“No thanks”

[he****]

Does anyone else feel a little bad using the “no thanks” button? I feel bad using it but I’m not sure how I would word that I’m not interested

[Deleted Member]

I usually only use it when people don’t get the hint, or the outward “please no”.

[Deleted Member]

Simply say you're not interested? People's social skills have really suffered because of the internet. It just feels super judgemental to me to just overtly reject someone without even a basic conversation, but that's just me. I try to be polite and inviting everyone to people I wouldn't necessarily fool around with.

[Deleted Member]

Even to* this autocorrect is really busting my chops today

[he****]

8 minutes ago, polywitch said:

I usually only use it when people don’t get the hint, or the outward “please no”.

I’m very socially awkward and anxious when it comes to confrontation so it’s really my only hope at not just leaving them with no response

[x2****]

There's a no thanks button? Didnt notice but if there is never feel guilty about using it this scene is all about snd dont work without consent and honesty. A no thanks button should be respected

[Barney_CM]

I honestly don't mind 'no thanks' messages as long as they just use it to decline a message request. If you've already been talking for a while then I would say you owe the other person at least an honest sentence as to why you don't want to talk to them anymore.

[Cheekysub247]

Some messages i ignore for certain reasons, but polite messages i feel are genuine but just not what im looking for i give a simple,
"No thank you, thats not what im looking for"
Its normally followed by a couple of no worries/good luck ect so just keeping things friendly. I use the 'no thanks ' button if they pester after. So i base it on how they react/message. Id rather receive a polite no thanks in message than instant block for no reason

[he****]

4 minutes ago, Barney_CM said:

I honestly don't mind 'no thanks' messages as long as they just use it to decline a message request. If you've already been talking for a while then I would say you owe the other person at least an honest sentence as to why you don't want to talk to them anymore.

I only ever use it to reject a message request

[Deleted Member]

"The no thanks button" is a nasty way, specially if you contact someone who is interested in networking, friends or bdsm lovers. How do they want to know people if in the first sentence they reject you?

[nn****]

no comment

[Deleted Member]

"no comment", then for what do you comment if you dont have anything to say

[Hu****]

It should be used as a safety switch, if the person talking to you is not getting that you arn't wanting stuff from them, they dont match your wants/needs etc and are just being abrasive.

Then you use the button, not as a first point - but also i wouldnt mind if people used it instead of just never responding

[Mz****]

I never used it till now. 😸

[ge****]

Ultimately it comes down to what you are comfortable with using - some people use the no thanks button, others send a polite personal note, others just ignore - there's nothing wrong with any of those methods and there are valid reasons for using each.
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At the end of the day, think of it this way, unless it's someone you have spent some time getting to know and exchanging messages with, it's a complete stranger who has contacted you, and as such you don't necessarily owe them anything.

[Deleted Member]

I understood to use it with not respecfull people, but at the first sentence? By the way the "no thanks button" is better than ignoring you and never answer.

I get sometime people rejecting me in a nice way like, thanks to contact me but at the moment i am in pause mode. Then you say thanks, and have a nice day

[ge****]

39 minutes ago, KahlDrogo73 said:

I understood to use it with not respecfull people, but at the first sentence? By the way the "no thanks button" is better than ignoring you and never answer.

I get sometime people rejecting me in a nice way like, thanks to contact me but at the moment i am in pause mode. Then you say thanks, and have a nice day

Thing is though - when another user has very little to go on, like no real profile text to speak of, no pics, and perhaps a very limited message, why would they want to engage?
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And ignoring is often the safest option because they don't know if the sender will be the polite type that accepts rejection, or the type that pesters for a reason at best, or turns abusive at worst.

[AProperDom]

I had an automated rejection msg once on here. It annoyed me but had to respect her for her app knowledge 😀

[Je****]

I personally don't use it. If I've nothing so say I ignore. If they persistently message then I would block. If they send me fet one liners, I block. If they send me smut and talk to me like sh*t, then I block. But most don't read profiles anyway to sort of know I'm not seeking anything much at the moment so I see it as a waste of time. I'm here for the learning and socialising at moment.

[Deleted Member]

Stop caring so much

[BigPolly]

My ‘not interested’ reply when I was single was always ‘thank you for your message but you’re not what I’m looking for however I wish you luck with your search’ or ‘thank you but I don’t feel our profiles match’
I felt the ‘No thanks’ button was too harsh 😂

[ca****]

I'd rather people used it than didn't reply at all

[Th****]

If I'm not interested in someone, for whatever reason, I politely decline. If they try to convince me I'm wrong and should pursue them, I decline more firmly and hit the no thanks button. If they can't play nice and accept rejection like an adult, and want to get disrespectful, I just block and report them. Nothing to feel bad about at all. I held up my end of the bargain. I don't need to accept responsibility for other people's actions

[ey****]

Like, while it might suck to receive a 'no thanks' message - that's also life.    You've got someone in your inbox, you're not interested for whatever reason these are your choices

1) don't reply.   

they then can't message again for I think it's 3 months

but some people hate this cos they then feel it's rude they've been read and ignored.  Some people also wonder if the person is busy, didn't get back to them, whatever.

2) sit and work out what to articulate that says you are not interested

in this case the person CAN reply back to you and in some cases people get angry back, that you said no so quickly, some people will try to press boundaries or press other labour onto you - like the whole "aww, give me a chance" or even what seems like an innocent "OK I understand that, can you give me feedback on what I can do to improve" (which, in turn places a lot of labour on you)

the whole kinda "letting them down gently" thing is emotional labour.

3) hit the 'no thanks' button

which is kinda harsh but it gives someone both an answer, you're not interested, and lacks them any form of comeback - you hit someone with this and don't have to worry about a "but why tho" or "you're ugly anyway" 5 mins later.

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I'm suspecting by the people who've said they didn't know it was there but will use it now suggests they were having problems with 2.

[do****]

Being on the receiving and sending end, I see nothing wrong with it. It saves time and is better than ghosting. Politely tells you to find another kinkster 🤷🏾‍♂️ everyone is not for everybody. I'll take it over saying "Good morning beautiful" to a woman passing on the street and getting ignored 🤷🏾‍♂️