Not sure if kink or should seek mental help.

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20 hours ago, Maxwell1303 said:

It is more normal than you think man. Being in charge like that at a young age is good but it also puts so much pressure on you to be on top of everything. You need to find an older Female Dom that will start taking over slowly so you can learn what it's like to give up control a little at a time man. I wish you luck

Thank you, I'll keep an open mind❤️

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21 hours ago, Dom_Master_London said:

Everything starts in childhood, perhaps you were parentified at a young age (eg asked to look after yourself or siblings or even parents) or that you were rewarded if you did well at school etc / achievements
Or just weren’t allowed to be a kid and express yourself or feel things
Therapy is awesome with a good therapist and asks these questions but it is a journey and will take time and deeper therapy such as psycho therapy asks and hopefully answers why you are the way you are.
The job we do is often a reflection of our personality and style so the pattern has repeated itself already.
If you need the kink aspect to get through life then it’s an option of course but it’s more healthy to be in a place where kink adds to to your life rather than controls it
You show a lot of insight for someone so young so I think now would be a good time to explore these questions further and then can decide what serves you best
Also if you hand over to someone else it can be more hurtful if / when it ends
I hope this helps

Age 4🥲 4 kids under me by age 10 the youngest 2 called me dad. Thats part of the reason I was unsure. I knew that it could lead to issues just want sure if it was related to this. Thank you❤️

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The important thing is first, secure your mental health. Heavy responsibility always has a downside. If you decide to get professional assistance. Check your area for kink friendly professionals.

Now that said, nothing you have said makes me think you are mentally ill. It sounds to me that you are taking on more responsibility, than is manageable.

There's nothing wrong with testing the water to see where your desires take you. Just don't dive off the deep end without a lifeguard .

If this is a kink calling to you my thoughts are, before you get into a relationship, maybe it would be wise to get a mentor.

Do you have any BDSM experience? How long have you been feeling like this.

Do you fantasize about it?

BDSM is totally about trust and respect. Unfortunately, there are a lot of pretenders out there that are dangerous.

From the comments I've read , you have gotten some pretty good advice.

Most of it points in the same direction. Enter cautiously. Don't give anyone everything until you know and trust them.

If you decide to meet anyone in person, make sure that someone you know and trust knows exactly where you are and how long you will be there.

Always remember this. If you decide to meet someone in person and it doesn't feel right when you get there, leave. You have a right to change your mind.

Same goes with someone online. If it doesn't feel right, end it. You don't ever want to give that right away unless you are in a planned relationship that you have agreed to that has those terms.

Last but not least..safety first for you and for others.

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Your question shouldn't be if it's normal. What you describe is very much a kink, and a fun one to boot. The question is, and in the eyes of a good mental health provider, is "is it a problem?". "Like my life is going to crash and fall if I don't" reads like it's a problem. It's much better if kink is a want and not a need, and a perfectly obedient role being something you can shed like a jacket if needed so you can live, love, work, learn, etc and stand on your own. If there's a problem there, absolutely seek some counseling to address it. Normal in itself doesn't matter.

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Sounds like you’d rather be a stay at home wife