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3 Major Misconceptions About The Daddy Babygirl relationship

So what's this Daddy's little girl kink or DDlg all about? Writer Princess E unpacks the misconceptions regarding the Daddy babygirl relationship lifestyle.
 


Daddy babygirl relationship kink is a ***philic orientation

And I’m going to explain. The Daddy babygirl relationship is between two consensual adults and has nothing to do with actual kids. Now, of course, there are rotten eggs in every community, and there are going to exist hidden ***philiacs in this scene as well. The trick is not to let the idea take over what is actually real.
 

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A Daddy babygirl relationship is abusive

My relationship is extremely loving, and my Daddy takes care of me. Just because I sometimes am a little, i.e. regress mentally, does not mean he is taking advantage of me. I am an adult and can think of my own. I can say no when needed. Also, I don’t take shit, and I speak my mind. Abusive relationships exist everywhere - but they're not linked by default with DDlg kink.
 

DDlg is incest play

As I said, there are rotten eggs everywhere. The point of a Daddy babygirl relationship is not that the DD is acting like the lg’s real dad. In fact, I’ve started calling my actual dad ”father” just because it feels weird when I have the same name for someone that is my role model in life and the other who is my fiancé and lover.

I DO NOT, I repeat, I DO NOT get turned on by the thought of incestual activities. This is merely a game and a sort of dynamic between me and my fiancé that happens to work for us. It is about the role play, and please notice; the role play is just to let my inner child out and to let my Daddy’s dominant yet nurturing side out. There are, in fact, plenty of examples where a Daddy babygirl relationship is entirely sexless.

 

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A Daddy babygirl relationship can be completely sexless.

 

Who's afraid of Daddy's little girl kink?

For those unfamiliar with fetishes and BDSM, remember that discrimination is based on ***. Be bigger than your ***s. I have gone through hell several times. Guys who look a specific way are often triggers for me. That still does not give me the right to discriminate against them, hate them or even be afraid of them. I understand that I am triggered; the problem is with me.

We all need to learn how to separate our personal scars that cause triggers from real problems. I’ve stumbled across anti-Daddy's little girl kink pages several times. I’m sure there are such sites for all fetishes, and it makes me sad that there is so much hate out there. A lot of people feel offended by our choice of lifestyle but remember fellow kinksters out there: we live our life for ourselves not to please anyone else.


Princess E is a Swedish freelancer who focuses on DDlg, which she's living 24/7. Most of her writings are based on her experiences with her Daddy. Mr. B. 


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