3 months of Fet!

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Three months of stepping into the world of Fet!

Two incredible real life experiences.

Hundreds of messages!

Lots learned.

Would love to know from other subs, have I been really lucky? The first Daddy Dom I met gave me a truly life-changing experience. Recently the second Daddy Dom has been the same. I only had one date that didn’t progress because of misalignment.

I think the only poignant insight I have to share from the messaging and filtering is that guys on here can be really salty when you’re not into what they’re into. So I would share with other female subs that as soon as you feel someone is applying pressure to you to do something you don’t want to, even if everything else lines up, you don’t need to do it. You don’t even need to reply. They’re not entitled to your body or your time.

Also weird how guys can get mad at you for being in various locations. The number of times I’ve been called a bot or catfish because of my bio and the fact I dart all over the country. 😹

The only negative experiences I’ve had with this app is with men being entitled, trying to apply pressure, trying to manipulate / guilt, and send shitty messages. So, you guys do better!

Otherwise, this has been a fun experience!

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I am happy for u that u had such a great experience ! :).
But I wouldn't say u are lucky, I would say u are a female.
Look, as a female you don't realy have to search here for ppl you can write to, you get ton's of messages, apply a filter and pick the crème de la crème.
And nearby u can also look for some guys you think are interesting.
And yes, many man can be.. if u are not interested.
I guess it is because lot of them are just realy realy frustrated.

[Jeromiah]

1 hour ago, Devoted said:

I am happy for u that u had such a great experience ! :).
But I wouldn't say u are lucky, I would say u are a female.
Look, as a female you don't realy have to search here for ppl you can write to, you get ton's of messages, apply a filter and pick the crème de la crème.
And nearby u can also look for some guys you think are interesting.
And yes, many man can be.. if u are not interested.
I guess it is because lot of them are just realy realy frustrated.

No offence but I’m female and I don’t get loads of message. Not anymore anyway. Everyone who was talking has suddenly stopped and I’ve had no new messages despite my putting up new status and pictures. If I wanna chat I have to make first move. So no not all females are so popular on here devoted

[Jeromiah]

Now to the op. That’s really cool. I personally have only met 5 and I wouldn’t say the experience was life changing. Sort of ok at best. Pleasant. Nothing exciting. I wanted to roleplay and it never happened so I ended up just having normal dates with these 5 guys and not heard from them again.

[Deleted Member]

I think what Devoted means is that this app is 90% men, so it is “statistically” easier for women on here—by no means does that mean it’s easy.

[Deleted Member]

14 minutes ago, Jeromiah said:

No offence but I’m female and I don’t get loads of message. Not anymore anyway. Everyone who was talking has suddenly stopped and I’ve had no new messages despite my putting up new status and pictures. If I wanna chat I have to make first move. So no not all females are so popular on here devoted

It's fine, i am always open for other opinions.
That's just what I've heard so far :)

[Jeromiah]

That’s not true there’s lots of women on here and they all get lots of messages apparently. So where’s my hundreds of messages? Lol

[Deleted Member]

OP, it's great, and very happy for you! I had similar experiences as Jeromiah, and agree "Not all females are so popular on here".

[Deleted Member]

Yeah, where's my hundreds of messages too?.

[Deleted Member]

Like I said, that's just what I've heard.

[Deleted Member]

I don't want to open a can of worms. I think it is true of hundreds of messages when the women are NEW, or if they have Certain Look and Age Group.

[AKA_Copper]

6 hours ago, Devoted said:

I am happy for u that u had such a great experience ! :).
But I wouldn't say u are lucky, I would say u are a female.
Look, as a female you don't realy have to search here for ppl you can write to, you get ton's of messages, apply a filter and pick the crème de la crème.
And nearby u can also look for some guys you think are interesting.
And yes, many man can be.. if u are not interested.
I guess it is because lot of them are just realy realy frustrated.

Yeah, getting hundreds of shitty messages objectifying me, seeing me as nothing more that a body to dispense kinks that interest the sender of the message is fabulous. I've no idea where all the OP's, including this one, about asking guys to do better come from. They must all be made up by the millions of bots and catfishing women here

You know what they call frustrated men? Incels

[ol****]

22 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

Yeah, getting hundreds of shitty messages objectifying me, seeing me as nothing more that a body to dispense kinks that interest the sender of the message is fabulous. I've no idea where all the OP's, including this one, about asking guys to do better come from. They must all be made up by the millions of bots and catfishing women here

You know what they call frustrated men? Incels

I thought an incel was a male incapable of attracting a female? Ok that might produce fustration I guess .

Generally to the forum at large:

My advice if you are loking for a date, FWIW, send a mesaage, if you get a reply then act accordingly. If you don't then move on, be polite at all times.

I don't think I've ever had a life altering experience on a first date with anybody.

[Deleted Member]

Lol I wish I would get a message 🤣

[Deleted Member]

Possibly a controversial take but receiving hundreds of messages actually makes me less likely to use this app. They’re not high quality messages where they’ve read your profile and have a genuine interest. They’re mostly spam where the guys are taking a s***dy quantitive approach. Therefore the inbox gets clogged up fast and it’s hard to resurface the people you were genuinely interested in playing with and who seemed genuine in their interest in you.

Also, as Copper said, some of the opening messages are gross and not at all about what you’re interested in but about a guy getting off writing the message and sending an unsolicited dick pic.

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, Jeromiah said:

Now to the op. That’s really cool. I personally have only met 5 and I wouldn’t say the experience was life changing. Sort of ok at best. Pleasant. Nothing exciting. I wanted to roleplay and it never happened so I ended up just having normal dates with these 5 guys and not heard from them again.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m sorry it went that way, I think I’m worried about having that experience which is why I was so surprised by the first two people that I did play with. It felt incredibly lucky.

What time frame did you meet the 5 over? I’m wondering how much time it takes to fully know whether someone is going to make a good play partner for you.

[Deleted Member]

I lay out boundaries before even meeting and I've had guys tell me that they were my Dom and I needed to respect and learn my position as a woman. Mind u I have a Dom and he's the only one who puts me in place. Or get told my partner don't need to know etc. I did delete the app for like a month bc of how entitled soome men are..

[Deleted Member]

@CopperKnob, @oldfellow I am curious in your opinions, when do you know when the person is right for you, or run??

[AKA_Copper]

1 hour ago, oldfellow said:

I thought an incel was a male incapable of attracting a female? Ok that might produce fustration I guess .

Generally to the forum at large:

My advice if you are loking for a date, FWIW, send a mesaage, if you get a reply then act accordingly. If you don't then move on, be polite at all times.

I don't think I've ever had a life altering experience on a first date with anybody.

Oh, I thought it meant involuntarily celibate which happens when you fail to approach women respectfully. Then comes frustration and then, well it's a never ending cycle

[AKA_Copper]

1 hour ago, Denver244 said:

Possibly a controversial take but receiving hundreds of messages actually makes me less likely to use this app. They’re not high quality messages where they’ve read your profile and have a genuine interest. They’re mostly spam where the guys are taking a s***dy quantitive approach. Therefore the inbox gets clogged up fast and it’s hard to resurface the people you were genuinely interested in playing with and who seemed genuine in their interest in you.

Also, as Copper said, some of the opening messages are gross and not at all about what you’re interested in but about a guy getting off writing the message and sending an unsolicited dick pic.

It's the equivalent of builders yelling "oi oi, get 'em out for the lads" from the scaffolding. I mean, when did that actually result in someone flashing them their boobs?
It's about the sender getting a kick out if saying disturbing things, stepping all over someone elses boundaries and violating consent. They don't want to meet, they want to crawl under the skin if others.
I'd quite happily swap their inbox full of tumbleweed for mine.

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Denver244 said:

Possibly a controversial take but receiving hundreds of messages actually makes me less likely to use this app. They’re not high quality messages where they’ve read your profile and have a genuine interest. They’re mostly spam where the guys are taking a s***dy quantitive approach. Therefore the inbox gets clogged up fast and it’s hard to resurface the people you were genuinely interested in playing with and who seemed genuine in their interest in you.

Also, as Copper said, some of the opening messages are gross and not at all about what you’re interested in but about a guy getting off writing the message and sending an unsolicited dick pic.

All. Of. This.

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Well said!

[Lo****]

I completely agree, I thinkbfirstly we are all humans under our masks be they Dom or Sub masks but secondly a sub has to submit......not be ***d. As a Dom I find it rewarding when the sub willingly tries to please. Oushing boundaries does not mean for ing it means guidong reassuring and both of you being aligned on where you are going.....there is so much. more reward in working towards that moment than grabbing it.

[br****]

I go around the country to.

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Rigth ! when one is young and beautiful will get bored by many pretenders , but when one is old and not mutch one will get lucky by only one small message ! ( i am here for 3 days and not a single visit )