I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little while so I thought it was time for an update (Jan 2026).
I’m very much all or nothing. My ideal relationship would be a monogamous, TPE Male-led relationship. I am into traditional gender role relationships and really appreciate the values and benefits it has to both sides. I think both sides compliment each other very well. The lifestyle is more than just kink to me, it’s a comfort blanket and I feel safer with the rules, boundaries and structure around me.
Im not here for casual hook ups, to find a play partner, or just for the kinky chats.
Consistency is very important to me. I don’t work well with rules that are put in place just for the sake of it. If they don’t mean anything to you, and are not beneficial to the dynamic we are building, then they don’t mean anything to me either.
Honesty and communication is also very important to me (as I am sure it is for most people). But if I don’t feel I can communicate with my partner, or that they aren’t communicating with me properly, this absolutely will not work.
If you have got this far and feel as though the above resonates with you and what you are looking for, then by all means send a message and let’s see if we are compatible.
Before exchanging personal details and arranging to meet, I prefer to vet through Fetlife as I find seeing people’s activity and how they interact with others says a lot about them.
If you message and I don’t respond - please don’t be offended. It is nothing personal, just that I have read your profile and for one reason or another don’t believe we will be a good match. Just as I am not for everyone, everyone is not for me either.
Thank you for taking the time to read 🌷🌸🧸
Hi there
I am not new to the scene but not incredibly experienced. I am wanting to see if I can find the right person for a mix of vanilla and Ds...so that I can explore further with someone I trust....
I have a strong character and am 5.9 and would appreciate someone taller ?
#aimingforthestars
I am hmm who am I used to be a very out going now rather reserved outwardly. I am a large human lumps bumps and rolls but still human so be nice or move on . normally like walks bedroom exploring not always in the bedroom ect I'm pretty boring unless you are the right one to unlock and awaken parts of me size 16 ish have two kids needed to add that as sone seem shocked when I cant answer msgs ASAP
ok so I met one fellow human im not cut out for this im supppppper awkward im shy can't don't know how to make first move this ain't the movies please don't ask who I am what I'm after I have no ***y clue I live 8n country side dobt see many humans im a nerd
Have explored a few things and not keen to explore more about being a sub…
Also bi curious and looking to have NSA with experienced woman and tick off my sexy bucket list.
I DO, IN FACT, HAVE A PARTNER😭
i am learning that no one ever scrolls that far, if you do not wish to talk with taken people, there is a filter you can turn on for that☺️
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🖍️sfw likes: music, vintage fashion, gaming, ‘childish’ items, ikea plastic cutlery, tartan pattern, ducks, kitties, owls and pigeons.
📌nsfw likes: collaring (shocker ik), ddlg, infantilisation, dacryphilia, marking, breath play/control, physical *** (not verbal), grovelling, zelophilia, pet play, cgl, dollification, lingerie… ect
Removed my face because of work, in my private photos.
Only interested in people who live in the UK. I'm not interested in being friends or trading images/videos on here if we aren't going to meet and have fun in person.
This isnt my list of kinks, just a description of myself. 😂
Curvy spontaneous exhibitionist werido, who loves nature, adrenaline, I'm very outgoing, bubbly, and I always want to please. I do ride motorbikes so i love to get my adrenaline going. 🥵😏
I'm hypermobile which means I'm very flexiable. I love lots sex, I'm not new to the kink scene just fet. I'll always try something once, im open minded.
I'm a brat but I'm submissive and a switch when it comes to women.
Im a size 14/16 and my bra size is 34GG.
New to this, I’m a bit of a nerd, in a good way I suppose. Down for any adventure, in love with spontaneous people that have a weird streak. Into good chemistry, better conversation and knowing exactly what we both want. Bonus points if you can make me laugh. Not a small talk girl. Currently studying for the bar and working for the ministry of justice, (I watched too many episodes of suits and how to get away with ***), also I’m a writer and *** lover, if you have cats I will automatically be inclined to like you.
I am single. Non monogamous.
I work hard so I value my free time incredibly and enjoy fitting in lots of playtime.
I can host on certain days and also Happy to travel.
***New to Fetlife: diaperbabybunny
Hey, just a little girl hoping to find her Daddy/CG
I’m an avid ddlg fan and highly into age play. I like everything that comes with being a little baby. I want to be pampered, put in a nappy, dummy in my mouth, head pats and cuddles. But to be disciplined when needed. I’m hoping to find a kind, caring, nurturing daddy who enjoys that side just as much as the sexual side because I’m not always a sexual little.
On the whole I’m a good little girl but can sometimes be a little bit bratty.
I have a busy, “normal” every day life with responsibilities (like most) so this isn’t something I practice everyday. I’m looking for a good connection with someone so when we are together, we can be in a ddlg dynamic. I’m
not here for “cyber fun”.
Btw I’ve been in this lifestyle for many years now and can spot fakes from a mile off so please, let’s not waste each others time.
Happy to send photo of my face once we’ve started chatting, thank you for reading.
Im a tattoo artist and bass player near Oxford 🥰🥰
looking for an online dom or just a friend ❤️
all natural down there- if u don’t like it, don’t message me😘
oh hi! I’m a neurodivergent, masochistic, ambivert nerd who has a lot of pets and plants and a mild gym addiction.
I am a chaos gremlin. Does that automatically make me a brat? No. Can I be a brat? Yes… If I like you enough. I’m high energy, sarcastic and strong willed. I enjoy my submission but do not give it up easily.
Be warned, I am a demisexual and as such I don’t discuss my kinks privately with strangers. This means I also do not tolerate sexually charged opening messages, I won’t rate you and I don’t want to swap private gallery access.
Submissive, cheeky, and a little bit naughty — but don’t mistake that for casual. I’m here for something real, not a one-time thing.
I’m laid-back, love a good laugh, and I’m a sucker for someone who can communicate honestly (bonus points if you’re direct — I prefer truth over sugarcoating).
Outside of kink, I’m into gaming, cocktails, and a good movie night. Music taste is all over the place — pop, rock, country… if it’s good, I’m in.
Curvy girl, so you’ve got to be into that 😉
Looking for a Dom who knows what he wants, can lead with confidence, and is actually open to building something long term.
Intelligent, grounded, occasionally savage. Love of deep convos,dark humour, planning events & organising chaos. I’m real, resilient, traditional, full of opinions, memes and to many mental tabs.
looking for a long term relationship with someone kind, funny, emotionally switched on, assertive, dominant and a traditional gentleman who can put a brat in its place.
I am a dominant lady in day to day life with work, looking after family etc. I love a man who can make me feel submissive and feminine outside of that. As much as I’m a brat I am not a little and not into ddlg.
dating for my full time forever match, no flakey rubbish. Bring some positivity and nonsense and let’s laugh together.
hey guys! new to the site. I’m a naturally dominant curvy female that loves to put her man in his place. I’m hugely into foot worship, I use to dance so have always had to take extra care of my feet, love getting pedicures and massages and spoiled rotten. love how feminine I feel when wearing stockings, heels and pretty lingerie. I do have a soft spot for a cheeky smile and strong arms💋
recently entered a relationship with a very kinky person and as a kink noob they have opened my eyes to a whole new world of pleasure and fun as well as structure and communication, openness and trust in relationships.
he has brought me here to learn more about the community, find people I can talk to about different kinks and finding out about dom sub relationships.
not looking for dick pics, ons, fwb just looking to make friends
Dom-leaning and stepping into it with intention rather than bravado.
I like being the one who sets the tone, checks in, and keeps things moving with purpose. I’m confident taking the lead, but I’m also big on talking things through, learning what works, and building something that actually feels good for everyone involved.
I’m not here to rush scenes, I care about consent, communication, and getting things right.
Exploration is very much on the table, as long as it’s mutual, considered, and enthusiastic. Effort and honesty matter to me more than polish.
I value consistency and think these things get better over time so ONS isn’t my thing.
5'8", plus-size and comfortable in my skin. Tattooed, grounded, and not shy about taking up space.
Type A neurospicy. Successful and high functioning in everyday life and like a chance to leave my brain at the door to be looked after and instructed.
Nerdy, creative and caring.
Looking for romance and kink > eventually love if I'm lucky.
Kink wise...
Yeses >
***
instructions
over stimulation
orgasm control
bondage
Noes>
name calling
***
public
permanent damage
I’m a naturally submissive woman who finds fulfillment in structure, guidance, and the quiet strength of surrender. The D/s dynamic for me isn’t just a pastime — it’s a mindset and lifestyle centered around trust, mutual respect, and shared purpose.
no idea how to stop the weird/insane messages! lol
I’m an owned submissive into BDSM and latex. Have played with other couples and single females. Looking to make friends with likeminded people and attend clubs and parties.
As a couple we are keen to meet both male and female bi-sexual people for fun times.
Hi im switching it up! after a recent new experience,
I'm looking for an older submissive man who likes to be degraded and told what to do by me! you still need to enjoy sucking on nipples, but I'm in charge now!
Cute, short, and a bit of a nerd.
Books, gaming, and late-night rabbit holes keep me busy.
Tattooed and leaning toward the alternative side of life and music.
Exploring my submissive side and drawn to confident, respectful Doms.
Bonus points if you’re alt or tattooed too 😘
Social profile- I am not looking to meet anybody here, so please don't waste your time if you have ulterior motives!
Now that's out of the way, I'm here because I'm new to kink, sex and relations in general and wanted to find a space to socialise that might also allow me to discuss that with others who can guide me with their experience.
Tattooed and pierced, chaotic, neurodivergent girl.
My personality is duality at its core, introvert/extravert, fierce/shy, cute/deviant etc
Fairly experienced BDSM kinkster, IRL and online. Looking for a relationship-dynamic with an experienced *** with a dark and soft side, who can handle a bratty little sub.
(only looking for someone serious who is mid 30+ not random hook ups)
A huge part of submission is mental, you have to be able to get my mind buzzing, wit and intelligence is vital.
I have a lot of kinks many of which started young but only started learning about the lifestyle when I was in my early 20s.
Never left the *** “it was just a phase” phase so I’ll probably be wearing black, listening to alt rock and metalcore.
At home I read fantasy and smut, enjoy tv series, board/card/video games and spending time with my friends.
Out and about I like doing fun activites, gigs, going on road trips and nature adventures. I just want to hang around in forests or float in the ocean.
Have explored a few things and not keen to explore more about being a sub…
Also bi curious and looking to have NSA with experienced woman and tick off my sexy bucket list.
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little while so I thought it was time for an update (Jan 2026).
I’m very much all or nothing. My ideal relationship would be a monogamous, TPE Male-led relationship. I am into traditional gender role relationships and really appreciate the values and benefits it has to both sides. I think both sides compliment each other very well. The lifestyle is more than just kink to me, it’s a comfort blanket and I feel safer with the rules, boundaries and structure around me.
Im not here for casual hook ups, to find a play partner, or just for the kinky chats.
Consistency is very important to me. I don’t work well with rules that are put in place just for the sake of it. If they don’t mean anything to you, and are not beneficial to the dynamic we are building, then they don’t mean anything to me either.
Honesty and communication is also very important to me (as I am sure it is for most people). But if I don’t feel I can communicate with my partner, or that they aren’t communicating with me properly, this absolutely will not work.
If you have got this far and feel as though the above resonates with you and what you are looking for, then by all means send a message and let’s see if we are compatible.
Before exchanging personal details and arranging to meet, I prefer to vet through Fetlife as I find seeing people’s activity and how they interact with others says a lot about them.
If you message and I don’t respond - please don’t be offended. It is nothing personal, just that I have read your profile and for one reason or another don’t believe we will be a good match. Just as I am not for everyone, everyone is not for me either.
Thank you for taking the time to read 🌷🌸🧸
I am hmm who am I used to be a very out going now rather reserved outwardly. I am a large human lumps bumps and rolls but still human so be nice or move on . normally like walks bedroom exploring not always in the bedroom ect I'm pretty boring unless you are the right one to unlock and awaken parts of me size 16 ish have two kids needed to add that as sone seem shocked when I cant answer msgs ASAP
ok so I met one fellow human im not cut out for this im supppppper awkward im shy can't don't know how to make first move this ain't the movies please don't ask who I am what I'm after I have no ***y clue I live 8n country side dobt see many humans im a nerd
Hi there
I am not new to the scene but not incredibly experienced. I am wanting to see if I can find the right person for a mix of vanilla and Ds...so that I can explore further with someone I trust....
I have a strong character and am 5.9 and would appreciate someone taller ?
#aimingforthestars
Tattooed and pierced, chaotic, neurodivergent girl.
My personality is duality at its core, introvert/extravert, fierce/shy, cute/deviant etc
Fairly experienced BDSM kinkster, IRL and online. Looking for a relationship-dynamic with an experienced *** with a dark and soft side, who can handle a bratty little sub.
(only looking for someone serious who is mid 30+ not random hook ups)
A huge part of submission is mental, you have to be able to get my mind buzzing, wit and intelligence is vital.
I have a lot of kinks many of which started young but only started learning about the lifestyle when I was in my early 20s.
Never left the *** “it was just a phase” phase so I’ll probably be wearing black, listening to alt rock and metalcore.
At home I read fantasy and smut, enjoy tv series, board/card/video games and spending time with my friends.
Out and about I like doing fun activites, gigs, going on road trips and nature adventures. I just want to hang around in forests or float in the ocean.
Removed my face because of work, in my private photos.
Only interested in people who live in the UK. I'm not interested in being friends or trading images/videos on here if we aren't going to meet and have fun in person.
This isnt my list of kinks, just a description of myself. 😂
Curvy spontaneous exhibitionist werido, who loves nature, adrenaline, I'm very outgoing, bubbly, and I always want to please. I do ride motorbikes so i love to get my adrenaline going. 🥵😏
I'm hypermobile which means I'm very flexiable. I love lots sex, I'm not new to the kink scene just fet. I'll always try something once, im open minded.
I'm a brat but I'm submissive and a switch when it comes to women.
Im a size 14/16 and my bra size is 34GG.
New to this, I’m a bit of a nerd, in a good way I suppose. Down for any adventure, in love with spontaneous people that have a weird streak. Into good chemistry, better conversation and knowing exactly what we both want. Bonus points if you can make me laugh. Not a small talk girl. Currently studying for the bar and working for the ministry of justice, (I watched too many episodes of suits and how to get away with ***), also I’m a writer and *** lover, if you have cats I will automatically be inclined to like you.
Cute, short, and a bit of a nerd.
Books, gaming, and late-night rabbit holes keep me busy.
Tattooed and leaning toward the alternative side of life and music.
Exploring my submissive side and drawn to confident, respectful Doms.
Bonus points if you’re alt or tattooed too 😘
Dom-leaning and stepping into it with intention rather than bravado.
I like being the one who sets the tone, checks in, and keeps things moving with purpose. I’m confident taking the lead, but I’m also big on talking things through, learning what works, and building something that actually feels good for everyone involved.
I’m not here to rush scenes, I care about consent, communication, and getting things right.
Exploration is very much on the table, as long as it’s mutual, considered, and enthusiastic. Effort and honesty matter to me more than polish.
I value consistency and think these things get better over time so ONS isn’t my thing.
5'8", plus-size and comfortable in my skin. Tattooed, grounded, and not shy about taking up space.
I am single. Non monogamous.
I work hard so I value my free time incredibly and enjoy fitting in lots of playtime.
I can host on certain days and also Happy to travel.
Intelligent, grounded, occasionally savage. Love of deep convos,dark humour, planning events & organising chaos. I’m real, resilient, traditional, full of opinions, memes and to many mental tabs.
looking for a long term relationship with someone kind, funny, emotionally switched on, assertive, dominant and a traditional gentleman who can put a brat in its place.
I am a dominant lady in day to day life with work, looking after family etc. I love a man who can make me feel submissive and feminine outside of that. As much as I’m a brat I am not a little and not into ddlg.
dating for my full time forever match, no flakey rubbish. Bring some positivity and nonsense and let’s laugh together.
recently entered a relationship with a very kinky person and as a kink noob they have opened my eyes to a whole new world of pleasure and fun as well as structure and communication, openness and trust in relationships.
he has brought me here to learn more about the community, find people I can talk to about different kinks and finding out about dom sub relationships.
not looking for dick pics, ons, fwb just looking to make friends
hey guys! new to the site. I’m a naturally dominant curvy female that loves to put her man in his place. I’m hugely into foot worship, I use to dance so have always had to take extra care of my feet, love getting pedicures and massages and spoiled rotten. love how feminine I feel when wearing stockings, heels and pretty lingerie. I do have a soft spot for a cheeky smile and strong arms💋
Im a tattoo artist and bass player near Oxford 🥰🥰
looking for an online dom or just a friend ❤️
all natural down there- if u don’t like it, don’t message me😘
Type A neurospicy. Successful and high functioning in everyday life and like a chance to leave my brain at the door to be looked after and instructed.
Nerdy, creative and caring.
Looking for romance and kink > eventually love if I'm lucky.
Kink wise...
Yeses >
***
instructions
over stimulation
orgasm control
bondage
Noes>
name calling
***
public
permanent damage
Submissive, cheeky, and a little bit naughty — but don’t mistake that for casual. I’m here for something real, not a one-time thing.
I’m laid-back, love a good laugh, and I’m a sucker for someone who can communicate honestly (bonus points if you’re direct — I prefer truth over sugarcoating).
Outside of kink, I’m into gaming, cocktails, and a good movie night. Music taste is all over the place — pop, rock, country… if it’s good, I’m in.
Curvy girl, so you’ve got to be into that 😉
Looking for a Dom who knows what he wants, can lead with confidence, and is actually open to building something long term.
Social profile- I am not looking to meet anybody here, so please don't waste your time if you have ulterior motives!
Now that's out of the way, I'm here because I'm new to kink, sex and relations in general and wanted to find a space to socialise that might also allow me to discuss that with others who can guide me with their experience.
Thoughtful gifts make me happy 🥰💖. I am a confident domme switch. I love to explore life, be adored, fully supported, and spoilt. I am looking for a naturally obedient, respectful, and eager to please man.
Welcome X🖤
Newbie to this… I want to experiment and see what it is that really excites me.
I know I’ve always been a submissive but I’ve never found the right person to experiment with!
I hope I can find someone to show me the ropes 😉
hey everyone! we’re a loving couple looking for other like minded couples to connect with. we are really new to this and would love to find ppl to help us explore?
pls no pics without asking. run by both of us :)
I DO, IN FACT, HAVE A PARTNER😭
i am learning that no one ever scrolls that far, if you do not wish to talk with taken people, there is a filter you can turn on for that☺️
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🖍️sfw likes: music, vintage fashion, gaming, ‘childish’ items, ikea plastic cutlery, tartan pattern, ducks, kitties, owls and pigeons.
📌nsfw likes: collaring (shocker ik), ddlg, infantilisation, dacryphilia, marking, breath play/control, physical *** (not verbal), grovelling, zelophilia, pet play, cgl, dollification, lingerie… ect
I’m a naturally submissive woman who finds fulfillment in structure, guidance, and the quiet strength of surrender. The D/s dynamic for me isn’t just a pastime — it’s a mindset and lifestyle centered around trust, mutual respect, and shared purpose.
no idea how to stop the weird/insane messages! lol
a little looking for a daddy who can look after me. can be bratty so need someone to put me in my place occasionally🙈 ideally looking for something long-term, but also happy to go with the flow and see what happens (:
face pics set to private but can be shared after talking x
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