Do Non-sexual Daddies/mommies exist?

[Deleted Member]

So I'm going through a lot at the moment and find myself wanting someone for more of a caregiver/non sexual Daddy role in my life. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy the sexual side and love exploring more and more BDSM kinks to find out my likes and dislikes but I feel the need for someone who wants to just hold me, go to the park with me, push me on the swings, cuddle, make me feel safe and protected without the sexual stuff being involved.

Do you think there people that would happily fulfil this kind of role?  

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[Deleted Member]

Hi yes they do, you probably want to look at cgl sites (Care Giver Little) there are some on the net cant link but a google will find them, if you go to some dedicated abdl sites as well there are non sexual mommys / daddys on there

[Lombardo43]

A daddy should not expect sex straight away. You get to know eachother first and when your ready your ready. Having a cuddle is good for anyone.Hope you find someone to cuddle soon.

[queensugarberry]

@lukeyB can you list some of the dedicated abdl sites

[queensugarberry]

@lukeyB can you list some of the dedicated abdl sites

[Deleted Member]

14 hours ago, queensugarberry said:

@lukeyB can you list some of the dedicated abdl sites

Hi,

We are not allowed to post links directly, but there are abdl "dating" sites for want of a better word, unfortunately the most popular ones i know are geared towards gay guys but:

diapermates - Men / Women - Free to register and use but there is a cap on the number of messages you can send a day so advised if you like someone on there to exchange kik or emails to continue chatting

fetlife - has a big community of diaper/nappy lovers and cgl groups, as a girl you will probably get a fair bit of attention

datecgl - caregiver/little site

/r/abdlpersonals - Reddit group for posting abdl personals

For those of the gay persuasion:

diaper-bois - awesome site, very active allows you to search by location and those close to you

dl-boy - fairly close knit group but have had some meets from there

x Luke

[Tiny131]

I don't know.

I have been dating this girl for 1.5 years and at first we had sex all the time. Normal as can be. I like to hold and cuddle. I do I love it, but it seems like that is all I get now. I don't take care of her. We live together and share bills. She has a good career. Mine is alright. But I need to feel something more.

I'm losing interest tbh. 

[JigmeDatse]

On 7/21/2018 at 9:57 AM, Lyndsey said:

So I'm going through a lot at the moment and find myself wanting someone for more of a caregiver/non sexual Daddy role in my life. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy the sexual side and love exploring more and more BDSM kinks to find out my likes and dislikes but I feel the need for someone who wants to just hold me, go to the park with me, push me on the swings, cuddle, make me feel safe and protected without the sexual stuff being involved.

Do you think there people that would happily fulfil this kind of role?  

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I think (well know) that this is a thing.  Many ABDL relationships speak of this being not sexual.  Even though there may be a sexual relationship as well.  

[ey****]

A bit of a "yes.... but...."

One potential good place is to look at asexual partners, there are many who are asexual who enjoy different forms of companionship or other dynamics, just not sex.

Otherwise, yes, while mirror logic is something to be cautious on, almost anything you are looking for there's someone on the opposite "I want a Daddy/caregiver only interested in cuddles and looking after me" can be mirrored with someone "I want a babygirl, but not really a sugarbaby - and I'm not that interested in sex, just someone to look after" 

The "yes... but..." is of course, be wary of those who state they're not interested in sexual who are actually secretly hoping you'll one day change your mind and it will become sexual. 

[PhantomFlogger]

Im a care giver that likes littles and ive never slept with anyone in little head space, its a limit of mine..

In my eyes.. something so cute and pure of intentions shouldn't be sexualised or even act sexual towards me.

There are some who enjoy the taboo and dark age play, but for me its not the age they pretend to be, its the feeling of making something so pure and innocent less pure and innocent. I just cant find them sexual.. but my heart still melts when i see a little 😍

[Deleted Member]

I'm also a yes, but...

I've been non sexual as a care giving Daddy. The problem comes if one of you changes your view. It needs very honest conversations to take place.

It depends on the agreements you make on the way in and the limits you set.

[Deleted Member]

I'm a non-sexual  caregiving Daddy

[Mo****]

On 7/21/2018 at 9:57 AM, Lyndsey said:

So I'm going through a lot at the moment and find myself wanting someone for more of a caregiver/non sexual Daddy role in my life. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy the sexual side and love exploring more and more BDSM kinks to find out my likes and dislikes but I feel the need for someone who wants to just hold me, go to the park with me, push me on the swings, cuddle, make me feel safe and protected without the sexual stuff being involved.

Do you think there people that would happily fulfil this kind of role?  

**Moderators note* 

This post is not a personal ad. Please answer the questions posed. 

I've talked to and met lots of people who have nonsexual D/s dynamics and even non-sexual BDSM dynamics. 

It's possible but you MUST be honest and firm with what you're seeking up front.

[3S****]

I'm non-sexual when being mummy. Just don't find it arousing at all.

[Emery-Pie]

It is good to admit the need for emotional support because some people might mistake a request for a Care-Giving-Individual role as being, a D/S discipline and accountability role.  And with clear expectations, much can be enjoyed.

[Deleted Member]

Not really. How else would we get sons and daughters? 😉

[SHADOWBOND57]

I enjoy the emotional support of being a daddy. Like to allow my little to explore and be supportive of her growth. Sex has never been a part of my daddy role.

[ci****]

Non sexual caregivers most definitely exist. The relationship I have with mine is mostly non sexual but just cause of our personalities, we do a lot of flirting. And manage to keep it in our pants for the most part

[An****]

I want to be Nonsexual/Sexual in Littlespace but most Daddies just use me for sex and I don't like it I just want be Nonsexual

[10****]

They can be but not often

[Da****]

We absolutely do exist. That is to say, a proper caregiver is definitely capable of both sexual and nonsexual roles. Some are also very much a strictly sexual role as well. But yes, nonsexual caregivers do exist and can absolutely help when going through tough times. I love both sides of being a caregiver myself, sometimes compassion and understanding can be sexier than anything and lead to more that can help release tensions and stress. When you feel safe and comfortable around someone, it can be the sweetest release from daily stress or tough situations you're going through, even without any sexual contact. But I do believe that it comes with an inherent expectation that we are always looking for the sexual aspect and that's not entirely true. Some of us are truly happy just to help someone feel better than they did yesterday. I personally enjoy being a therapist for people. My knowledge of psychology, all self taught because of my own coping issues and past, have come in handy to help other people work through personal issues in their lives. I don't work as a therapist or anything, but I find it fulfilling in my life to help others as much as I can. For anyone needing to talk, nonsexual or otherwise, my inbox is always open. I do not judge and I have been through enough myself to have an understanding of what someone may have been through. Please do not bottle it up and hide it, find someone you can talk to and that makes you feel safe to open up. Sometimes a solid cuddle and a good cry can be the best the***utic release.

[Li****]

Little space shouldn't be sexualized. Then it's age play. I think a Daddy can still be in that headspace if it becomes a Playtime but when you ask a little or a middle regress, it should be a literal safe space. To be cute and free and whimsical. To become sexual crosses into something not DDLG.

I know that's an unpopular opinion but I feel that's the truest of DDLG relationships. That's why the Dom is usually also other categories, just as the little is. I also feel that's why little space feels different than the sexual ones.

The two, being ageplay and DDLG, get blurred a lot I feel. It's why it's important to be super open with your potential/chosen partner.

This is all of course, just my stoned rant cx

[wa****]

Short answer yes