Introductions.

[no****]

Most that say that don’t respond to anyone anyways and they use that as an excuse to try and justify

[fr****]

Norfolk isn’t it funny and sad in a way how we just love to jump to give ourselves excuses for not doing something that might give the opportunity to improve our life.

[sh****]

PREACHHHHH. it's bullsh*t you even have to explain it. But I hope every single woman on this app reads the entirety of this post.

[Co****]

Bruh spitting bars over here

[bo****]

every single word of that ☝️

[gl****]

On point

[th****]

P.S. It’s also exactly how you would greet someone in public or at a bar, so once again, the interesting part comes after.

[Ne****]

Why not add a comment about something in their profile.. Shows you've at least read the profile.

[Ta****]

Sometimes people don't write a single word in their profile. What are you suppose to do?

[Be****]

Low Effort Women get low effort openings. if i match you and you match back, you should be the one reaching out. if you expect the other person to initiate after you matched them back you're the low effort person.

[Kumblstr6969]

I don't know if we match or not but I'll message you

[Ne****]

In reality.. there is no right answer to this. Everyone is different.

"Low effort" translates loosely to " look buddy.. we get 50+ messages a week so if you want our attention.. read our minds and say something clever." That's an impossible scenario to get perfect. What works with one might completely turn off the next.

Just be you. If you're what they want, they'll answer. Put on a show and anyone with half a brain will call you out on it or ignore. The ultimate result is the same.

[Bn****]

I would agree that effort is tied to reward or keeping interest. The audience whether male, female or couple can always define how much should be put into it. The level of experience can drive how you try or how you receive someone’s effort.

[Ar****]

Hey and how is it going is a conversation opening like i care and want to know you ..
But people think it is better if we start by nice ass now ?!!

[To****]

The, my boi, your best bet is to ask about something they have in their bio. It's a great litmus test. If they have something in their bio that stuck out to you, they probably have an interest in talking about it, and if they have no bio, I pretty much universally assume they're a bot, or at least I have no interest in anybody that thought they were gonna woo me with pictures alone.

[Re****]

I like to think that I'm good at keeping a convo going and evolving, however, the initial starting of the conversation is where I just blank out and smile awkwardly/resort to emojis and memes.

[gt****]

Low effort to me is "here for a good time not a long time." "Up for anything / open minded lets chat!" and then - No reply to everything. Variations of "Just seeing what's out there / checking out the app, will write more later" user joined 8 years ago.
But i will say when the felatio ratio is as lopsided as it is , I'm just guessing that most of the effort is trying to work through the avalanche of an inbox and parade of d**k pic openers. I don't know how you women do it sometimes.
In the end just try to put a little personality in there when and if you can and if you click or vibe or have chemistry or fireworks or some weird new acronym i don't know about yet with someone then it'll happen.

Most likely you get no reply, laughed at or ignored. Congrats you just weeded out another one who wasn't gonna be the right fit anyway...... ya know? I'm rambling.
Happy Friday, cheers and heres hoping we all find what we are looking for and what or whoever they are ......they make all your exes jealous and /or completely disgusted. 😁 (OP, good post man 👍👏)

[lo****]

Very well said like the amount of people that just don’t respond or made and account and never check it is insane. Hard to actually find someone to talk to lol.

[Al****]

Agree, the opening move is simply an opening. But if after the other person is not able to handle a conversation and seems replying with AI she immediately turn me off. In my opinion this platform should be for real people who live certain dynamics, not a sort of another silly dating app for bored people seeking for attentions

[sp****]

The way I see it, if you cant go wrong with, "hello, how are you doing today?" If they dont wanna answer, safe to say they are stuck up. And not worth my time.

[wo****]

The fact of life is certain people are used to being chased and they expect you to say the perfect thing immediately. If you do not they get the attention elsewhere.

[sa****]

How about taking a second to find something you like in someone instead of spamming hundreds of messages like a horny frat guy
If youre to scared of a little effort maybe this app isnt for you. They dont owe you crap thats the reality

[Ti****]

^^^ Grade a Sub\Simp over here

[Si****]

I’d rather have hi, how are you then, wanna see my big D or show me your t*#ts. I always try to respond to everyone and give them a chance to feel out their personality.

[bl****]

I completely agree, I don't respond...