Gn**** Posted May 15 People are incredibly rude and treat you as subhuman online. It really bothers me, but I just got used to it. Sorry you had to deal with that, and thanks for be a total queen and disclosing!!
le**** Posted May 15 I and my partners are negative for both somehow. And I state that on my profile because both of my partners have immune conditions that would give them really bad breakouts if they were to get either strain. So I generally bring it up right away and try to be as kind as possible. No one should be treated badly for having any condition.
Ro**** Posted May 15 TBH i think most of the stigma comes from f@ar. F@ar is mostly a response to the lack of information. If I crossed paths with a person I realy feel the chemistry I would make sure to do a bit of research on how to protect both of us. But I wouldn't walk away because that.
Fu**** Posted May 15 I dated someone who was open about it and I can imagine it took alot to say it but I did my research and had myself tested after our encounters and yea haven't had a problem since!
Jo**** Posted May 15 this app is a monster. And people don’t make it easy. That guy had you not been diagnosed and “met his oh so high” standards it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run. He is clearly uneducated and doesn’t deserve you. You Dodged a bullet in my opinion
Deleted Member Posted May 15 It’s good to be open and you’re a good person for doing the right thing. However everyone is different so, in the cross section of people you meet there will inevitably a whole range of reactions, some positive and some negative You did your bit. You can’t control others. Accept that and move on. I appreciate that’s easier said than done though. Play safe. Stay safe. X
Br**** Posted May 15 Good it’s on your status. I dated somebody with it once briefly. I always have safe sex but we also agreed no oral as well. Wasn’t an issue, pleased they told me. I test 4 times a year. Clean. The one time I did have an issue was thrush not caused by sexual activity but a shampoo allergy and got it treated and sorted. Stay safe and play safe out there folks.
sn**** Posted May 15 Actually there is a cure. You don’t have to change your diet. It only takes 2 months. A lot of people are uneducated and fall in line with what the pharmaceutical companies want you to know. It’s an over the counter medication that is labeled and you can only buy for research purposes only.
Be**** Posted May 15 Love when a dumbass starts spreading misinformation, @snapgirafezzz. Have the day you deserve. @AmandaRedd, thank you for your honesty and transparency. The world needs more of that. Big hugs, because it sounds like you've been through some shit.
Am**** Posted May 16 Author To add to some of the information…for most, it goes dormant after 10yrs; however stress and many kinds of nuts can cause the virus to become active again. Antivirals make it incredibly unlikely to be transmitted. Like I said…I only gave it to ONE partner in 23yrs 2 decades ago, and I told him he was at risk so we should use a condom. He said he didn’t care and 2 weeks later…he got it. Shocker 🙄 Also a tingle is often a cue that you might be about to start shedding, as it lives in your nervous system. I’m amazed at how many partners I’ve had that “didn’t care,”😆 when I had a tingle, but they didn’t get it. I’m vigilant af about trying to protect people with honesty at the very least. Some have been less so with me and other STI’s, being dishonest about getting tested, which is yet another reason I don’t do non-monogamy anymore. And no, whoever said HIV is deadly, it isn’t if you get it treated. You become “undetectable” and can’t even transmit it. And to all who aren’t comfortable with herpes, there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you’re kind and respectful. It doesn’t matter how someone contracted it, they should be treated kindly. But often people contract it in traumatic ways. In my case, I contracted it from 🍇, Others from cheating or abusive partners, so when you add rudeness to stigma AND trauma…it’s pretty f-ed up.
Mi**** Posted May 16 I'm always upfront about it. It's on all my profiles, and if I start connecting with someone on a serious level then I'll ask them to double check. I try not to take it personally if they reject me, but it always hurts. Especially when they claimed to have read my profile. I got my hsv2 from a s.a. in 2013 and have never passed it. It sucks definitely but it's manageable. Some people just aren't educated and don't want to be and that's fine, that just means we aren't compatible.
Mi**** Posted May 16 Yesterday at 05:56 AM, simplemedicine said: @AmandaRedd Congrats for bringing this up. * we are all learners. We are should all be educators when armed with proper knowledge * From a medical perspective: HIV is NOT HSV. ( HERPES SIMPLEX VIRUS). Generally people have thought of Oral/mouth Labia ( COLD SORES) as HSV 1. By age 5, 90% have HSV 1. Most do not experience the symptoms ever. For some it is VERY ***FUL !!!. My sympathies. Most hearsay treatments at best are comfort control. HSV 2: generally considered GENITAL HERPES. BOTH are relatives of the HERPES VIRUS. Since we engage in genital and oral contact, Either can be passed to other. There is NO cure. Both are self-iimiting.They go away from the surface. The virus retreats into GANGLIA of nearby nerves. They resurface in times of STRESS ( any - illness, psychological, etc). Both can be considered STis. ( think of kissing, licking etc as SEXUAL. DO YOUR PART. MENTION TO YOUR PRIMARY CLINICIAN. If feeling embarrassed, say you you have ***FUL COLD SORES OCCASIONALLY. NO clinician will refuse. Well controlled by HERPES antiviral medications. They work on BOTH. Ask to keep on hand. Start on the very first day ( first signs of symptoms- you are the first to know ! ). This gives the best relief. Reduces shredding of the virus - hence reduces transmission. Avoid creams ( Ineffective). AVOID BRAND NAMES- needless expense!! Common; ACYCLOVIR. Cheapest. Different strengths. Best for compliance ( remembering to take) is 400mg TWICE A DAY. - Usually TAKE 5- 10 DAYS. PLEASE TAKE. ( DON'T stop after 1,2 days. Other names equally effective. More expensive. Hope this helps. HAPPY FULLFILMENT OF DESIRES. HUGS I really like your comment. A few things to add as well are; Valacyclovir is a daily suppression medication someone can take ( I've been on it for years) and it works very well at controlling your outbreaks before they happen. Also normal sti testing doesn't test for hsv1/2. You have to specifically ask for it. Which is why it goes undetected for most people. That and they are asymptomatic (don't show symptoms). I've had this for 13 years now. It sucks but it's not the end 💜
Am**** Posted May 17 Author Yesterday at 08:18 AM, MissMya4 said: I'm always upfront about it. It's on all my profiles, and if I start connecting with someone on a serious level then I'll ask them to double check. I try not to take it personally if they reject me, but it always hurts. Especially when they claimed to have read my profile. I got my hsv2 from a s.a. in 2013 and have never passed it. It sucks definitely but it's manageable. Some people just aren't educated and don't want to be and that's fine, that just means we aren't compatible. I also got it from SA, which makes the rejection even harder bc it brings up trauma as well. I only gave it to one partner 20yrs ago bc he didn’t believe me about the shedding period
Am**** Posted May 17 Author 15 hours ago, screamingghosts said: its illegal not to be with a sexual partner I assume you mean not disclosing is illegal, which is also incorrect unless you live in OK. It’s a messed up laws bc a partner can say they’re ok with the risk, get angry when you break up with them, and then sue you. A 🍇 ist can sue their victim if the victim tries to prosecute. An ***r can give it to someone and then say they gave it to them. You could have it and not know it. Read the whole post.
si**** Posted May 18 Yesterday at 03:31 AM, MissMya4 said: I really like your comment. A few things to add as well are; Valacyclovir is a daily suppression medication someone can take ( I've been on it for years) and it works very well at controlling your outbreaks before they happen. Also normal sti testing doesn't test for hsv1/2. You have to specifically ask for it. Which is why it goes undetected for most people. That and they are asymptomatic (don't show symptoms). I've had this for 13 years now. It sucks but it's not the end 💜 Thanks for adding
Deleted Member Posted May 19 My ex contracted it from doing **** and getting ran on by multiple men in a night because she liked to. 🤷♂️
fa**** Posted May 20 He has the right to pass without giving you any explanation or ask you about it. Ridiculous that yiu think you dodged a bullet I think he dodged one. I get that made you angry and ashamed so you gotta post about it to feel better but bruh its perfectly normal to not want to sleep with people who have a sti. The end.
Deleted Member Posted May 21 Every time I hear the common phrase " I'm not going to lie " immediately think does that mean the rest of the time you're lying to me. It makes me sad because it's a reminder but not everyone has the capacity to move through the world with honesty and openness as I do. I find your honesty your refreshing. Thank you for that. My second wife had HSV 2 but I never got it because she was honest and careful. I can't speak for how others react to that kind of news but for me it wouldn't have mattered if she had AIDS or leprosy. My connection to her was more important than breathing.
Wi**** Posted May 24 May 17, AmandaRedd said: I assume you mean not disclosing is illegal, which is also incorrect unless you live in OK. It’s a messed up laws bc a partner can say they’re ok with the risk, get angry when you break up with them, and then sue you. A 🍇 ist can sue their victim if the victim tries to prosecute. An ***r can give it to someone and then say they gave it to them. You could have it and not know it. Read the whole post. In most civilised parts of the world It’s illegal in the uk too You can try to dance around which US states haven’t made it illegal but that’s not really the issue is it!
Bi**** Posted May 28 If it’s not disclosed and it comes out then we are done. If it’s disclosed I can weigh the mitigation of and risk towards what I feel and know about the person. If it’s hidden that’s an instant trust breaker and threatens my partners and my safety.
No**** Posted Sunday at 04:45 AM Thursday at 11:09 PM, BigSmooth said: If it’s not disclosed and it comes out then we are done. If it’s disclosed I can weigh the mitigation of and risk towards what I feel and know about the person. If it’s hidden that’s an instant trust breaker and threatens my partners and my safety. Bro you know hsv is not treatable right
No**** Posted Sunday at 04:46 AM Thursday at 11:09 PM, BigSmooth said: If it’s not disclosed and it comes out then we are done. If it’s disclosed I can weigh the mitigation of and risk towards what I feel and know about the person. If it’s hidden that’s an instant trust breaker and threatens my partners and my safety. Ps I means herpes simplex virus 2
Bi**** Posted Sunday at 06:20 PM HSV2 is treatable. It’s not curable. I do not have HSV2 and dated someone for 3 years that has it. As I stated. There are ways to mitigate risks and if I have a connection with that person and feel they are very safe and conscious of not giving it to someone than I am willing to consider things. How do you think people with HSV2 date? They just give it to everyone? Responsible people that know they have it do not do that. How cares about hvs1 though at my age it’s like 75% of people have it and it’s not a big deal generally.
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