qu**** Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 You receive a friend request from someone you've never interacted with, or even viewed by according to your notifications, you check their profile and think ok, I'd like to at least chat with you so you accept, then nothing. Is collecting "friends" this way a fetish ?? I will add this isn't because I'm overly bothered, just wondering what others think
0L**** Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 Same here: i need interacion, connexion ....Few friends and in peace!
Deleted Member Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 Women can do this but not men. Collecting friends doesn’t do anything in here… maybe she just wanted to see your kinky pictures or he?
Nylon-Nellie Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 By accepting friend requests, opens up your photo preferences. As @FabSeverus said, it unlocks your kinky photos. I have had it in past, guys messaging me asking me to be their friends, just so that they have access to my kinky photos.
qu**** Posted August 21, 2021 Author Posted August 21, 2021 Well I think you get points on acceptance
0L**** Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 To have acees your photos u need to Favorite that person and ok; no need necessarly be friends. I Favorite many people, but just to watch my secret gallery. Im fine with people wanna watch my pics, but not interested in full my list of friends, prefer quality, good vibes, interacion, connexion, stable talks
Mz**** Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 10 hours ago, quietlysure said: You receive a friend request from someone you've never interacted with, or even viewed by according to your notifications, you check their profile and think ok, I'd like to at least chat with you so you accept, then nothing. Is collecting "friends" this way a fetish ?? I will add this isn't because I'm overly bothered, just wondering what others think Unlike you this does bother me, for a long time I wouldn't accept friend requests from people I didn't know real time..and I still won't friend someone I haven't met if we haven't spoken at length or frequently over a period of time. I'm sure there's a lot of reasons people do this, here or elsewhere, kink site or just regular social media, sometimes as others have said its a way to access pictures although this site does let you choose which friends can see your pictures rather than a blanket all of them, which is a good feature..but also, I think oftentimes it's a way people think they're attempting to demonstrate that their a good person, or popular, or trustworthy and it can be misleading in that regard whether its done deliberately or not, it can often be predatory too..add them, see what they're posting, swoop in at a *** moments under the guise of friendship. 🤷♀️
Toad-6419 Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 I hate when you get ghosted or told to pay 200 bucks just to talk
Mz**** Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 4 hours ago, quietlysure said: Well I think you get points on acceptance It costs 200 points to send the request, if its denied you lose the points, if its accepted you get them back..when I first joined I had a couple of requests I deleted and got *** because of the loss of points, almost like they were trying to guilt me, when at that time I clearly stated on my profile not to send one if you're going to be offended if its declined..now I just delete without the warning.
Toad-6419 Posted August 21, 2021 Posted August 21, 2021 2 hours ago, MzJax said: It costs 200 points to send the request, if its denied you lose the points, if its accepted you get them back..when I first joined I had a couple of requests I deleted and got *** because of the loss of points, almost like they were trying to guilt me, when at that time I clearly stated on my profile not to send one if you're going to be offended if its declined..now I just delete without the warning. Thanks for the heads up on the points....I did not know that
Du**** Posted August 22, 2021 Posted August 22, 2021 I have never accepted a friend request and it’s unlikely I ever will. Everyone has different preferences for interaction and are perhaps seeking different outcomes; personally I choose to remain private. I’m wary of men who’ve got lots of ‘friends’, as I have no wish to be one amongst a crowd (again, others aren’t bothered and that’s fine). Maybe there are benefits in the interactions you can have when you’ve accepted a friend request - I don’t know. But if someone just messages me, and they’re interesting, as long as I can engage with them quietly, that’s all I require.
Deleted Member Posted August 22, 2021 Posted August 22, 2021 I don't accept (or send) friend requests on here unless it is people I regularly interact with and am friendly with. Those people probably aren't all that interested in seeing my secret gallery - and as we said before, you can open secret gallery without friending - I just find it nice as a validation and hey I like you and you like me, and we're kink friends
Deleted Member Posted August 22, 2021 Posted August 22, 2021 Private message first see if you gel and be careful. Most are fine but there can be some unsavoury customers. Be careful be safe have fun
Deleted Member Posted August 22, 2021 Posted August 22, 2021 Be very careful, I’ve been receiving messages from escorts.. That’s just not cool. I don’t judge but come on enough is enough..
Mz**** Posted August 22, 2021 Posted August 22, 2021 3 minutes ago, GranLoboMalo said: Be very careful, I’ve been receiving messages from escorts.. That’s just not cool. I don’t judge but come on enough is enough.. You can adjust settings to stop Pro accounts I think..if they're not pro..ie don't have a € symbol on their profile..report them..admin will action that pretty fast.
Ky**** Posted August 23, 2021 Posted August 23, 2021 i thought just being accepted as a friend wasn't enough to unlock the private pics, thought you still had to ok them
sm**** Posted August 26, 2021 Posted August 26, 2021 Iv'e always kept my friends list online low. There is nothing worse than people collection friends just to look popular. Those that matter to me and I trust get to be able to contact me off fet. I have made many friends over the past 30 odd years, ones that get my contact details are those i trust!. Large number of online friends doesn't equate to that person being trusted or to gain access to any of your personal info or pictures. At the end of the day someone might be "popular" but does this mean they can be trusted, it's your own security and safety you have to think of at the end of the day. Take time over many conversations or actually meeting in a real life situation as many do before accepting requests.
Deleted Member Posted August 26, 2021 Posted August 26, 2021 I'm sure there's something on the website version about this, a trust type rating based on the number of friends you have? I think there was a line like "this kinkster may not be who they say thay are based on the number of messages they've sent and the number of friends they have."? It was a long time ago mind so it's probably well off these exact words. I only remember as I checked my own profile and was a bit gutted to see I had the same tag at the time. I probably still do too as I don't 'friend' people easily. Perhaps people blindly 'friending' is a way of artificially upping their trustabillity?
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