Sl**** Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 (I really apologise if any of this comes off as rude, I honestly don’t mean it to be rude but it is filled with a bit of sarcasm and.. slightly negative tones 🙏😅🌹. I do tend to post unfiltered, raw emotional stuff on here because I feel it’s the only place I can?) Start off is. On regular dating apps everyone has a goal unless they “don’t know what they want” which in my silly opinion I think you shouldn’t be on a dating app if you “don’t know what you want”. Do some research and some self care, delve deep into yourself from time to time and find what you want. Secondly. When it comes to actually talking to people, on a regular dating app I just have a bunch of questions to see what they are like and then it’s like… I talk to them for some hours and want to advance it but I never can. (If they fit the criteria). When it comes to places of like this type of community, where a lot of my “questions” are already answered, there’s no point in messaging anyone? Because everyone has the same goal and I’m just not going to try and “compete” in this rat race to get the person I’d like to connect with. For instance mostly on here if I ask for people’s hobbies and things, they usually don’t say anything back. My absolute ideal scenario is someone I like talking to (either friend or stranger) just does it. They confess or they say something like “I want to move this further” etc etc. yadayada. I don’t want to ever try and “date” someone. Even if I feel they are perfect for me and I’d just melt at the thought of them wanting me. They clearly don’t like me enough to advance and that’s a clear message to me to say “you aren’t good enough for me” or yadayada friends stuff (I love most of my friends but they also know this so it’s not like it’s some big secret). Having been to a few munches I just kinda sit there and observe everyone, I do want to get involved occasionally but that’s just about it, I don’t personally “kick it off” with anyone like most do. I kind of just sit and smile and interact as most become good friends!! (Nothing wrong with that)! I have come to the complete acceptance what I’m looking for doesn’t actually exist, not in this world anyway, maybe a sci fi novel or a fantasy world where you can create your own ideal people etc. So being happy with life this actually makes me really happy as I’m not desperate whatsoever like I used to be a long time ago. Some people just don’t exist even when you really want them to and you have dreams from time to time about someone like them. I probably do hate trying to “date” people because it’s just not a good idea. Imagine saying “you seem right for me” or something to someone who most definitely doesn’t see you like that 😂😂😂😅🙏 or like “would you want to be with me?” When they haven’t ever stated anywhere that they want to be with you. This is why I can’t just try to “date” someone. I am so open with what I’m looking for that it only takes one person who knows me a tiny bit with one message or a phrase in real life to let me know they like me for me and want to take me further with them. If I’m putting all the effort to share what I really want with the world then everyone knows that if they actually want someone like me, all they have to do is let me know.