How to tell someone

[Deleted Member]

How do you tell a partner that your into bdsm and that you also are a little?

[Deleted Member]

Honesty is the best policy. Tell them you need to have a sit down discussion. Try to find the right moment where both for you aren't busy and talk it out. You got this.

[un****]

think this goes for all kinks but you just have to be honest about it not telling your partner is just prolonging an inevitable end when needs aren’t met now i’m not saying spring it on them in the middle of something but sit down and talk

[Bluee]

I'm also struggling with that... I'm more dominant in the relationship but I feel like I'm sub for real. But I can't really be a sub with her because I feel like it'll be taken advantage of..

[Deleted Member]

Just say there’s something inside you, you’d like to share with him and explain what bdsm is, and what’s “your role”
If you’d like to practice with him, say so
Just talk, is as simple as this. Don’t be afraid of a conversation

[Deleted Member]

Listen- if they are your “partner” you should be able to confide in them. If you don’t think you can then you may be in the wrong relationship anyway. I get so many married men in my DMs crying to me about how they cheat on their wives because their wives are so delicate and pure and they could never tell her they want to be f**ked in the a**. OMG please tell her. I don’t have any sympathy for guys who marry for looks instead of compatibility. Not sorry.

[Deleted Member]

I echo the sentiment that’s be given, it can’t really be ignored and it needs to be addressed, whilst you can do it softly, it can’t be ignored or it will become resentment.

Communication is key to ensuring happiness.
If they are open to a journey with you into exploring this side of you then perfect.

[Bo****]

The last girl i dated just gave me a laundry list of links and in some ways made life easier

[Ra****]

Cher, explain "you and you're dynamic". That's the beginning of introducing them to your world and creating your boundaries

[Ke****]

It’s a hard conversation to have once you are in the relationship…..I’m always upfront in the beginning so there are no surprises

[j_****]

On your knees. Hug his leg and look up with babydoll eyes and if he’s not into it he’s not for you.

[Ra****]

I agree with Keeper. It's best to be upfront about these things, especially if it's an essential need in your relationship. The fact you're springing this on him, especially if you want this as more of a lifestyle, may be off-putting. It's happened to me multiple times when trying to find a femdom while in a relationship with that person. It's best to always be honest early on.

[Deleted Member]

The same way you tell someone you’re cheating.

[Bi****]

Depending on your native tongue, probably English? I kid….

[Deleted Member]

Just be honest, he may be in the same position and not knowing how to say it to you too. Until you both talk about it noone wil know

[fa****]

Hard conversation to have. It's hard when you are starting to get to know someone and like them and you need to tell them about your kinks and fetishes before the relationship progresses further. It's hard because they may decide you are not for them after you tell them. Still the right thing to do. 

[Bu****]

You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person.


You can’t say the right thing to the wrong person.

Fear is the Mind Killer. Just tell them.

[Lord_Talion]

Grab your pacie, blanket, and stuffie. Curl up on the couch next to them n tell them exactly how you feel

[BruiseWayne]

Just be direct and up front about it. If it's something you absolutely can't live without then you have to let them know or it's going to cause problems down the line.

[BruiseWayne]

2 hours ago, facelessleather said:

Hard conversation to have. It's hard when you are starting to get to know someone and like them and you need to tell them about your kinks and fetishes before the relationship progresses further. It's hard because they may decide you are not for them after you tell them. Still the right thing to do. 

This is why I don't bother with vanilla dating any more. Kink is too big a part of who I am and even with the people who are into it my tastes are a little on the advanced side. I just don't feel I can connect with anyone romantically or emotionally on a deep enough level if I can't share that with them and quite frankly I don't like having to worry about whether or not I should or can express that part of myself freely around someone I'm trying to date for fear of how they might respond.

[gl****]

🤔

[Lo****]

Tell them then if not right u can say bye

[do****]

U can always take them to a toy shop have fun expressing ur fantasies in the store to warm them up and then share the conversation while being bonded and show them more of u it’s a trusting relationship that can be excepted very easily

[iz****]

Slow stay

[Ma****]

8 hours ago, domdomc said:

U can always take them to a toy shop have fun expressing ur fantasies in the store to warm them up and then share the conversation while being bonded and show them more of u it’s a trusting relationship that can be excepted very easily

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