BDSM Dating in Lewes

Hey I'm newish here, but finally worked up some confidence to make a post.
I'm newly single, dating and I'm wondering about how to incorporate more fetish with my partners.
A little about me.
My sex life with my ex went dry over time, and I tried all sorts of things to spice things up in the bedroom, bought all sorts of begginer toys and bondage tools, which kind of worked for a bit and then things went stale again. I learned more about my submissive side during this time which was the bonus. I'm not very much into the aggression that seems to be associated with being a dom myself, I can dominate, but style is slow and sensual, lots of edging, no *** unless asked for. Also I haven't had sex with anyone since the breakup 4 months ago, but I have had a couple of dates and online exchanges since.
So now that you know a little about me, I have some questions. I know everyone is different and some will be more open to others about trying.

1. How do I naturally bring up kink and fetishs with new partners, with out making them uncomfortable?
2. How do I get a partner that isn't naturally dominant to explore a mor dominant role in the bedroom?
3. How do I become more comfortable with causing *** to partners who ask for it?
4. How do I learn to have a more dominant presence that is mor of a turn on to others?
   I understand that most things take good communication and time to learn, I'm guessing that others have felt this way, or still do, so any advice to help me grow so that me and partners can safely enjoy more kink in general.
   Thank you beautiful kinky souls of the world.