Orgasm Training

[en****]

8 minutes ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Hell yeah, man, you’re very welcome!

I have had asimilar relationship with my emotional depth. And 100% it’s actually quite a gift. On a bit of a related note, I still have a hard time with it tho, personally because I feel like it hinders me in getting what I most desire. In my experience my emotional depth has made me a great option for serious, longterm monogamy, but what I desire, unfortunately, is to be sexy and sexually desired by women just in a conventionally appealing kind of way. I have felt like depth = being seen as “husband material”, the stable, responsible dad type that will provide rather than the edgy, sexy guy. And my desires are far more aligned with being the sexy guy to a multitude of women than they are with being the husband material guy

I have had the same exact issue…I love nothing more than to please and pleasure a woman….have always preferred to please than be pleased. Have always approached sex with a mindset that it’s not over until both have had dessert…but this is apparently so rare that it’s often confused for, as you said, “husband material”

Having said that I recently met someone that completely made me rethink what I was looking for in the first place. It started with sexual chemistry and quickly escalated into a legitimate, albeit long distance, relationship.

[Mi****]

2 minutes ago, englewood777 said:

I have had the same exact issue…I love nothing more than to please and pleasure a woman….have always preferred to please than be pleased. Have always approached sex with a mindset that it’s not over until both have had dessert…but this is apparently so rare that it’s often confused for, as you said, “husband material”

Having said that I recently met someone that completely made me rethink what I was looking for in the first place. It started with sexual chemistry and quickly escalated into a legitimate, albeit long distance, relationship.

Very curious about what changes they induced

[Mi****]

Just now, MisterSatisfaction said:

Very curious about what changes they induced

What rethinking they induced

[BlueGrace]

It took a year for my Dominants to teach my body to orgasm on command. I naturally have multiple orgasms back to back after reaching my first. My Doms say a special word now and my body orgasms immediately in response.

[Sh****]

Definitely

[Da****]

1 hour ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Interesting. Thanks for sharing
Did you deny it had anything to do with not letting go up until then? I ask cause I find women have said to me they are letting go but then once they’re able to orgasm they say they’ve found they actually weren’t letting go or letting go enough

Of course. In a way. A big part of it was being unwilling to let myself be *** in such an intimate way.

[Qu****]

One thing that hasn't been brought up throughout the comments is the ethics of command training. Yes it sounds fun in books, but before you go down that road you need to have a solid understanding of what you're doing & the implications of command training. What happens if the dynamic ends? What about public play? What about 3rd parties? Is it going to be weaponized against the person? That all needs to be discussed before you attempt to anything because real damage can be done.

[Mi****]

57 minutes ago, BlueGrace said:

It took a year for my Dominants to teach my body to orgasm on command. I naturally have multiple orgasms back to back after reaching my first. My Doms say a special word now and my body orgasms immediately in response.

Wow! Nice work, both of you 😎

[Mi****]

41 minutes ago, Daydreamer_69 said:

Of course. In a way. A big part of it was being unwilling to let myself be *** in such an intimate way.

Okay, I hear that.

Any advice for someone with a partner would could be in similar position as you were? Like is there anything a guy could’ve done back then to get you to realize this?

[Mi****]

19 minutes ago, Quixote_69 said:

One thing that hasn't been brought up throughout the comments is the ethics of command training. Yes it sounds fun in books, but before you go down that road you need to have a solid understanding of what you're doing & the implications of command training. What happens if the dynamic ends? What about public play? What about 3rd parties? Is it going to be weaponized against the person? That all needs to be discussed before you attempt to anything because real damage can be done.

Glad you brought this up. It’s one of those things that seems like it’d only be the case theoretically, but it is something real psychologically you are enacting. Have any sources or readings you would point others to in order to learn more about doing responsibly and safely?

[me****]

If the partner is open to it, hypnosis can be an incredible tool to achieve (hands free) orgasms, even on command. And unless the partner is physically unable to, even those struggling to get there with a partner or by themselves should finally be able to cum.

But it’s certainly something that needs to be practiced over time, both going under as well as the trigger(s).

[al****]

It is possible through trust and opening yourself up to your partner. For me it was the sound of his voice that pulled me in. And with having a long distance relationship it was a way for me to feel closer to him so I opened myself to him. I don’t feel it is ethically wrong because it’s not something that happened instantly. It took countless sessions and time apart but keeping in touch only via phone for me to get to a point that he only has to speak a word for me to orgasm for him. It wouldn’t work for a random person on the street that said the same word. It has to be his voice. And it’s only because of my bond with him and my trust in him.

[SkinnyWhiteGuy]

Hypnosis is always an option 😁👍

[Qu****]

2 hours ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Glad you brought this up. It’s one of those things that seems like it’d only be the case theoretically, but it is something real psychologically you are enacting. Have any sources or readings you would point others to in order to learn more about doing responsibly and safely?

For the ethics of things like that I'd look into hypno groups, there's a lot of crossover and anyone who is teaching hypno should reiterate the ethics of doing that type of play every single time whether it's a beginner class or an advanced class.

[steveWDom]

Yes have done it with one of my subs, it came about by orgasm control but I could give the command either in person or on phone and she would orgasm immediately wherever she was home, in supermarket etc. it was very powerful for both of us.