Is anybody else curious?

[69MySTerY69]

I feel pretty alone. Psychology is a subject I have a strong interest in, but most people I meet who profess a similar interest seem satisfied with just labels. Whether it be personality types, or in this case, attractions, nobody goes deeper, nobody asks why. 

Maybe it feels better to have a word for something you don't understand, but that's not how humanity gains knowledge. I came here interested in learning more about the psychology around my mysterious desires, but I'm getting the looming sense that here too people are satisfied with just labels. 

I think there are a lot of people here with self-awareness and the courage to be honest about what makes them tick, but, flicking through the pages, I see a lack of desire to use that to find real correlations.

I hypothesize that fetishes and sexuality are two separate mechanisms which dovetail to form strong desires which I previously mistook for the whole picture. But I have no idea how the mechanism of fetishes operates. I don't know. Is anybody else interested in this kind of thinking?

 

[Matttster]

I find it all very interesting, although I do not have much education along the psychology lines.

I would think that there is overlap in between fetishes and sexuality. That does not mean ya hat they need to be inclusive. As in one does not have to tie sec into a fetish (ie: someone could be restrained and spanked/paddled/caned/flogged/etc with out sex or without arousal. Well assuming we are talking about the same things in fetishes and sexuality.


But I also think that there is often a link between a fetish and sexuality. For example, if someone enjoys impact (being spanked/flogged/etc.) then there it is likely that *** would amplify pleasure when it comes to sex.

[TinyT-75]

I find psychology to be a highly interesting subject and even though I am the to the kink community I do believe, my desire to submit possibly goes back to something darker in my childhood. I'm 46 and have come out of a 16 year relationship where sex never satisfied me no matter how interesting I tried to keep it. But I have always been very much in control as a child I learnt early how to compartmentalise my emotions and now I want to break down the barriers.

[Deleted Member]

I love observing human behavior…I have my masters in counseling psychology and I find that there are very few labels that actually capable of containing the human psyche…

[Deleted Member]

I am very interested in the psychological explanations behind fetishes and how they relate to our personal history and upbringing. I would love to engage in intellectual discussion about fetishes and the psychology and science behind them, so feel free to message me any time you fancy a scholarly discussion!