Deleted Member Posted August 13 Posted August 13 18 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: It depends because you then take something fluid and apply it to something fixed the odds of rolling a (fair) dice and landing on a 6 is a 6, the more times you roll the dice the more likely you are to get a 6, but someone rolling a dice 60 times will get a 6 an average of 10 times, but some will be more, some less. Picking a winning horse from a field of 20 is a 1 in 20 chance - but - you greatly increase the chance of picking a winner if you start studying form, doing research so to speak. But in both of these, you can't entirely control the outcome. Messaging people has no fixed odds on success and also have a big influence on everything from your profile to your approach (to even how many people you've been messaging - as people do talk) so that is something where a lot of numbers go out the window. Didn't see this reply yesterday, and I don't disagree with any of it necessarily. Drawing it back to the OP and the question though, my point was that he could do all that, do all the right things... He might already be doing all that, and still have nowhere near the success his wife gets, because of the differences in experience men and women have on apps. And I feel that's important to acknowledge, because sometimes people will get too hung up on what they might be doing wrong, when the answer is that they aren't, it's just factors outside of their control.