Lack of creativity

[Deleted Member]

Does the lack of creativity and effort in taking photos of themselves bother you just as much as it does for us? When I see zero thought or care then you will get the same reaction by us back to you. Step your game up people!

[mi****]

You make a good point, but please try to remember not everyone is photogenic, a lot of us (myself included ) are quite the opposite, that’s why we discover our types by mainly talking to others.

[Deleted Member]

Any suggestions? What should people being doing in their photos?

[Pl****]

Sorry! Some of us lack cameras (that's me), and some of us lack camera skills (probably also me, if I had a camera), and I'm sure some people just have busy lives and more important things to do than try to impress strangers on the internet. I try not to hold poor pictures against anyone, and simply appreciate when they're done well.

[ge****]

There are certainly times I wonder at some pics how people don't see them the same way as I do, but then I remember that not everyone is "creative" and that it's a subjective thing - what I may not like, others may and vice versa.
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I also think there's an element of perception of what does/doesn't make a good picture comes into it especially amongst a lot of men whose view appears to be a little skewed by porn.
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Then there's the simple thing of knowledge how to use phone cameras and basic editing software to enhance pictures.
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Ultimately though, live and let live - nothing forces me to do anything more than momentarily glance at a picture before scrolling on.

[Deleted Member]

I’m not sure who you’re referring to as “us”, but I personally don’t want to see a creative photo or one that’s been filtered and made to be fake. Show me the real you. What do you look like day to day. Show me the real you because that’s what I’m going to see day to day.

[Deleted Member]

Next time I find a painted breeze block wall, I'll be sure to make it my profile picture too

[kr****]

First of all your partner lacks creativity lol just like all the other trolls on the internet I was honeypot years ago in the scene and left and now everybody honey everything lol so stop trolling dude

[Deleted Member]

10 minutes ago, Leftcurve said:

I’m not sure who you’re referring to as “us”, but I personally don’t want to see a creative photo or one that’s been filtered and made to be fake. Show me the real you. What do you look like day to day. Show me the real you because that’s what I’m going to see day to day.

Im with you on that. Guys are just guys, we don't wear makeup and we don't use filters. What you see is what you get... When I see a "basic" picture of a woman it's much more attractive to me than a "fake" one. I love real, natural and confident!

[Blueflie]

Sometimes what I have imagined doesn’t turn out like I expect it too

[Deleted Member]

So you are criticising people, with an air of superiority & self grandeur, because they do not conform to your views & ideas. That they should, instead of just being themselves, with what they are comfortable with, plan & stage every photo they upload, like the Instagram attention seekers, spending time planning their images, creating scenarios, using certain photography techniques, taking piles of photos, repeating poses & set ups over & over till they think they have captured the perfect shot within the scene, the angles, the lighting like its professional photo shoot...

Have you considered that maybe a lot of people just aren't that pretentious, that they aren't seeking perfection in their images, that they are just showing who they are & not thinking they need to be a model & a photography expert, that they don't care about conforming to a standard set by others like you, after all this is a kink site & not a photography site & how about people who aren't comfortable with being photographed, that they are uncomfortable with posing, could be very self conscious about being photographed, especially for someone else to take a photo & just click some selfies so they have something to put on their profiles. Plus how about people who are single, that aren't open to everyone about their kink lifestyle & don't have someone to take photos of them posing like you do with your partner.

You are putting people down & criticising members because they do not conform to your way of thinking, your desire for perfection, to your view of how they should act, instead of just doing what they are comfortable with & they should change & strive to be just like you... Put your ego away & let people be & do what they want without your demands on them.

[Deleted Member]

We are both assholes and say things to instigate discussion. Clearly his brat approach worked. 😂. It’s cool if you want to personally attack me or our couples account. That’s to be expected. ☮️💟

[Deleted Member]

I looked at the three photos in your profile for some photographic inspiration but found ... absolutely none. Step up your own game?

[Char__]

What a couple of assholes! 🤣🤣🤣

What I am interested by is the amount of people who have jumped to quickly think that a creative photograph will use filters and not look like the person. That's an interesting assumption.

Personally, I love to see a creative photo because it tells me a little bit about someone. I also don't want to see up your nose and your selfie, but hey, that's just me 😉

[Deleted Member]

No need for filters or makeup. Just take the time to capture yourself in a faltering way. Clean your room or be aware of your surroundings. You don’t need to be photogenic to be able to capture yourself in a flattering way. Angles angles angles. The criticism on my end with the photos is equal to the criticism to those who don’t know how to introduce themselves in DMs.

[Deleted Member]

Maybe my kink is people putting effort or maybe I’m just an asshole 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

I mean, a selfie is just a selfie? What the hell do you mean by being more creative? Not everyone has the equipment or a second person to take anything other than a selfie.
I would class your profile photos as just selfies and not ‘creative’ like most peoples and my own. If you mean in private then same goes again anything over that a selfie if no decent camera or phone or equipment, it would take all day for a good photo. People have better things to do

[Deleted Member]

Well......from reading that it seems your chosen name fits quite well.

[Du****]

We can’t all be picture-perfect, and we shouldn’t be judgemental about looks or shape - kinky people are better than that! But we should take care over the factors we can control: make sure the background doesn’t include your unmade bed, yesterday’s groks on the floor, or your filthy bathroom. Holding your phone up higher will show you at a better angle and we won’t have to pretend to admire your natty lighting fixtures 😂 it’s the little details…

[CopperKnob]

If only I had a boat that i could take a selfie on...oh, no, hold on, wait, I get sea sick 🤢 so that won't work 😥
Does it really matter? People will take/post pics that they are happy with and that's all that matters.
It doesn't matter what you, I or anyone else thinks of the pic.
If you don't like what you see, don't 'heart' it. Scroll past it and get on with your life.
Your profile is 2 weeks old, the community is supposed to be one that is non judgemental. I wouldn't say it's the best start though, I guess it depends on what impression of yourselves you want to present. It's not all about pictures.

[Go****]

Personally I prefer just natural pictures of people
And creativity is subjective to each individual
I will add that it does help when people do tidy their space they are taking a pic in

[Redneck_Nerd]

It never fails to amaze me on this site, how far some people seem to go to take offense to what are often such simple observations, or expressions of personal preferences (It's a kink site FFS, it's all about personal preferences and what specific things get you going)...  And then even going so far as to engage in the criticizing, judgemental attacks that they're accusing or assuming of others.

The observation that a poorly taken or 'lazy' photo is generally not as interesting or attractive as one that was taken with a little effort or care isn't an attack.  It's not a demand for everyone to look like pro models or have pro photographers and equipment.  It's really not an unreasonable criticism, especially in the context of being a very generalized statement which focuses on nobody in particular...

 

Such defensive reactions aside, some of the biggest problems in amateur photos are nothing near a need for professional skills and equipment, or the looks of professional models.

I spend time daily on this site looking at all sorts of peoples photos, It's probably my favorite activity here to be totally honest.  This site is full of beautiful people (and I don't mean that in the context of conventional beauty or just those that "could be models"), and a lot of the photos I see that don't really do it for me really only suffer from easily addressed issues.

 

One of the biggest is as simple as adequate lighting, especially if you're the typical amateur who doesn't have high end cameras and photography/editing skills.  When it's too dark photos typically come out grainy, blurry and unclear by default, and this is very easily addressed with a little more light.

When you're not particularly comfortable with having pictures taken, awkward attempts to pose for the photo tend to highlight that awkwardness rather than improve the photo.  It's sound advice to work on not trying to pose for the camera in the first place, which leaves you looking more natural, lending itself directly into taking better photos, which in the longer term helps improve that confidence and comfort levels as well. 

Heavy reliance on and overuse of filters can also tend to take away from a photo more than they add...  You're beautiful as-is, and heavily filtering a photo does the same as awkwardly or uncomfortably trying to pose, which is to draw attention away from just you being you and highlights stuff like a lack of confidence (which honestly sometimes isn't even there, but that's the impression it can give).

[na****]

Not everyone wants pics or make believe D/s relationships online. I’m looking for the “real” thing to be fair! The thought and care should go into a real person, a real relationship, not a pic or a keyboard warrior! 🤷🏼‍♀️

[ey****]

I think it depends on what you mean by creativity

I think obviously being able to do something interesting or unique can be a stand out point; but not everyone has necessarily the tools or ideas.

[na****]

4 hours ago, Redneck_Nerd said:

It never fails to amaze me on this site, how far some people seem to go to take offense to what are often such simple observations, or expressions of personal preferences (It's a kink site FFS, it's all about personal preferences and what specific things get you going)...  And then even going so far as to engage in the criticizing, judgemental attacks that they're accusing or assuming of others.

The observation that a poorly taken or 'lazy' photo is generally not as interesting or attractive as one that was taken with a little effort or care isn't an attack.  It's not a demand for everyone to look like pro models or have pro photographers and equipment.  It's really not an unreasonable criticism, especially in the context of being a very generalized statement which focuses on nobody in particular...

 

Such defensive reactions aside, some of the biggest problems in amateur photos are nothing near a need for professional skills and equipment, or the looks of professional models.

I spend time daily on this site looking at all sorts of peoples photos, It's probably my favorite activity here to be totally honest.  This site is full of beautiful people (and I don't mean that in the context of conventional beauty or just those that "could be models"), and a lot of the photos I see that don't really do it for me really only suffer from easily addressed issues.

 

One of the biggest is as simple as adequate lighting, especially if you're the typical amateur who doesn't have high end cameras and photography/editing skills.  When it's too dark photos typically come out grainy, blurry and unclear by default, and this is very easily addressed with a little more light.

When you're not particularly comfortable with having pictures taken, awkward attempts to pose for the photo tend to highlight that awkwardness rather than improve the photo.  It's sound advice to work on not trying to pose for the camera in the first place, which leaves you looking more natural, lending itself directly into taking better photos, which in the longer term helps improve that confidence and comfort levels as well. 

Heavy reliance on and overuse of filters can also tend to take away from a photo more than they add...  You're beautiful as-is, and heavily filtering a photo does the same as awkwardly or uncomfortably trying to pose, which is to draw attention away from just you being you and highlights stuff like a lack of confidence (which honestly sometimes isn't even there, but that's the impression it can give).

It’s really not as serious or overly important 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦