Stewarttannoc20 Posted February 3 Somebody who takes interest in me as a person is a green flag I look for.
Di**** Posted February 3 Being open-minded, kind, not commenting others' bodies in a negative manner,
Ra**** Posted February 3 ☑️Being met with the same energy I’m putting forth ✅More interested in getting to know my interests than pushing their agenda☑️Open honest communication even when they are not on the same page ✅Asking questions when there is misunderstanding ☑️Planning next engagements, whether it’s initial meetings or next dates or even just chatting at a later date because they’re unavailable for a period✅Following through and Showing up on plans or stated intentions ☑️Grace and understanding that we are imperfect people and shouldn’t be crucified for every misstep
wa**** Posted February 3 Open and honest and someone I can talk to for hours about anime history and ***s
Si**** Posted February 3 Someone who is equally as excited and engaged in talking with me as I am with them, and can flirt back earnestly. The single hottest thing anyone I spend time with can do is just be genuinely engaging ☺️
Ft**** Posted February 3 Having hobbies or interests/ passions, having a work life balance as much as possible/ having time for a relationship, willing to work at communication even if not the best at it, open to and able to give constructive criticism with advice or suggestions, non smoking, votes, researches new BDSM stuff somewhat before trying them for safety/ knows basic safety rules and stuff. Not all are needed but I can dream
Cu**** Posted February 3 Asking me questions with out accusations Knowing that when im asking questions he is okay with me doing so because im curious and interrogating him Discussing what we both would like to do and not just going only with his likes and wants but being open to try my likes as well. Just like I will with his
gy**** Posted February 3 I have always loved ANAL and as of a year ago I asked my partner to peg me and she agreed (we both absolutely 💯 love that) now it is part of our sexy HOT 🔥 bedroom fun!!
so**** Posted February 4 If a partner can articulate that they are desiring regulation or a relationship, it’s a huge green flag. Either are valid but if you can honestly tell a person what you are in need of you are more apt to be compatible and lead to less emotional distress for everyone involved. In regard to those in ENM, being able to be concrete in what you can offer a partner outside of your primary relationship, is a huge plus. Be real about it. For instance, just sex, sex with emotional support, or a polyamory relationship. Making sure your definitions line up with the definitions of those you’re talking with simply prevents attachments from happening that will lead to disconnections later as well when you find out you define things differently.
Deleted Member Posted February 4 Goddes, very knowledgeable of BDSM, very mean and controlling with cute feet
la**** Posted February 7 A submissive with agency, meaning they're proactive and take initiative to please me because they want to. That and people who know their limits are great green flags!
Bo**** Posted February 9 For me its the ability to see through my bs and without saying a word shuts me up and I know
Bo**** Posted February 27 Completely honest with me, willing to make compromises (ill gladly do it too if they dont like a certain thing as long as it's something we can agree on taking out) willing to show their emotions and not hide anything. Rather a man cry from a sad movie that makes them sad then trying to be a "macho man" and hold it in. Express yourself okay!!!
Deleted Member Posted February 27 Someone thay treats others with kindness in public. Especially when they are being g served by them
Ti**** Posted February 27 I really appreciate this topic and the good values and comments, it is very positive to se the things that matter to people and what they value . To some it may be green or Red. It’s important to list both !
Ba**** Posted March 2 Did i miss something or are literally all example green flags just the opposites of major red flags?? I mean i do appreciate the positive framing occasionally but for most people it’s easier to take note of negative stories/examples/experiences so telling doms what not to do and subs what to look out for is generally more effective than telling doms what to do and subs what to look for Not to mention that the negative one is a clear warning while the positive one is at best a suggestion and at worst a potential stranger giving random orders Ps i‘ve just reread the example flag again to double check and yep both the green and red counterparts are also all just as true for doms looking for „good“ subs Most of them even in platonic and vanilla relationships I‘m not bugging, right?? I could only spot 1/2 of one that could seem „off“ in some highly situational cases, namely the „doesn’t raise their voice at you, regardless of circumstances“-bit can be between personal preference and potential safety concern
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