Trying to move forward with my brat and make things actually official how do I go about doing so?

[ad****]

Maybe stop saying “finna” because it childish

[sp****]

5 hours ago, RomanVale said:

Maybe start with not using the word (and I use the term LOOSELY) “finna”

policing his decorum is not the topic of the conversation.

[ad****]

Saying that’s probably why she doesn’t take him seriously

[Th****]

Id bend her over a table tie her legs ankles to table legs. Outstretch her arms and tie her wrists to opposite side legs. With my double headed cane pyt some manners on her

[co****]

Will tell you anything you want just ask me

[sc****]

Sounds to me like she is bipolar, dated one for 7 yrs, in the vanilla world, she was up and down like that

[my****]

Does she set the times when you can come by? It kind of feels like you’re the other dude.

[Su****]

She is Domming the Dom

[Ms****]

As ***ful as it may be, you need to make better clear boundaries for her. If you dont want the drama of all these other guys, dont put up with it. Let her know your expections, if ahe doesnt want to match you, then you know its not right or its not the right time. Give her a time frame and if she doesnt want to or cant make it. Let her go. Or be willing to compromise. Dom/sub can compromise.

[Da****]

I tried the choose me or lose me method before but she blocked me for a day then unblocked me the next awhile back and talked to my best friend about the situation stating she only blocked me temporarily.

[Da****]

It sounds like shes using you.

[Yp****]

As gently as I can say this, she doesn't sound like she's a Brat. She sounds like she thrives on drama and likes when things are exciting and high drama.

It feels, from reading this, like you were kinda hoping that the drama was an unfortunate happenstance of how you met and that once you resolved the problems, you would have a normal relationship. That just doesn't seem like a realistic read of the situation.

In any BDSM dynamic (yes, even Bratty/DDLG), limits and consent and boundaries are important through communication. If she can't talk like an adult about it at 46(!!), then either she has some severe developmental disorders that need to be taken into account before you can trust consent, or you have to accept she simply doesn't WANT to.

I know it sucks, but this really doesn't sound like a BDSM dynamic/problem, unfortunately.

Best of luck.

[Wolfy74]

I’m completely new to this all and even I think she is using you. You need to set the rules.

[Da****]

I've also come to this realization she only really hits me up when she needs something anymore doesn't wanna go out of her way like I do to make plans like I do and she's more focused on her friends then our so called relationship.

[Wolfy74]

Then you really need to put yourself first love. As it seems you’re putting all the effort into it, and she’s just taking you for a ride around the block.

[p_****]

Sounds like it’s only on her time when she needs someone around.. that’s not a real relationship or dynamic.. I’m sorry you’re going through that