Find kinky women in Oxfordshire

Hi there I am not new to the scene but not incredibly experienced. I am wanting to see if I can find the right person for a mix of vanilla and Ds...so that I can explore further with someone I trust.... I have a strong character and am 5.9 and would appreciate someone taller ? #aimingforthestars
Female (55) Curbridge, Oxfordshire
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little while so I thought it was time for an update (Jan 2026). I’m very much all or nothing. My ideal relationship would be a monogamous, TPE Male-led relationship. I am into traditional gender role relationships and really appreciate the values and benefits it has to both sides. I think both sides compliment each other very well. The lifestyle is more than just kink to me, it’s a comfort blanket and I feel safer with the rules, boundaries and structure around me. Im not here for casual hook ups, to find a play partner, or just for the kinky chats. Consistency is very important to me. I don’t work well with rules that are put in place just for the sake of it. If they don’t mean anything to you, and are not beneficial to the dynamic we are building, then they don’t mean anything to me either. Honesty and communication is also very important to me (as I am sure it is for most people). But if I don’t feel I can communicate with my partner, or that they aren’t communicating with me properly, this absolutely will not work. If you have got this far and feel as though the above resonates with you and what you are looking for, then by all means send a message and let’s see if we are compatible. Before exchanging personal details and arranging to meet, I prefer to vet through Fetlife as I find seeing people’s activity and how they interact with others says a lot about them. If you message and I don’t respond - please don’t be offended. It is nothing personal, just that I have read your profile and for one reason or another don’t believe we will be a good match. Just as I am not for everyone, everyone is not for me either. Thank you for taking the time to read 🌷🌸🧸
Female (38) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I am hmm who am I used to be a very out going now rather reserved outwardly. I am a large human lumps bumps and rolls but still human so be nice or move on . normally like walks bedroom exploring not always in the bedroom ect I'm pretty boring unless you are the right one to unlock and awaken parts of me size 16 ish have two kids needed to add that as sone seem shocked when I cant answer msgs ASAP ok so I met one fellow human im not cut out for this im supppppper awkward im shy can't don't know how to make first move this ain't the movies please don't ask who I am what I'm after I have no ***y clue I live 8n country side dobt see many humans im a nerd
Female (41) Wardington, Oxfordshire
I am looking for a dominant man to explore this world of BDSM, Kink and Fetish. someone who is intelligent, articulate and has a good sense of humour but also is honest and has integrity. physical appearance is important - I accept that sounds shallow but I keep fit and healthy so I am being honest in what I find attractive. I don’t go for much younger men and prefer those around my own age so just scroll on if you are below 50 as I am just not interested.
Female (61) Benson, Oxfordshire
Cute, short, and a bit of a nerd. Books, gaming, and late-night rabbit holes keep me busy. Tattooed and leaning toward the alternative side of life and music. Exploring my submissive side and drawn to confident, respectful Doms. Bonus points if you’re alt or tattooed too 😘
Female (26) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hey guys! new to the site. I’m a naturally dominant curvy female that loves to put her man in his place. I’m hugely into foot worship, I use to dance so have always had to take extra care of my feet, love getting pedicures and massages and spoiled rotten. love how feminine I feel when wearing stockings, heels and pretty lingerie. I do have a soft spot for a cheeky smile and strong arms💋
Female (47) Ambrosden, Oxfordshire
oh hi! I’m a neurospicy, masochistic, ambivert nerd who has a lot of pets and plants. I am a chaos gremlin. Does that automatically make me a brat? No. Can I be a brat? Yes… If I like you enough. I’m high energy, sarcastic and strong willed. I enjoy my submission but do not give it up easily. Be warned, I am a demisexual and as such I don’t discuss my kinks privately with strangers. This means I also do not tolerate sexually charged opening messages, I won’t rate you and I don’t want to swap private gallery access. New for 2025! I will only play with people who have my phone number. If I don’t trust you with that, why would I trust you with my body?
Female (38) Bicester, Oxfordshire
***New to Fetlife: diaperbabybunny Hey, just a little girl hoping to find her Daddy/CG I’m an avid ddlg fan and highly into age play. I like everything that comes with being a little baby. I want to be pampered, put in a nappy, dummy in my mouth, head pats and cuddles. But to be disciplined when needed. I’m hoping to find a kind, caring, nurturing daddy who enjoys that side just as much as the sexual side because I’m not always a sexual little. On the whole I’m a good little girl but can sometimes be a little bit bratty. I have a busy, “normal” every day life with responsibilities (like most) so this isn’t something I practice everyday. I’m looking for a good connection with someone so when we are together, we can be in a ddlg dynamic. I’m not here for “cyber fun”. Btw I’ve been in this lifestyle for many years now and can spot fakes from a mile off so please, let’s not waste each others time. Happy to send photo of my face once we’ve started chatting, thank you for reading.
Female (34) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hi! no one reads this right? Anyway, I’m Rachel and I’m the filthiest girl you’ll ever meet. Primarily seeking a MUCH older man, a cute girl or a wonderful couple. Greedy aren’t I? I am definitely the very definition of a switch, so if you’re a brutal dom you can probably put me in my place. Having said that about older men, I have recently discovered I have a real penchant for Young, fit studs. Apply within…. Slide into my DMs…..I dare you.
Female (37) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I am single. Non monogamous. I work hard so I value my free time incredibly and enjoy fitting in lots of playtime. I can host on certain days and also Happy to travel.
Female (53) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I’m an owned submissive into BDSM and latex. Have played with other couples and single females. Looking to make friends with likeminded people and attend clubs and parties. As a couple we are keen to meet both male and female bi-sexual people for fun times.
Female (48) Blewbury, Oxfordshire
Dom-leaning and stepping into it with intention rather than bravado. I like being the one who sets the tone, checks in, and keeps things moving with purpose. I’m confident taking the lead, but I’m also big on talking things through, learning what works, and building something that actually feels good for everyone involved. I’m not here to rush scenes, I care about consent, communication, and getting things right. Exploration is very much on the table, as long as it’s mutual, considered, and enthusiastic. Effort and honesty matter to me more than polish. I value consistency and think these things get better over time so ONS isn’t my thing. 5'8", plus-size and comfortable in my skin. Tattooed, grounded, and not shy about taking up space.
recently entered a relationship with a very kinky person and as a kink noob they have opened my eyes to a whole new world of pleasure and fun as well as structure and communication, openness and trust in relationships. he has brought me here to learn more about the community, find people I can talk to about different kinks and finding out about dom sub relationships. not looking for dick pics, ons, fwb just looking to make friends
Female (52) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hi I'm a blank page waiting to be written on. I'm single and a widow. I'm abit Dom/sub right now I need some guidance.....
Female (54) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I’m a naturally submissive woman who finds fulfillment in structure, guidance, and the quiet strength of surrender. The D/s dynamic for me isn’t just a pastime — it’s a mindset and lifestyle centered around trust, mutual respect, and shared purpose. no idea how to stop the weird/insane messages! lol
Female (24) Dry Sandford, Oxfordshire
Hi im switching it up! after a recent new experience, I'm looking for an older submissive man who likes to be degraded and told what to do by me! you still need to enjoy sucking on nipples, but I'm in charge now!
Female (22) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Intelligent, grounded, occasionally savage. Love of deep convos,dark humour, planning events & organising chaos. I’m real, resilient, traditional, full of opinions, memes and to many mental tabs. looking for a long term relationship with someone kind, funny, emotionally switched on, assertive, dominant and a traditional gentleman who can put a brat in its place. I am a dominant lady in day to day life with work, looking after family etc. I love a man who can make me feel submissive and feminine outside of that. As much as I’m a brat I am not a little and not into ddlg. dating for my full time forever match, no flakey rubbish. Bring some positivity and nonsense and let’s laugh together.
Female (45) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Type A neurospicy. Successful and high functioning in everyday life and like a chance to leave my brain at the door to be looked after and instructed. Nerdy, creative and caring. Looking for romance and kink > eventually love if I'm lucky. Kink wise... Yeses > *** instructions over stimulation orgasm control bondage Noes> name calling *** public permanent damage
Female (29) Bicester, Oxfordshire
I'm in a committed and loving poly relationship with a wonderful womab but I am on the hunt to fulfil a need I have. I adore music and vape more than a choo choo train. I am seeking a Dom/me who would be loving, sadistic, and preferably social as I am in the kink and swing scene in the west Midlands. not looking for anything in particular. I must admit I am inexperienced with Men so be patient, more experienced with women and ideally seeking a female. I am interested in Gor (John Norman) and interested in the topic, I have read (listened via audiobook) to the first * I believe. very interesting sub culture within the BDSM lifestyle, I am no free woman nor a kajira I am just interested in the ideology of it. if punishment is s*x then yeah... not for me, all s*x including denial and sadism is a joy for me, I love a good essay thanks but that is still a suitable punishment as it takes time away from me gaming. hoping for someone who respects my relationship I have with my partner and respects that rules need to be along side my vanilla relationship. my relationship with my partner is also a D/s relationship, I am her Domme. I am a bigger girl, good womanly curves so if You're after a stick then I'm not for You, I have * and an * which means I also have a tummy and thighs. hope You read all this, I hope You did, I will put as much effort in as You do, this took some time and being so, I hope You gave the time to read it all. **Desires and Fantasies** a gal has to have some secrets...
Female (37) Bicester, Oxfordshire
Social profile- I am not looking to meet anybody here, so please don't waste your time if you have ulterior motives! Now that's out of the way, I'm here because I'm new to kink, sex and relations in general and wanted to find a space to socialise that might also allow me to discuss that with others who can guide me with their experience.
Female (21) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Newbie to this… I want to experiment and see what it is that really excites me. I know I’ve always been a submissive but I’ve never found the right person to experiment with! I hope I can find someone to show me the ropes 😉
a little looking for a daddy who can look after me. can be bratty so need someone to put me in my place occasionally🙈 ideally looking for something long-term, but also happy to go with the flow and see what happens (: face pics set to private but can be shared after talking x
Female (22) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Thoughtful gifts make me happy 🥰💖. I am a confident domme switch. I love to explore life, be adored, fully supported, and spoilt. I am looking for a naturally obedient, respectful, and eager to please man. Welcome X🖤
Female (31) Witney, Oxfordshire
hey everyone! we’re a loving couple looking for other like minded couples to connect with. we are really new to this and would love to find ppl to help us explore? pls no pics without asking. run by both of us :)
Female (25) Oxford, Oxfordshire

New members in Oxfordshire

I am looking for a dominant man to explore this world of BDSM, Kink and Fetish. someone who is intelligent, articulate and has a good sense of humour but also is honest and has integrity. physical appearance is important - I accept that sounds shallow but I keep fit and healthy so I am being honest in what I find attractive. I don’t go for much younger men and prefer those around my own age so just scroll on if you are below 50 as I am just not interested.
Female (61) Benson, Oxfordshire
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little while so I thought it was time for an update (Jan 2026). I’m very much all or nothing. My ideal relationship would be a monogamous, TPE Male-led relationship. I am into traditional gender role relationships and really appreciate the values and benefits it has to both sides. I think both sides compliment each other very well. The lifestyle is more than just kink to me, it’s a comfort blanket and I feel safer with the rules, boundaries and structure around me. Im not here for casual hook ups, to find a play partner, or just for the kinky chats. Consistency is very important to me. I don’t work well with rules that are put in place just for the sake of it. If they don’t mean anything to you, and are not beneficial to the dynamic we are building, then they don’t mean anything to me either. Honesty and communication is also very important to me (as I am sure it is for most people). But if I don’t feel I can communicate with my partner, or that they aren’t communicating with me properly, this absolutely will not work. If you have got this far and feel as though the above resonates with you and what you are looking for, then by all means send a message and let’s see if we are compatible. Before exchanging personal details and arranging to meet, I prefer to vet through Fetlife as I find seeing people’s activity and how they interact with others says a lot about them. If you message and I don’t respond - please don’t be offended. It is nothing personal, just that I have read your profile and for one reason or another don’t believe we will be a good match. Just as I am not for everyone, everyone is not for me either. Thank you for taking the time to read 🌷🌸🧸
Female (38) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I am hmm who am I used to be a very out going now rather reserved outwardly. I am a large human lumps bumps and rolls but still human so be nice or move on . normally like walks bedroom exploring not always in the bedroom ect I'm pretty boring unless you are the right one to unlock and awaken parts of me size 16 ish have two kids needed to add that as sone seem shocked when I cant answer msgs ASAP ok so I met one fellow human im not cut out for this im supppppper awkward im shy can't don't know how to make first move this ain't the movies please don't ask who I am what I'm after I have no ***y clue I live 8n country side dobt see many humans im a nerd
Female (41) Wardington, Oxfordshire
Hi there I am not new to the scene but not incredibly experienced. I am wanting to see if I can find the right person for a mix of vanilla and Ds...so that I can explore further with someone I trust.... I have a strong character and am 5.9 and would appreciate someone taller ? #aimingforthestars
Female (55) Curbridge, Oxfordshire
Cute, short, and a bit of a nerd. Books, gaming, and late-night rabbit holes keep me busy. Tattooed and leaning toward the alternative side of life and music. Exploring my submissive side and drawn to confident, respectful Doms. Bonus points if you’re alt or tattooed too 😘
Female (26) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Dom-leaning and stepping into it with intention rather than bravado. I like being the one who sets the tone, checks in, and keeps things moving with purpose. I’m confident taking the lead, but I’m also big on talking things through, learning what works, and building something that actually feels good for everyone involved. I’m not here to rush scenes, I care about consent, communication, and getting things right. Exploration is very much on the table, as long as it’s mutual, considered, and enthusiastic. Effort and honesty matter to me more than polish. I value consistency and think these things get better over time so ONS isn’t my thing. 5'8", plus-size and comfortable in my skin. Tattooed, grounded, and not shy about taking up space.
I am single. Non monogamous. I work hard so I value my free time incredibly and enjoy fitting in lots of playtime. I can host on certain days and also Happy to travel.
Female (53) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Intelligent, grounded, occasionally savage. Love of deep convos,dark humour, planning events & organising chaos. I’m real, resilient, traditional, full of opinions, memes and to many mental tabs. looking for a long term relationship with someone kind, funny, emotionally switched on, assertive, dominant and a traditional gentleman who can put a brat in its place. I am a dominant lady in day to day life with work, looking after family etc. I love a man who can make me feel submissive and feminine outside of that. As much as I’m a brat I am not a little and not into ddlg. dating for my full time forever match, no flakey rubbish. Bring some positivity and nonsense and let’s laugh together.
Female (45) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hi! no one reads this right? Anyway, I’m Rachel and I’m the filthiest girl you’ll ever meet. Primarily seeking a MUCH older man, a cute girl or a wonderful couple. Greedy aren’t I? I am definitely the very definition of a switch, so if you’re a brutal dom you can probably put me in my place. Having said that about older men, I have recently discovered I have a real penchant for Young, fit studs. Apply within…. Slide into my DMs…..I dare you.
Female (37) Oxford, Oxfordshire
recently entered a relationship with a very kinky person and as a kink noob they have opened my eyes to a whole new world of pleasure and fun as well as structure and communication, openness and trust in relationships. he has brought me here to learn more about the community, find people I can talk to about different kinks and finding out about dom sub relationships. not looking for dick pics, ons, fwb just looking to make friends
Female (52) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hey guys! new to the site. I’m a naturally dominant curvy female that loves to put her man in his place. I’m hugely into foot worship, I use to dance so have always had to take extra care of my feet, love getting pedicures and massages and spoiled rotten. love how feminine I feel when wearing stockings, heels and pretty lingerie. I do have a soft spot for a cheeky smile and strong arms💋
Female (47) Ambrosden, Oxfordshire
Type A neurospicy. Successful and high functioning in everyday life and like a chance to leave my brain at the door to be looked after and instructed. Nerdy, creative and caring. Looking for romance and kink > eventually love if I'm lucky. Kink wise... Yeses > *** instructions over stimulation orgasm control bondage Noes> name calling *** public permanent damage
Female (29) Bicester, Oxfordshire
Social profile- I am not looking to meet anybody here, so please don't waste your time if you have ulterior motives! Now that's out of the way, I'm here because I'm new to kink, sex and relations in general and wanted to find a space to socialise that might also allow me to discuss that with others who can guide me with their experience.
Female (21) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Thoughtful gifts make me happy 🥰💖. I am a confident domme switch. I love to explore life, be adored, fully supported, and spoilt. I am looking for a naturally obedient, respectful, and eager to please man. Welcome X🖤
Female (31) Witney, Oxfordshire
Newbie to this… I want to experiment and see what it is that really excites me. I know I’ve always been a submissive but I’ve never found the right person to experiment with! I hope I can find someone to show me the ropes 😉
hey everyone! we’re a loving couple looking for other like minded couples to connect with. we are really new to this and would love to find ppl to help us explore? pls no pics without asking. run by both of us :)
Female (25) Oxford, Oxfordshire
hi I'm a blank page waiting to be written on. I'm single and a widow. I'm abit Dom/sub right now I need some guidance.....
Female (54) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I’m a naturally submissive woman who finds fulfillment in structure, guidance, and the quiet strength of surrender. The D/s dynamic for me isn’t just a pastime — it’s a mindset and lifestyle centered around trust, mutual respect, and shared purpose. no idea how to stop the weird/insane messages! lol
Female (24) Dry Sandford, Oxfordshire
a little looking for a daddy who can look after me. can be bratty so need someone to put me in my place occasionally🙈 ideally looking for something long-term, but also happy to go with the flow and see what happens (: face pics set to private but can be shared after talking x
Female (22) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I’m an owned submissive into BDSM and latex. Have played with other couples and single females. Looking to make friends with likeminded people and attend clubs and parties. As a couple we are keen to meet both male and female bi-sexual people for fun times.
Female (48) Blewbury, Oxfordshire
oh hi! I’m a neurospicy, masochistic, ambivert nerd who has a lot of pets and plants. I am a chaos gremlin. Does that automatically make me a brat? No. Can I be a brat? Yes… If I like you enough. I’m high energy, sarcastic and strong willed. I enjoy my submission but do not give it up easily. Be warned, I am a demisexual and as such I don’t discuss my kinks privately with strangers. This means I also do not tolerate sexually charged opening messages, I won’t rate you and I don’t want to swap private gallery access. New for 2025! I will only play with people who have my phone number. If I don’t trust you with that, why would I trust you with my body?
Female (38) Bicester, Oxfordshire
***New to Fetlife: diaperbabybunny Hey, just a little girl hoping to find her Daddy/CG I’m an avid ddlg fan and highly into age play. I like everything that comes with being a little baby. I want to be pampered, put in a nappy, dummy in my mouth, head pats and cuddles. But to be disciplined when needed. I’m hoping to find a kind, caring, nurturing daddy who enjoys that side just as much as the sexual side because I’m not always a sexual little. On the whole I’m a good little girl but can sometimes be a little bit bratty. I have a busy, “normal” every day life with responsibilities (like most) so this isn’t something I practice everyday. I’m looking for a good connection with someone so when we are together, we can be in a ddlg dynamic. I’m not here for “cyber fun”. Btw I’ve been in this lifestyle for many years now and can spot fakes from a mile off so please, let’s not waste each others time. Happy to send photo of my face once we’ve started chatting, thank you for reading.
Female (34) Oxford, Oxfordshire
Hi im switching it up! after a recent new experience, I'm looking for an older submissive man who likes to be degraded and told what to do by me! you still need to enjoy sucking on nipples, but I'm in charge now!
Female (22) Oxford, Oxfordshire
I'm in a committed and loving poly relationship with a wonderful womab but I am on the hunt to fulfil a need I have. I adore music and vape more than a choo choo train. I am seeking a Dom/me who would be loving, sadistic, and preferably social as I am in the kink and swing scene in the west Midlands. not looking for anything in particular. I must admit I am inexperienced with Men so be patient, more experienced with women and ideally seeking a female. I am interested in Gor (John Norman) and interested in the topic, I have read (listened via audiobook) to the first * I believe. very interesting sub culture within the BDSM lifestyle, I am no free woman nor a kajira I am just interested in the ideology of it. if punishment is s*x then yeah... not for me, all s*x including denial and sadism is a joy for me, I love a good essay thanks but that is still a suitable punishment as it takes time away from me gaming. hoping for someone who respects my relationship I have with my partner and respects that rules need to be along side my vanilla relationship. my relationship with my partner is also a D/s relationship, I am her Domme. I am a bigger girl, good womanly curves so if You're after a stick then I'm not for You, I have * and an * which means I also have a tummy and thighs. hope You read all this, I hope You did, I will put as much effort in as You do, this took some time and being so, I hope You gave the time to read it all. **Desires and Fantasies** a gal has to have some secrets...
Female (37) Bicester, Oxfordshire

New personal ads in Oxfordshire

Munch Buddy18 to 80 years ● 475km around New Zealand Palmerston North

More Kinky women

Find kinky women in Oxfordshire

Looking for kinky women in Oxfordshire?
Get ready for a spanking good time! Sign up for free and discover BDSM dates and BDSM clubs and fetish parties in Oxfordshire. Explore your fetishes, be part of Fetish.com, THE kink-positive community.