Kept dormant too long.

[Wo****]

I've been into bdsm and kinks for a few years and I have tried with pervious relationships and always been judged because of it, keeping it hidden for a while because if judgment. Would like to know other people's experiences dealing with this similar situations. Joined this app in the hopes of changing being new to the bdsm, kink and fetish world not sure how to approach even though I'm a dom I am quite shy and never know what to say or how to start a convocation. Tips and advice is also welcome. I'm bad with wording so sorry if this makes no sense.

[Gb****]

No matter what you say girls will pick up u if u present interest to them ,u can write to 1000 girls in any way possible ,if they are not intersting they don t give u any chance.Is quite frustrasting when u see them how important pretend to be ,they will watching u like a another wanker or something like that.

[Dustykat]

I understand what your saying, I m lucky cause all my relationships have been BDSM so didn't have to explain. But if your looking for a BDSM relationship this is a good place to start and just being yourself is the only recommendation I have and polite. That should be all you need and good luck.🧚‍♀️

[ge****]

What is it that makes you think you are a dominant? What interests you about the lifestyle? Are your interests based on porn or something deeper?
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All this and more will be things that potential partners will be looking to find out.
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It's fine of course to lack experience, but the key to taking the first steps to gaining that experience is to understand yourself and your own motivations.
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My advice to you would be to read as much as you can, and start to form an idea of why you think you are dominant, what style of dominant you think you are etc.
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Get involved in the forums and chat rooms here, get along to any munches (socials for kinksters) local to you, or kink events - not with a view to anything "happening" but to talk to others, learn and start to understand yourself better.
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Take a look at your profile and see if it truly explains who you are and that you understand both yourself and the lifestyle and if it doesn't think about how you could change it.
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It's easy to say "I am Dom" or "I am sub" but to actually be one or the other takes a little introspection and understanding.
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If/once you understand yourself then approach people respectfully and politely just as you would any other person, see if there's a match (99/100 there won't be), be open, be honest, be yourself.

[Mo****]

2 hours ago, Dustykat said:

I understand what your saying, I m lucky cause all my relationships have been BDSM so didn't have to explain. But if your looking for a BDSM relationship this is a good place to start and just being yourself is the only recommendation I have and polite. That should be all you need and good luck.🧚‍♀️

And honest with an open mind and a willingness to explore.

[PassionateAngel]

Welcome to the rabbit hole - follow your kinky desires

[Leisa]

I make my interests known from the very beginning. If my potential has no interest and has never explored than I don’t feel as if I’ve invested only to find out I’ve wasted my time and invested in a dead end relationship. Complete honesty is important. Rather to be judged early than to develop feelings and be ***d to make a decision later.

[Deleted Member]

I understand completely, brother. I've never been in a relationship where my unorthodox desires have been welcome. Having repressed and hidden these desires, I have felt like I'm leading a deceitful double life. I joined here to finally proclaim (even kind of saying it out loud to myself and really owning it) that I have urges that are okay to have.

I have no idea how to really share them with someone on this site, but I know it takes patience. People online are real people, too, and most people don't just hop in bed with drooling strangers.

Don't know if this helps, but it's a hell of a "hello," I guess!