BDSM Dating in Stanstead Abbotts

Willingness is more important than anything else. Ideally in proportion, attractive, fun with great tits,pussy, arse and body

I want to find my master looking for someone to make me their slave I’m curious about all kinks I’m good for pegging and other needs I will serve my dom like no other, if you couldn’t tell I’m very horny all the time

SSSs

Looking for a dominant lady who is looking for a sub guy. Need to be humiliated and told what to do

I really do find this part awkward... having to sell myself. I'm predominantly sub and looking to serve a dominant lady, but have switched in the past and happy to explore this further. I don't like having to select a specific category of what I'm looking for as things are not set in stone and the dynamic depends on the person you're with.
I'm looking to meet in real life as opposed to online. Thanks for all the spanks guys, but I'm strictly for the ladies only.

Conversations are the juice of life, a masterful oratory, if you want to get to know me, come and talk with me.

You won’t find Me shouting from rooftops. I prefer to whisper into minds. Quietly. Deeply. Until you wonder whether that thought was yours… or Mine.

I seek one, not many. I admire those who value presence more than performance. I'm not in a rush, I like to discover people in layers, not all at once.

Someone with the courage to p e e l back the layers of self, to travel both the world and the unlit corners of the psyche. Our intimacy will be built on raw curiosity, unfiltered presence, and the exquisite discomfort of truth.

If your idea of connection is casual, fragmented, or shared with others, keep walking and don't look back.
Married men? Pass.
Hookups, flings, and borrowed time? No.
Poly, ENM, “ethical” chaos? Not My kink.

Non-Negotiables I will not entertain:
Fecal matter, vomit, and adult baby play!
Madness disguised as edge or
Men who mistake ego for Domination

Kinks That Own You
(Whether You Know It Yet or Not)
Mind games so subtle you’ll thank Me for the confusion.
The scent of sex, the lingering ruin of you.
Edging until obedience replaces pride.
Chastity, because craving is power,
Bondage, mental and physical,
Pushing you past yourself, slowly, beautifully, without mercy.

If You Feel This is You... Step Closer Boy.
If you have a discerning heart, a sharp mind, and you communicate with intent.
You respect depth, abhor shallowness, and crave meaning, I'd like to get to know more about you.
Intelligence has always had a pornographic influence on me, so if you are intelligent enough to know when you’re being dismantled, and devoted enough not to resist, message me.

Warnings & Final Words
Ensure you're a verified member.
If you’re a dominant male browsing where you shouldn’t be, keep your fantasies to yourself.
I do not entertain power struggles.

My intention, know this:
I’m not here to entertain boys.
I’m here to find the one man willing to be unmade. slowly, exquisitely.
I come with purpose, embodied and unwavering,
to enter your realm, to command it, to claim what lies within.
This is not a game.
This is a rewriting of your reality, I want to be immersed in you.

If I’m not your cup of char. perfect.
Every cup has a saucer.
But I’m the heat that cracks porcelain.
Lj x
Miss Masters.

I want you to milk me of everything i have... I'll come to you, anywhere, anytime.

I would love to meet someone

I would love to meet Female subs/pets/slaves/bottoms and more

I just moved to the area and am wondering who is around me 🫢. Say hi if you are and let’s get acquainted

I like to meet good obedience girl who listen to me all the te and thinking with her own head

Need a dom Essex Harlow

Would love to meet people who like to try new things and are open to new experiences. And most of all love to have NSA fun

Hi, lovely to meet you.

I always find introductions a bit awkward, but here we go. I’ve been a submissive for nearly six years now—honestly it’s a little terrifying to write that out loud, and I’ll save the existential crisis that comes with it for another time. What it does mean is that I’ve had enough experience to know myself, what I want, and the kind of connection I’m hoping to build with someone.

Ideally, I’m looking for a female-led relationship—something built on trust, communication, and the kind of dynamic where power exchange enriches rather than replaces the relationship. That said, I’m completely open to exploring one-off play sessions if that’s more what you’re looking for going in. At this point, I’ll be honest: I’m a bit tired of the search. Dating in general can feel exhausting, and trying to find something meaningful as a submissive guy adds an extra layer of difficulty that can be pretty discouraging at times.

I won’t go too deep into kinks right here since that’s definitely a conversation better had in DMs, but my top five are bondage, ***d orgasms, face sitting, marking, and nipple play. These are the areas I naturally gravitate toward and where I feel most at home. I’m also curious about exploring more—like eventually losing my anal virginity at some point, though that’s definitely a discussion for later and not something I’m rushing into. I’m also very interested in trying hypnosis as a kink, particularly the kind that blends relaxation, surrender, and trust. At the end of the day, what I really want is the experience of losing control in a way that feels safe and cared for.

As far as preferences go, I don’t have a huge checklist of requirements. The most important things to me are that the person I’m talking to enjoys the kinds of dynamics and kinks I’m into and is roughly around my age. Chemistry is a two-way street, and it’s nice to know if we tick each other’s boxes.

Outside of kink, I’ve been told I have that “hyperactive golden retriever” energy. I’m passionate—sometimes overwhelmingly so—about the things I love. I recently finished my degree in game design, which has been a huge part of my life for the past few years. I play guitar, and I’m currently bartending while looking for a graduate job. I’m always drawn to people who have creative or nerdy interests of their own. In terms of music, I’m pretty flexible—anything from classic rock like The Beatles to heavier bands like Avenged Sevenfold sits firmly in my library.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who cares, someone confident and commanding, someone who’s excited to take the lead. I’ve been in a few relationships where the dynamic expectations didn’t match, often with partners who were also submissive, and it just didn’t work. I’m hoping to finally find something that fits.

I’ve done plenty of online dynamic work, and I’ve had a couple of professional sessions, so if you’re wondering whether I know how to serve—yes, I do.

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to reach out in dms. I'll try to reply asap.
Have a wonderful day.

I’m open

Looking to be degraded NSA. Message me for more. 💋💋

Hey, I am a 6ft 5 guy in an ENM relationship. We are exploring separately and I am looking for someone to come over and dominate me. I can host and pick you up if needed. I don’t have a lot of limits

Hey I’m in Harlow looking for a hookup in the next couple of weeks. I can host and pick you up if we hit it off.

Looking to explore with an open minded person.

Ladies in the Harlow area, who wants to get filthy?

32 living in Hertfordshire, working in the city.
Would like to share experiences with someone fun and more exciting than the average Jo.

Ugffy

Lady’s I won’t hurt you unless you like it

would love to get to know some people on here , always good fun and never a dull conversation to be had