ey**** Posted September 19 14 hours ago, Kharnbind said: You can message 150 people on here, or any dating app with the perfect introduction where you have read up on their wants and kink that tick all the boxes, then get 0 responses. in this case your messages weren't as 'perfect' as you think and if you're messaging 150 people this, again, feels not selective.
ja**** Posted September 19 37 minutes ago, Demeter333 said: Why are you messaging people with bland profiles with almost no info on it anyway? But you think your profile is interesting? There's a lot of words there but 4/5 of it is you ranting about what you don't want. That's not interesting that's not giving us a glimpse at how great you are it's telling us that you're already scolding people you haven't met
Ve**** Posted September 19 Watch Hoe_Math on YouTube. He explains this entire concept best. Social media destroyed everything. Women believe they are the prize because they are drowning in desperate horny men wanting sex. Men are the prize because we control the gate to commitment and long-term relationships. Women are inundated with quantity and have little to no intuition to discern quality on apps like this. Either hit them with a sledgehammer or let them enjoy their dopamine rush. When a woman gives a bland response, the bottom line is, they just aren’t really interested. Discard those messages (erase them) and move along. Take none of it personally. Most women are not even on here to meet anyone. Many are only here for attention and nothing more.
Le**** Posted September 19 1 hour ago, Demeter333 said: Interesting how men would rather high-five each other and bitch about women and argue with them than actually listen to the women commenting. And you wonder why we don't want to talk to you😂 after getting hundreds, maybe thousands of messages from guys on these apps, we eventually learn what kind of guys to weed out. Especially the self-proclaimed "nice guys" here in the comments The whole problem with the "listen to women" thing you put forward is that each woman wants different things, tells you the wrong things half the time because she doesn't even know what the hell she wants, and then when you point at the confusion you get a snarky attack comment like what you just posted. We REALLY don't want someone like that replying to us, so most of us are happy to be saved the trouble. I've fucked my share of high maintenance crazy, I'm never disappointed to get passed up by it.
Sa**** Posted September 19 I received this message the other day that specifically said that they were interested in chatting with me about what I was looking for. They also stated that they had thoroughly read my profile first. I know this because he seemed to know what I enjoy before even mentioning anything. Sadly though just as we were getting involved with each other. He informed me that he needed some time to himself currently. I definitely respect him so I gave him the space he needed and hopefully for the best outcome in the future. 🥹
So**** Posted September 19 I read profiles, send personalized messages, and still don’t get any responses. Not even a “sorry not for me”
Fr**** Posted September 19 I read profiles and send a message based on similar tastes. But truth be told im sure its mostly women on here who struggle because us guys dont get many messages back let a lone starter ones
sardonicus87 Posted September 19 4 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: so why are you messaging them *shrug* like if they've not written anything and you don't know anything about them why are you even wasting your time? Their profile could be blank for a number of reasons. Skip past them Or if you really really, REALLY must message them you GENUINELY can't think of anything above "Hi, how are you?" I'm starting to agree with the whole "social media made people dumb" thing. This is why I don't send many messages,.extremely rare because I want something that has a chance of being IRL (absolutely sick of the Internet and want real world only), so I only look within a reasonable distance. Literally all but like two profiles are blank, bland or dry (and those two clearly wouldn't want to talk to someone like me). Nobody wants anything real anymore. Also, why is everything always 0 or 100, why can't anything be a steady 50? It's either nothing or "idk" or "I hate these things" or it's "War & Peace". Like, there literally are NO options here, like at all. And the only filters? Age 21-55 and within 90 miles.
sardonicus87 Posted September 19 And the problem is, there's nobody at the only munch in town either, it's the same 5-6 people over and over that I have literally nothing in common with regarding kink OR non-kink interests. And the worst part of it is, people presume it's all my fault, that I must be doing something wrong because it's not possible otherwise, because "their friend in some other rural area has no problems meeting people". Literally online is the only place and I'm sorry but, I can't move and 1,000+ miles is much too far and that's the only (real) people who have ever tried to talk to me, literally aa minimum of 1,000 miles away. So I get and understand frustration, I'm the one of the only ones of almost nobody that's putting in ANY effort at all in a pretty wide area, online is the only place there is and it's as dead as real-world. There are no meet-up groups for even other interests, everyone at the café and in anywhere public is cold and standoffish, not open to approach, face buried in phone. But this isn't a gender wars thing, at least half of all the complaints in this thread actually do cut both ways almost equally while some definitely cut more one way than the other, and I don't know why suddenly everywhere online, everyone is trying to re-ignite them. Like why are any of you even on dating sites, you all clearly just want online quick hit, no effort dopamine validation and all forgot how to be real people, forgot that friendship takes real effort. Sick of this bs constantly now.
sardonicus87 Posted September 19 Like everyone needs to get off the Internet, go in the real world, and leave the main character syndrome at home.
OB**** Posted September 19 Thats the generation now days they dont actually know how to converse off screen
Re**** Posted September 19 10 hours ago, VirginiaGuy77 said: If I had to make a guess, I'd say the ones that start off with hi, hey, how are you, etc, are the ones that are blasting out 30 messages a day hoping they get a response. I don't think the men that are actually interested in talking with someone will start off like that. At the very least I think they would mention why they decided to message the woman in the first place. I don't get a ton of dm's from women on here but i'd say 90% of them start off with less than 3 words so what I do is just match their energy. If they start off with hey, I respond with hey, or hello. If they don't get more interesting after that initial contact, I just stop responding. Exactly. Try less, give more. I will not play with a man who can’t match my energy. Im a giver, I expect the same.
Ge**** Posted September 19 We men need to be better hunters. Y'all scare most real women away within 3 days, if not 3 hours. And it's not just the 'hey' from some dude with the handle of girthworm landing in their inbox literally day AND night. It's also some bro flexing with his morning wood in a hazy bathroom mirror, commenting "nice rack" to the photo of them in a boudoir setting. Let's all do better for all mankind.
bo**** Posted September 19 8 hours ago, Demeter333 said: Interesting how men would rather high-five each other and bitch about women and argue with them than actually listen to the women commenting. And you wonder why we don't want to talk to you😂 after getting hundreds, maybe thousands of messages from guys on these apps, we eventually learn what kind of guys to weed out. Especially the self-proclaimed "nice guys" here in the comments So being perfectly polite gets you blocked when the woman initiates contact? Make it make sense.
Li**** Posted September 19 Well most females just ghost anyway regardless or attempt to sell you something.
ja**** Posted September 19 6 hours ago, sardonicus87 said: This is why I don't send many messages,.extremely rare because I want something that has a chance of being IRL (absolutely sick of the Internet and want real world only), so I only look within a reasonable distance. Literally all but like two profiles are blank, bland or dry (and those two clearly wouldn't want to talk to someone like me). Nobody wants anything real anymore. Also, why is everything always 0 or 100, why can't anything be a steady 50? It's either nothing or "idk" or "I hate these things" or it's "War & Peace". Like, there literally are NO options here, like at all. And the only filters? Age 21-55 and within 90 miles. First of all not everyone is as capable of writing a profile as they are interesting in real life but put that aside for a moment, who decides what's Bland or dry? Because again you ask any man on here and almost every single female's profile is either bitching about men or self-aggrandizing garbage. None of you say anything very interesting but we put up with it because as men we have to. It wouldn't hurt for women to be a little bit more open-minded instead of acting like this is an episode of Who's Got Talent
ja**** Posted September 19 10 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: in this case your messages weren't as 'perfect' as you think and if you're messaging 150 people this, again, feels not selective. You being disingenuous, I guarantee you 90% of the traction you get on here is because of your partner drawing in people. Not you
No**** Posted September 20 I expect effort in all 100+ invitations sent. I don’t become less when I don’t get my way. That’s ridiculous. Keep showing up as yourself and you will attract who you want to be seen by. Those that are lacking in many ways, don’t get to see as many wins as they need to show up with the genuine confidence. I get a ton of messages and while I reject many for lacking mental desirability, I really appreciate those that show genuine interest and some effort. For me, an intro doesn’t need to wow me (but it’s always fun if you can manage), it just needs to grab my attention. In this area, I don’t come across my type very often. I love a gentle, eager, teachable sub. I prefer women. But there are a TON of males and most seem to be self-centered and bratty asf. 😂😂😂 But whatever. I enjoyed this topic. Thanks for posting about it.
da**** Posted September 20 4 hours ago, jaxnorth said: You being disingenuous, I guarantee you 90% of the traction you get on here is because of your partner drawing in people. Not you This is unnecessarily mean.
da**** Posted September 20 4 hours ago, jaxnorth said: First of all not everyone is as capable of writing a profile as they are interesting in real life but put that aside for a moment, who decides what's Bland or dry? Because again you ask any man on here and almost every single female's profile is either bitching about men or self-aggrandizing garbage. None of you say anything very interesting but we put up with it because as men we have to. It wouldn't hurt for women to be a little bit more open-minded instead of acting like this is an episode of Who's Got Talent Most woman are like this because we are sick of men just window shopping. If someone takes the time to look past my pictures, then I’ll be more inclined to entertain what they want
Cl**** Posted September 20 It is windowshopping. Hell I can't even message anyone and I laid the stupid fee. This app is horrible. All it does is inflate women's ego way beyond our reach. Some if you get 100s of messages a day and don't even read them probably. Men get zero. what are we paying for lol. To inflate your ego. Just my observation. I do much better in real life. This is just boredom and testing the water. I've made my mind up though. This is 👎👎👎
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