anal easier than from my pusey …

[fl****]

i’m still exploring my body and trying to find more ways that bring me pleasure but i’m confused af about the pain i feel when i try to finger myself or even open it in the slightest.. never had any problems with anal i quiet love it even and the pressure feels really good but i’m still struggling with sticking anything up in my pussy any tips ?

ps i’m a virgin maybe that’s why it hurts but why not from both holes …

[Solar]

Try looking up Vaginismus

[Deleted Member]

Start small and build your way up, and be gentle with yourself, don't force anything, you might hurt yourself

[Deleted Member]

Nice

[Lord_Talion]

It could be tress and anxiety. Both can make such things nearly impossible. Do what yoy can to feel safe and secure.
If you're as relaxed as can be it might be cause you're forcing it or as a sub you might need to be restrained- wearing cuffs can help

[Missy45]

Are you using lube? I can't really give my opinion because I never masturbated when I was a virgin.
Are you only using your finger in your butt or a dildo?

[Deleted Member]

Are you as aroused the same level when trying? I'd suggest maybe some lube but definitely don't force anything. If it hurts stop

[Deleted Member]

Your butthole has had years of practice doing what nature intended of it ...so there is really no such thing as an anal virgin 🤔

[Missy45]

2 minutes ago, Toronto-DaddyDom said:

Your butthole has had years of practice doing what nature intended of it ...so there is really no such thing as an anal virgin 🤔

That is not true...it hurts like hell...lol

[CopperKnob]

When you're aroused your cervix moves up essentially lengthening the vagina. It may be that you're attempting penetration too soon? And no, lube doesn't help in this instance

[zRyan_NY]

In my experience it becomes an issue/painful? Once your mind is actively aware of it, it will become more uncomfortable I suppose is the word.

Can’t help ya on vaginal penetration question sorry 😞.

Though, if I had to take a guess, you are harvesting some anxiety or something about it potentially hurting.

[zRyan_NY]

5 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

When you're aroused your cervix moves up essentially lengthening the vagina. It may be that you're attempting penetration too soon? And no, lube doesn't help in this instance

Yeah I’ve played with a few people who had an inexperienced person (vanilla or in the scene). So your mind is tricking you sometimes to think it will always be like that.

If you are struggling take your time. Explain to your partner or whomever. That there is a reason; as CopperKnob said you are either not into that specific action or are too in your own head.

This is coming from my own experience I can’t speculate on yours. Good luck!

[Jo****]

Pain if you're not used to penetration or masturbation is not uncommon from what I've heard and read; it's usually a case of going too much too quick (you're not a porn star). Go slow, be gentle and use plenty of lube- pain is your body's way of telling you stop or pause, so it might be a gradual thing to teach your body to get used to it. Some people are also more sensitive than others, and it can change depending on whether you're lubricated or time of the month, etc..
If the pain is consistent or there's a lot of irritation it might be worth talking to a GP or Gynecologist, who know much more about sexual health than a bunch of strangers online- they can give you sexual health and wellness advice, including best practices for masturbation, and you'll get free lube to boot.

[an****]

What are you sticking up your pussy and butt and when? Are you inserting stuff into the pussy once you're wet enough?