Does the empityness go away? Can the deep connection happen again?

[bl****]

20 minutes ago, intellectualruffian said:

Believe me. Cementing the bond in person and having to let go after that is much harder. But this is the cyber era after all and it seems a rarity that actual physical meets happen, and the cyber connection is elevated to almost reality status. Hopefully you’ll learn there’s so much more to a connection.

don’t put others feelings down bc u can’t connect online like others can.. women connect differently like i said before.. it’s not all about that physical interaction

[st****]

1 hour ago, lacey62239 said:

I'm sorry. 

im hoping itll get better day by day but its so hard tbh

[in****]

1 hour ago, blondecupcake333 said:

don’t put others feelings down bc u can’t connect online like others can.. women connect differently like i said before.. it’s not all about that physical interaction

You’re completely sidetracking the OP’s discussion and to be honest, you actually hijacked it very early by falsely claiming that the emptiness will never go away, and the OP will never find deep connection again. That was literally your first post here. So who’s putting people’s feelings down? We’re trying to reassure the OP here that despite her heartbreak at the end of her dynamic and connection, that the emptiness WILL Infact go away, because it will. Of course it will. And that she’ll find deep connection again, because of course she WILL.
To think that it’s doomed completely forever from a cyber connection breaking, and she’s now left to dwell in emptiness and loneliness - which is exactly what your contribution to this post was - actually reeks of immaturity, inexperience, and negativity. As does your general tone in your comments actually. It can be excused by youth and inexperience, but if you’re going to contribute to the forums, have the OP’s interests at heart, and be respectful.

[pi****]

It hasn’t for me. But it gets a lot easier to deal with as time passes. Wishing you a peaceful healing journey 🫶🏾💕

[Ki****]

Time and new memories with new people is the only way to put distance from these emotions in your mind… and only distance is put between the memories.

[bl****]

1 hour ago, intellectualruffian said:

You’re completely sidetracking the OP’s discussion and to be honest, you actually hijacked it very early by falsely claiming that the emptiness will never go away, and the OP will never find deep connection again. That was literally your first post here. So who’s putting people’s feelings down? We’re trying to reassure the OP here that despite her heartbreak at the end of her dynamic and connection, that the emptiness WILL Infact go away, because it will. Of course it will. And that she’ll find deep connection again, because of course she WILL.
To think that it’s doomed completely forever from a cyber connection breaking, and she’s now left to dwell in emptiness and loneliness - which is exactly what your contribution to this post was - actually reeks of immaturity, inexperience, and negativity. As does your general tone in your comments actually. It can be excused by youth and inexperience, but if you’re going to contribute to the forums, have the OP’s interests at heart, and be respectful.

YOU ARE GASLIGHTING ME WTF WEIRDO! i never put her feelings down she has every right to feel how she does even if she NEVER MET THE MAN IN PERSON! you are so foul. get lost!

[St****]

I can't say if it's ever going to be the same or not, but, I'm convinced that I'll never go through that hurt again because I refuse to be that *** again. My ex kicked me out February 5th. Since then we have been getting together about once a week for a night of fun.bi always try to get there early so that we have time to talk before we start playing. Be he's not only my best friend, he's my only friend. So, maintaining that connection with him is vital to me. I look forward to his texts telling me to get my horny little ass over there. Just being able to be a part of his life is a blessing because I screwed up more than he should forgive. But, he does and I am very thankful for those texts, and nights and moments, that he is still willing to share with me. Remember, instead of mourning the loss of what you had, give praise and thanks for what you still have.

[la****]

I should never posted anything if people are going to be yelling out here.  I must have opened some wounds and that was not my intention. I wanted honest opinions and help coping with it.  There have been very positive results and thank you all for that.

[in****]

14 minutes ago, lacey62239 said:

I should never posted anything if people are going to be yelling out here.  I must have opened some wounds and that was not my intention. I wanted honest opinions and help coping with it.  There have been very positive results and thank you all for that.

Sadly it’s taken a negative turn with aggression and raised tempers 🤦🏻‍♂️. I won’t be entertaining that ridiculous behaviour any further. I think for the most part people rallied to help you realise that you’ll be ok. And you will. Just keep that chin up and take it day by day and things will gets easier x

[sm****]

Lacey what do I have to do to get those fabulous legs wrapped around my head

[ar****]

Would you ever give 100% again?
Well, if you wouldn't, then what would be the point?

Only by giving 100% will you be the most intentful, present and satisfied with your connection. Love and desire that's limited, is no true love at all. Don't settle for less!

[ar****]

18 minutes ago, smithville677622 said:

Lacey what do I have to do to get those fabulous legs wrapped around my head

You may start by learning to read the room from an empathic perspective, and knowing what *not* to comment on someone who's looking for support.

[in****]

This thread has been hijacked sadly. I do think Lacey has felt the support, but I’m not sure the thread can survive once it’s been corrupted. This app is getting worse.

[Ta****]

It has just passed a year (26th June) since I found out the man I had given my all to, my heart, soul & complete submission was being unfaithful with others & it nearly killed me, I honestly thought I wasnt going to see past the *** but with the support of some amazing people & friends, each goalpost was met (the 1st's). I had to go no contact or I would have caved & I refused to be an option but for months I cried, I struggled to function & so much more. Do I still love him, yes & a part of me always will. Would I take him back now, no, because he broke the one thing that can never be fixed, my trust.
So to answer your question, in my opinion, yes it does stop hurting as much, you can & will get past it. You will still have feelings, you will still think of him & at times it will still sting like crazy.
But the thing to do is make you the priority in everything & not him.
Wishing you well on your healing journey

[jinxed]

15 hours ago, lacey62239 said:

I should never posted anything if people are going to be yelling out here.  I must have opened some wounds and that was not my intention. I wanted honest opinions and help coping with it.  There have been very positive results and thank you all for that.

I for one am soo grateful that you did post it! It was the first post I read when I came back to the app after my hiatus and knowing that I'm not the only one who had invested so much in an online connection was madly reassuring! So THANK YOU (I'm attempting to shout something positive to drown out the negative shouts.. ). And I will say, what came up time and time again was: Friends, real and true connections, are what can have a wonderfully healing effect. You will be okay! 

[House_Voluntas]

Perhaps the emptiness isn’t proof that you lost something. Perhaps it’s proof that, for a time, you experienced something real enough to leave an imprint.

Love and trust always carry the risk of heartbreak. The answer isn’t to give less of yourself next time, but to give yourself more wisely.

The deepest connections don’t teach us never to trust again. They teach us to recognise the rare people who deserve it.