sa**** Posted September 19 Like a pick up meet situation for two parties and only the admin on the pass would have any knowledge of the stay ?
Deleted Member Posted September 19 Since covid, nobody knows how to have basic human to human conversations..a simple hello isnt good enough anymore..if thats the case, I dont want to talk to them anyways..now I have to have some bs creative introduction just to still not get a response back..yeah, that ‘interesting stuff’ will come if you have the decency to atleast say hello back
ru**** Posted September 19 F**k man Atleast people message you. I don’t get messages and I don’t get responses when I get messages. I’m starting to think it’s a lost cause. Better luck at the bar at this point
ba**** Posted September 19 I've yet to get a response here. Getting to be too much entitlement online these days. Also the asshats are making us few serious people look bad being rude and making demands to complete strangers. Social media ruined dating
ba**** Posted September 19 1 minute ago, baconmobile said: I've yet to get a response here. Getting to be too much entitlement online these days. Also the asshats are making us few serious people look bad being rude and making demands to complete strangers. Social media ruined dating Why type a life story just to get ignored anyway? Then we saying too much lol.
No**** Posted September 19 I wanna know why… why you reply they still act uninterested. Or when you spend time with them they still keep Their options open they dont wana commit. Explain that after said above message. Then maybe u get why women dont wanna respond
Gi**** Posted September 19 I think the real answer to this, at least in MY experience/opinion, is if I do just say “hey” “how are you” on my end it IS low effort because if I’m genuinely interested, i try to find common ground whether it’s sexual or some sort of common ground, but that also takes effort on the other end of putting out their interests, some profiles are dry and are trying to be carried by looks, and that may work for them, it makes it harder to start a conversation for sure. That being said if it’s working it’s because it’s just based and not chemistry based and that’s also fine, different strokes I suppose. Regardless the fun part about it is tweaking your opening lines because if they are just getting sent to the void, there really isn’t any harm in experience and trying to learn what works and what doesn’t. Women also receive a multitude of responses so if it’s not something interesting it does get lost into the void. Either way Gods***d.
TD**** Posted September 19 I think something like what you would say to someone you met in person. For example “Hi, my name is _______. I read your profile and it sparked my interest and would like to get to know you better. If you’re interested in chatting let me know.” It’s important to say you actually read the profile. Especially with women who took the time to write out their thoughts. Usually you’ll find a nugget of helpful information to start a topic of conversation. And if the woman is clever she most likely put something in her profile that proves you read it. If the woman doesn’t have much in her profile then you can say “Since you didn’t provide much information in your profile and I’d like to know more about you.” Something that shows you noticed. And I think this goes for both men and women initiating a conversation.
to**** Posted September 19 Let’s just agree that women don’t think they should have to try.. and men are the ultimate try-hards and only making the problem worse by NOT leaving it at “hi how are you”. I know y’all laugh at the thought of not constantly trying to increase your perceived man status by just going for ridiculous body count, but literally, y’all are the ones making it harder on yourselves lol and the sad thing is that you’re completely and utterly powerless to change your ways. You will continue to say and do anything for some play, and then complain about women acting the way you trained them to.
ro**** Posted September 19 You just hit the nail on the head! The amount of people I see with nothing in their bio except "don't just say hi how are you" really annoys me. Want me to open with something that piques your interest? Give me something to go on, a few pictures of you posing in a mirror aren't enough to give me something interesting to open with, I cant just guess what you like, give me a clue!
Deleted Member Posted September 19 11 hours ago, ChromeStarz said: "Hi...you take beautiful pictures of rivers and I'd love to see more beard". You left out the "show you read a profile and are responding to something specifically to break the ice" approach. We'll respectfully disagree with the "hey how are you" line....still not fans. Im glad you gave your opinion, I coulsnt agree more
Vi**** Posted September 19 If I had to make a guess, I'd say the ones that start off with hi, hey, how are you, etc, are the ones that are blasting out 30 messages a day hoping they get a response. I don't think the men that are actually interested in talking with someone will start off like that. At the very least I think they would mention why they decided to message the woman in the first place. I don't get a ton of dm's from women on here but i'd say 90% of them start off with less than 3 words so what I do is just match their energy. If they start off with hey, I respond with hey, or hello. If they don't get more interesting after that initial contact, I just stop responding.
ey**** Posted September 19 15 hours ago, johnnypro1 said: You can reach out to 50, 100, even 150 people and maybe get a couple of genuine responses So my take is largely around this If you are reaching out to 50, 100, 150, more... then that is the problem. You start to feel drained and lose thought of effort because you're reaching out to too many people. I honestly feel a lot of people lean into self-serving failure - because the women on the other end, especially when they see a lot of low effort messages - pretty much figure you are just reaching out to everyone in a radius and hoping for the best. Whilst some won't mind this; others will and so that's a reject. And of course, it does little to stand out if they also get a sea of low effort messages My tip. Be selective. Don't race to message as many people as possible and hope for the best, take your time. If you limit who you message to those who most interest you and who you seem most compatible with then this comes across in your messge and is more likely to get a response or go somewhere and if it doesn't, you've had 1 rejection. Not 150.
Ne**** Posted September 19 14 hours ago, Tantrichippieinsj said: Sometimes people don't write a single word in their profile. What are you suppose to do? Then they aren't putting forth any effort.. But if that's what you're looking for, go for it.
Ch**** Posted September 19 6 hours ago, TDubsTech said: I think something like what you would say to someone you met in person. For example “Hi, my name is _______. I read your profile and it sparked my interest and would like to get to know you better. If you’re interested in chatting let me know.” It’s important to say you actually read the profile.” We disagree on this. This intro is copy/paste. *Saying* you read a profile is miles away from *showing* you read a profile. If you read back your DM intro and can see it can be sent over and over to anyone, it's likely to be sniffed out badly. Comment on a picture, statement, interest specific to them. Besides, if "hey, how are you" is responded to with "fine"...why not just start off with whatever interesting thing you'd follow with?
ey**** Posted September 19 7 hours ago, TDubsTech said: For example “Hi, my name is _______. I read your profile and it sparked my interest and would like to get to know you better. If you’re interested in chatting let me know.” I would elaborate on WHAT in the profile sparked interest. That in itself can also be a conversation starter. "I see you like rope / Dr Who / reading / whatever... which I also like... here is a conversational tidbit"
ey**** Posted September 19 9 hours ago, baconmobile said: Why type a life story just to get ignored anyway? Then we saying too much lol. why you writing a life story. Like honestly, a short paragraph - like why are you message THEM? I don't get the "hey, so just writing 'Hi are you' isn't enough" warrants a response of "OMG! I'm not writing my entire life story out for you!!!!" as if you're implying it's a chore to write more than a few words.
ey**** Posted September 19 15 hours ago, Tantrichippieinsj said: Sometimes people don't write a single word in their profile. What are you suppose to do? so why are you messaging them *shrug* like if they've not written anything and you don't know anything about them why are you even wasting your time? Their profile could be blank for a number of reasons. Skip past them Or if you really really, REALLY must message them you GENUINELY can't think of anything above "Hi, how are you?" I'm starting to agree with the whole "social media made people dumb" thing.
De**** Posted September 19 13 hours ago, Kharnbind said: You can message 150 people on here, or any dating app with the perfect introduction where you have read up on their wants and kink that tick all the boxes, then get 0 responses. Yeah, I have a hard time believing that😂
De**** Posted September 19 13 hours ago, C38 said: Preach!! Especially when they have some bland profile with almost no info in it…. Why are you messaging people with bland profiles with almost no info on it anyway?
De**** Posted September 19 Interesting how men would rather high-five each other and bitch about women and argue with them than actually listen to the women commenting. And you wonder why we don't want to talk to you😂 after getting hundreds, maybe thousands of messages from guys on these apps, we eventually learn what kind of guys to weed out. Especially the self-proclaimed "nice guys" here in the comments
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