mi****]

7 minutes ago, M134 said:

Yes it’s really easy actually

Sounds like you have it down to a formula then. Care to share how you do it?

[DD4LGsub]

Denial training and requiring an ask to cum I've always found fun and rewarding.

[Da****]

53 minutes ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Know from firsthand experience?

For a long time I was unable to reach an orgasm, neither on my own or with a person. It took a bit of time, but a Dom taught me to be able to let go and allow myself that release.

[M1****]

17 minutes ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Sounds like you have it down to a formula then. Care to share how you do it?

Love and worship, be a passionate person in general. Consistently remind them of things that you admire, highlight their strengths, make sure they know they are see and validated.

People call it pleasure dom, but it’s simply being mindful, attentive, loving.

Withholding exists, but within a shared safe space

A goddess needs to be seen, validated, supported, and celebrated for her strengths and accomplishments

Its our job to take the responsibility from her shoulders and allow her to collapse into her feminine in a world that en***s her masculine.

Oh and of course full body massages and footrubs are a daily thing when you listen to her talk about her day

Ive also found this has made everyone is able to squirt whether they were aware of the ability or not, its just a matter of comfort and connection

[Mi****]

11 minutes ago, Daydreamer_69 said:

For a long time I was unable to reach an orgasm, neither on my own or with a person. It took a bit of time, but a Dom taught me to be able to let go and allow myself that release.

Interesting. Thanks for sharing
Did you deny it had anything to do with not letting go up until then? I ask cause I find women have said to me they are letting go but then once they’re able to orgasm they say they’ve found they actually weren’t letting go or letting go enough

[Wi****]

Well I taught myself how to squirt so I think soo but also the guy has to know how to please a woman

[M1****]

26 minutes ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Sounds like you have it down to a formula then. Care to share how you do it?

Also just be fucking romantic as fuck, have FUN. Enjoy yourself, enjoy her company, you are there to celebrate each other :)

If thinking gets involved, it kills connection, you want to relax, and if youre not feeling it, spend more time connecting until its feral and pulls you in

[Mi****]

9 minutes ago, M134 said:

Love and worship, be a passionate person in general. Consistently remind them of things that you admire, highlight their strengths, make sure they know they are see and validated.

People call it pleasure dom, but it’s simply being mindful, attentive, loving.

Withholding exists, but within a shared safe space

A goddess needs to be seen, validated, supported, and celebrated for her strengths and accomplishments

Its our job to take the responsibility from her shoulders and allow her to collapse into her feminine in a world that en***s her masculine.

Oh and of course full body massages and footrubs are a daily thing when you listen to her talk about her day

Ive also found this has made everyone is able to squirt whether they were aware of the ability or not, its just a matter of comfort and connection

Wow! You are an amazing guy. I truly mean that and hope others will validate this.

It’s so extremely rare to encounter a guy with this mindset. And the way you state it so humbly 🤌 you, my friend, are a special one and a rockstar. Keep being you, man—this world needs more like you.

And spread this message as much as you can. I was skeptical, as I always, and reasonably so, am with other’s sexual confidence, but you delivered a masterclass with this. Thanks so much for sharing, and may your sex life be blessed

[M1****]

Thank you! Honestly i have my stupid feral moments im not proud of, but in general sex is just the byproduct. Shoot for the connections, and the sex is soo much better

I used to think my emotional depth was a weakness, but now i realized the best way to control anyone consensually is giving them all of your best without strings attached. This is a spiritual experience clothed in skin, once you touch that magic nothing less will suffice

[en****]

I’m having a bit of the opposite problem…the person I’m with has no problem orgasming during sex, but says has never been able to satisfy herself when alone

[en****]

Does anyone have suggestions for how to approach this situation so we can maintain a long distance relationship?

[Mi****]

15 minutes ago, M134 said:

Thank you! Honestly i have my stupid feral moments im not proud of, but in general sex is just the byproduct. Shoot for the connections, and the sex is soo much better

I used to think my emotional depth was a weakness, but now i realized the best way to control anyone consensually is giving them all of your best without strings attached. This is a spiritual experience clothed in skin, once you touch that magic nothing less will suffice

Hell yeah, man, you’re very welcome!

I have had asimilar relationship with my emotional depth. And 100% it’s actually quite a gift. On a bit of a related note, I still have a hard time with it tho, personally because I feel like it hinders me in getting what I most desire. In my experience my emotional depth has made me a great option for serious, longterm monogamy, but what I desire, unfortunately, is to be sexy and sexually desired by women just in a conventionally appealing kind of way. I have felt like depth = being seen as “husband material”, the stable, responsible dad type that will provide rather than the edgy, sexy guy. And my desires are far more aligned with being the sexy guy to a multitude of women than they are with being the husband material guy

[M1****]

Yea i understand what you mean, but thats why i say live with passion - that energy connects and pulls the right ones your way

You can have some of the most romantic experiences with someone youve just met….the trick is wooing them, and wooing yourself

Let them bring the best out of you to analyze, not depend on to bring out, and be open about your goals, boundaries and expectations - and you will attract exactly what you desire. Its all about intent, empathy, respect - once you have boundaries in place, you can unleash fully

[Mi****]

12 minutes ago, englewood777 said:

Does anyone have suggestions for how to approach this situation so we can maintain a long distance relationship?

Ahh yeah, i can see how that’d be an issue. That sucks, I’m sorry you are both going through that

I feel like the answers for helping someone achieve this in person are the same as for helping someone be able to achieve this alone. Like what M134 mentioned, not creating expectations and showing you will support them before and after all else goes along way and is very appreciated by a partner

[Mi****]

3 minutes ago, M134 said:

Yea i understand what you mean, but thats why i say live with passion - that energy connects and pulls the right ones your way

You can have some of the most romantic experiences with someone youve just met….the trick is wooing them, and wooing yourself

Let them bring the best out of you to analyze, not depend on to bring out, and be open about your goals, boundaries and expectations - and you will attract exactly what you desire. Its all about intent, empathy, respect - once you have boundaries in place, you can unleash fully

You’re the man 😎 Spot on retort/response. Wish we could do a podcast together, I fig your vibe and insight