Problem staying hard (being vuln@rable)

[Ke****]

You’ve got Coca Cola cock

[Ho****]

Just now, Keanmeeh said:

You’ve got Coca Cola cock

I heard of whiskey dick, whats coca cola cock?

[Ke****]

Just now, HornyMummy87 said:

I heard of whiskey dick, whats coca cola cock?

Cocaine 🤣

[Up****]

Raise, are you not doing foreplay every time?? What’s that like??

[Ho****]

Just now, Keanmeeh said:

Cocaine 🤣

Roflmao, nah I never did coca cola.

[Deleted Member]

This has happened to me. It’s anxiety to please her. Trying to hard. I wanted her so bad but just did not work. She was too good for me and I had to please her.

[br****]

If I may chime in?

[br****]

My lover also has this problem at times. All I can say is just focus on pleasing her.

[br****]

I do have a few suggestions. Just let me know.

[Ho****]

22 minutes ago, brattyjj52 said:

I do have a few suggestions. Just let me know.

Sure thing. Suggest away.

[Ho****]

43 minutes ago, Cracker-1246 said:

This has happened to me. It’s anxiety to please her. Trying to hard. I wanted her so bad but just did not work. She was too good for me and I had to please her.

So what happened?

[Deleted Member]

I lost her. Maybe I should have used the blue pills but I was 47 yo and knew it always worked.

[Deleted Member]

If she dirty talked or taboo talk it would be as hard as a rock but vanilla sex did not work

[Ho****]

28 minutes ago, Cracker-1246 said:

I lost her. Maybe I should have used the blue pills but I was 47 yo and knew it always worked.

Sorry to hear that. Yeah i'll try some of the advice on here if she's still willing to meet up after last night.

[Ll****]

Someone put a hex on you

[Ll****]

Or on her

[Ho****]

29 minutes ago, Lluvia_Estrella said:

Or on her

Do explain a bit more what you mean?

[an****]

Go to a good chiropractor. First erection should be mechanical, have them check out your sacrum and maybe L4/L5, definitely hip alignment, low back *** is a major indicator, but doesn't have to be present. Once your bones are aligned, add heavy deadlifts, and heavy squats, really focus on the pelvic area exercises knees to nipples, full range of motion too if exercise is lacking there. If you are having issues with your first erection it is likely tied to mechanical noise not emotional noise, all erections are from the same parasympathetic system. It sounds like your first erection might not be activating at all (common), like a gridlock traffic jam, muscles fatigue, poor posture, tightness, and inflammation stifle the parasympathetic system. Both first and additional erections are parasympathetic. However, if you are skipping the mechanical one, or somehow (bear with me) prematurely climaxing (without results) like a brain climax (i.e. a woman's presence is too much stimulation) and you go straight to secondary erections. These do align with what other posters have said about emotional regulation and anxiety and they have some good tips. Also, be hydrated and ask your Dr to run you a *** panel to rule out zinc or magnesium or iron deficiency. Your first erection should be able to be fixed by bone alignment and exercise. We ascend from chaos, and ***, and survival, our erections are not beholden to anxiety or emotions first.

[AlphaWolf_01]

It's the stress... It happened the first time...now you're ***ly afraid it will keep happening... So it does! Just have fun and get her off... If you stop worrying about how you'll perform... It will fix itself!

[an****]

1*** hurt, 2***medical, 3***scared.... restricted words

[Yi****]

That speaks to my obtuse theory of kinks, and why certain couples are into each other. Ive struggled with vanilla sex, for example I am physically and emotionally numb when I get a blow job. Roleplay has helped a lot. I love to be in character, and I do not focus on intercourse for many reasons. The fist is always hard, and if she is too tight, don't push it all they, but stretch her to her limits.

[Glasgowdom1991]

Are you maybe also demi like self where no matter how attractive a person is if you like there personality and who they are as a person then the attraction doesn't continue

[Ho****]

9 hours ago, Glasgowdom1991 said:

Are you maybe also demi like self where no matter how attractive a person is if you like there personality and who they are as a person then the attraction doesn't continue

I've never thought about that 🤔

[Sl****]

Staying hard is typically a misconception that, if we don’t hold erections that we’re no good in bed.
Learn the use of toys, her “sweet” spots, how she likes fulfilling herself and if she enjoys fingers and how to build her anticipation. Focus on what makes her happy which is most of the battle. As long as you’re present to take her to the promised land, I can only bet that your own confidence will rise to the occasion more and more.

[Ho****]

5 hours ago, Slave2WhiteWomen said:

Staying hard is typically a misconception that, if we don’t hold erections that we’re no good in bed.
Learn the use of toys, her “sweet” spots, how she likes fulfilling herself and if she enjoys fingers and how to build her anticipation. Focus on what makes her happy which is most of the battle. As long as you’re present to take her to the promised land, I can only bet that your own confidence will rise to the occasion more and more.

I agree, I think my inability to get hard made her question herself. And it became a negative feedback loop