Anal vetting process and preparation

[Su****]

Some women say they love it and when I want to go with a mutual mood they change their minds. I’m not into ***d play unless it’s begged for but open to suggestions from women who crave it and how to encourage it.

[Ha****]

Are you suggesting this before or after they’ve orgasmed? Are you suggesting you try toys such as plugs or sex?

[ge****]

When you say they "change their minds" have they given a reason? Because honestly your best bet would be to ask them about it rather than seeking suggestions how to "encourage" them from a bunch of strangers on a forum who don't know them or the circumstances completely.
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There could be many reasons why it wasn't right for them at that moment varying from they just didn't feel like it, to they hadn't cleaned beforehand and more in between.
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Whatever the reason you're not going to "encourage" anyone to do something they don't want to do - all you can do is talk to them about it openly and honestly and allow them to decide if they want to do it or not, and respect their decision if not.

[lo****]

Contrary to what you see in porns, anal is not a spur of the moment activity. It's takes preparation before ever getting intimate in that way. The number of men who have permanently turned women off of it by going in unprepared, or worse "oops! wrong hole! teehee!" is astounding.

[Deleted Member]

I enjoy anal, however, I won’t do it every single time and as previously stated it does take preparation… and you have to be in a certain mood… I have been with the guys that just shove it in and it hurts and normally I don’t start to enjoy it at any point with them….  And it’s not about size. I have been with guys that are very small and it hurt really bad and the person I enjoyed it with the most was really big and really thick. My ex DOM would always message me either the morning of or the day before so I would have plenty of time to get ready and to prep and make sure that everything was where it needed to be for easy access.

[Deleted Member]

And to be honest, just because I enjoy anal, doesn’t mean that I want to do it with every single guy I date…

[ey****]

yep - it's kinda one of those things to really discuss in advance. it's not a spontaneous activity 

and of course everyone has a right to change their mind anyway - but asking at the time or on the day is generally too short notice 

[do****]

Have you tried introducing it during foreplay, with tongue fingeres etc? Perhaps persevere with the light stuff then maybe she may be willing to progress it further?