The traits I look for in a Dominant go against the grain of the role. Just as subs need incredible strength, Dominants need gentleness and humility.
A top accepts control.
A sociopath demands it.
A Dominant though? They earn it.
The only way a Dom will ever earn power over me is by showing me that he would never demand it.
.
Dominance is not a label. It’s a verdict. It's something I feel in my bones, in my breath, in the way my body responds. it draws submission out of me. I'll give up my power because I trust a person with my vulnerability. D/s is intensely intimate, and I won't engage with it until I know you'll hold it gently. Safety, it transpires, is one hell of an aphrodisiac.
.
I want a vanilla man: someone who dates me before he considers dominating me; who begins with conversations, not floggers; who gets to know me by talking to me, not fucking me. I want someone who knows people matter, that love matters, that I matter. If I wanted to be ordered around in a role-playing arrangement, I would create an OF and gain an income from it. I don't. I want someone to love who loves me; someone who feels like home; someone who is home.
.
I want a man who makes mistakes: The type who’s intimately acquainted with his own weaknesses and who doesn’t see admitting fault as a loss. I want a man who walks beside me, not one who positions himself as though we’re at war. Someone who tells the truth, not because he might get caught in a lie, but because honesty matters to him. It matters because he can't respect himself any other way. No person can evolve without the capacity to be honest with themselves, and no relationship can evolve until the hardest truths are known.
.
I write and post on the forums. A lot. When I was new I read and read but nothing really spoke to me. It was all very black and white, theoretical and serious. BDSM is serious stuff but it should also be full of fun and light. It's a romance, not a religion. In the beginning, I spoke with people who told me that this was no different to vanilla dating and it is. It's not the same at all. There's an intensity about it. I needed to read about other peoples experiences and how they felt because I feel that I might have been able to relate to it. I needed something tangible. I still do.
So I write the things that I'd have liked to have read from my experience so far in the hope others find it useful but also to get the thoughts out of my head and into some sort of logical form. Some will be reflections on my experiences, some will be questioning, and others will simply be sarcasm.
.
if you want to know more about me, maybe have a read.
.
Writing on Fet, though, has taught me that everyone reads through their own lens. No matter how hard you polish those glasses, people will apply their own tint to everything they see. Everyone seems to carry their own agenda around with them like a shopping trolley. Then they unpack the contents in everyone else's kitchen because it will be about them no matter what.
.
Few people put work into their online reading. They unpack that creaky old trolley with it's wonky wheel before they've even read the first line. I'm certain some of them don't even bother reading the post before disagreeing with it. Quite frankly, I'm quite tired of being manipulated into conversations I never signed up for. I am responsible for what I say, not what you read.
.
Please send ice cream
I am 5'3
Size 12-14 (no flat stomach, stretch marks! 😬) That's me! 🤗
If you are a sub (male or female) - I would love to make sub friends 🤗
Single mother
I like rock music
I vape!
I would rather have a conversation than put everything in here. 🤗
University student
I am starting to learn line dancing!
I don't play with anyone under 30!
I am in a poly D/s dynamic with Master Desire. Interested in casual but not disposible female Unicorns who want to play with us both. I can also play solo.
I'm a NeuroQueer solo poly submissive and plus sized beauty.
100% certified obedient good slave girl princess with soft primal prey tendencies. Ethically bratty only in casual play encounters.
Shibari practice both as *** and rope Mistress has been my the***utic happy place for 3 years and I enjoy continuing to learn and expand skills in this area. My FemDom side has been described as affectionately sadistic, I enjoy the power of my divine femininity and being worshiped on the rare ocassions of me topping that way in casual play.
Non Kink wise, I work in the Arts & Human Rights. I love to travel and spend time in nature, art galleries, museums, theatre, festivals, music gigs, cinema, restaurants, book shops.
As submissive and slave, I abide by my paraphrased words from Mollena Williams - Haas' Prime Directive on the M/s dynamic for any D/s dynamic as well as her specific words on the M/s dynamic
**
"It is the primary responsibility of the submissive or slave to protect the Master or Dominant's property at all times, up to and including protecting the property from the Master or Dominant"
**
I'm enjoying and looking for meaningful connections who share similar kinktrests to see where we adventure on from there. Open to regular FWB, casual play partners both in short and long term. Relationship anarchy doesn't need to equate to chaos.
Primal Pleasure Daddy Doms and Pleasure Sadists are my submissive play vibes.
BDSM for me is a beautiful partnership between the mind and body. It's empowering, healing, sexy, fun and more! I am facinated by and enjoy the exploration of desires on physical and psychological levels and how these evolve over time. Mutually honest and open communication, curiosity, playfulness, non judgemental, self awareness, informed and consensual negotiations, earning trust and respect matters to me. If you have gotten this far and want to reach out, put 'Beautiful Blossom' in your subject line so I know you've read my bio.
I’m 18, from England. about it I guess. if one more person asks me what I’m into idek what I’m gonna do but I’m into being degraded 😔. AND NO IM NOT ACTUALLY 6’7
Clue is in the username I guess🤣 so if cellulite and rolls ain’t your thing, I’m not the woman for you🤣
I’m not looking for a relationship (not completely against it though) however I do like to connect with someone and see if there’s vibe first than just jump straight into bed with them🤷🏻♀️
I also may take a while to reply to messages if your one of those men (there’s a lot on here) who sends about 7 and get annoyed I haven’t replied in 2.3 seconds please don’t bother😩🤣
Sapiosexual, demisexual, and submissive baby girl iso sweet and rough *local* Daddy Dom. I’m 5’9, green eyes, blonde hair, plus sized, easy smile, frequent laugh. I’m absolutely insatiable w the right partner and live to satisfy his every whim. A man who’s good with his words will open the door to oh-so-much more with me. Romantic heart with a filthy mind. ***I require connection before and after play. This is non-negotiable***
I will only respond to U rated openers.
Can’t wait to meet you 🥰
Looking ? No.. . Playful leggy (6ft1) , few years out of long term vanilla relationship and more than ready to explore my sub side for the first real time..
No conventional relationship desired.
Quite a penchant for the silver fox currently..
I certainly cum with my brain and not a clumsy fumble of body bumps and tweaks. .. Hope to get into your head before I get into your pants
someone to can take care of me and treats me right I also have a thing for shoulders 🥰 you have to message first 😘
( I do have a face you just gotta match with me to see it )
want that Gomez and Mortisha kinda thing
✨ dad bod for the win ✨- I want someone who can scoop me up yfm
✨🗡️Princess in the streets slut in the sheets.🗡️✨
I'm an independent, successful, professional, firey red head. That doesn't change. Put your hand to my throat and I melt into that lovely little space and fall to my knees.
I'm looking for a relationship. I'm looking for that right fit. Mutual respect, trust, communication. from there, you can build anything you want.
As well as kink interests, I love to travel and going to the gym💪. I enjoy dining out with some wine, hiking, being active and spending time with those important to me.
Kink wise, I love to be restrained, in a multitude of ways, ***d and spanked. I love alot of the psychological aspects of BDSM. I have many interests and and open to others, which is all a fun discussion 😊
please have some photos on your profile, or if you're messaging me, attach some there. im also willing to share face photos
looking for 1 time/occasional hookups.
Not experienced but want to explore the idea of being dominated/tied/toys used.
I am a parent so also VERY wary/cautious/nervous about meeting people but also think it will be fun but have limited free time.
Taking things slow and getting to know myself. I suppose my long term goal would be to meet someone I have a proper connection with, and trust implicitly, to enable me to fully submit. Not looking for a one night stand or some quick fun. Looking for something deeper and meaningful, after all, BDSM is more than just sex!
I primarily use this app to read the posts and stories, so even when I'm online I often don't see messages. I would be interested in finding a dominant play partner but there doesn't seem to be many suitable candidates nearby, so for now I'm quite happy to read and to learn.
I am not looking for; online, long distance, submissives, women or couples, people who cannot host - I prefer not to and only invite people into my home once I know them well.
Before diving into the following…. I have a lot of bandwidth in use with life commitments and existing relationships/connections so at present I’m not seeking, if something comes along and I’m super in to it then we’ll see, it’s like a meat counter ticket system only no one’s behind the counter right now for the most part.
*Identified Mostly Submissive Roles*
Primal Prey
Damsel in Distress
Pillow Queen
Pixie
Pet
Brat (Break-me)
Power Bottom
Pillow Queen
Sensualist
*Potential more Switch/Dominant Roles*
Cougar/Temptress
Domina
GFD/Mommy Domme
# *Creative with a passion for passion, ENM/CNM/Poly/Relationship Anarchist*
Push X Pull
Mental & Physical Intimacy
Levels of Transcendence
I like… the right voice & the right energy, I have great energy for the right people.
Neurodivergent, OCD and perhaps undiagnosed Bi-Polar 2, Fibromyalgia,
all managed pretty well.
All considered in terms of Consent/Risk Mitigation/Negotiation.
(In relation to trauma and Fibro ***/arthritis, pretty flexible yogi but some glitchy bits, that being said, I like a lot of things firm and we’re talking a different type of *** anyway)
When I choose well, play sedates me and is almost medicinal for the above.
I classify myself as Noetisexual, in that much of the attraction I feel comes from the way a person’s mind works.
The attachments I have here some of the dearest to me, they’ve lead me through some dark times, broadened my mind and I believe I have broadened theirs. They are like a kind of family to me, with whom I have the deepest trust.
With these connections, I become more myself, find my way back to my best parts
in order to build them up again.
I manage a lot in my day to day, so can be hard for me to keep up with those I intend to have socials with or date, I’m always on a quest to find the most suitable candidates for my polycule/play sphere but it needs to be both practical and engaging so may not always be responsive on here due to bandwidth, real needs and wants.
# Writing not a joke memoir in disguise, Pillow Queen and the Army of Lovers, an erotic novella….
NOT interested in meeting OR talking to MEN. Moved this to the top to help all the guys read this better, you’re welcome! Men who message without reading this will be subject to sarcasm and I’m not liable for emotional damages to your egos…. anyway!
I am not single, I am part of a couple. Together we’re looking to get to know, share pics and chat to about all things kinky with women and trans people.
Vanilla Alternative Club Member
I have been in and out of the kink lifestyle for a few years. I’m a switch, I love to be a sub for my partner, but I don’t mind switching things up occasionally and dominating my play partners… I love hearing those whimpers ;P
I love spanking, teasing, edging, praise, degredation, and making my play partner beg… amongst other things!
My partner and I love having kinky conversations, together and solo, but we are monogamous so no I won’t be cheating on my partner, and he won’t be cheating on me! We’re not into affairs or anything of that sort!
Curvy, Kinky, Red-head looking for a female Dominatrix to join me in using and abusing my slave of a husband!
I've been his sole Dominatrix for 5 years, but we would both love to bring another into the mix for a very intense session for him...
Also looking to build any connections with full swap couples who are interested in a more regular agreement, rather than one offs.
Into all things mystical and magical. I need a Dom to make sure I am making smart decisions and to challenge every now and then....I can't be perfect all the time!
i have a lot going on in my life so please be patient with me as i will be on and off a lot on here. especially if i take ages to respond to messages.
my profile is very basic for a reason. come get to know me and we can go from there.
i’m into exploring male chastity and cuckold (which I’ve never done) but not so much the sissy stuff. I am looking for a dominant guy, I am a switch but prefer to be a sub. I can dominate when needed too.
I’m not into hardcore BDSM so if thats your thing please don’t waste your time with me.
respect me and i’ll respect you.
I AM IN ENM MARRIAGE. Primary kink is BabyGirl/Pillow Princess, in other RP I’ll be bottom but with clear boundaries set. I have a primary DD so there would be a few conditions in place regarding honoraries etc.
Someone who thought knew what I liked, turns out I think there's a long list more. Im a mum of 3 so pretty good at multitasking but awful at keeping in touch. If you treat me well ill be your best friend! Ill chat to anyone as long as your not rude. Tattoos and motorbikes are a instant plus.
I'm here to explore my submissive side with someone who excites me, not only with their dominance but with the ability to hold an intelligent conversation. A sense of humour is also something that I enjoy.
I'd love to hear from you if you think this sounds like you and look forward to the fun we could have together.
It's been too long since I've heard those words, good girl, you've pleased Sir.
I am 5'3
Size 12-14 (no flat stomach, stretch marks! 😬) That's me! 🤗
If you are a sub (male or female) - I would love to make sub friends 🤗
Single mother
I like rock music
I vape!
I would rather have a conversation than put everything in here. 🤗
University student
I am starting to learn line dancing!
The traits I look for in a Dominant go against the grain of the role. Just as subs need incredible strength, Dominants need gentleness and humility.
A top accepts control.
A sociopath demands it.
A Dominant though? They earn it.
The only way a Dom will ever earn power over me is by showing me that he would never demand it.
.
Dominance is not a label. It’s a verdict. It's something I feel in my bones, in my breath, in the way my body responds. it draws submission out of me. I'll give up my power because I trust a person with my vulnerability. D/s is intensely intimate, and I won't engage with it until I know you'll hold it gently. Safety, it transpires, is one hell of an aphrodisiac.
.
I want a vanilla man: someone who dates me before he considers dominating me; who begins with conversations, not floggers; who gets to know me by talking to me, not fucking me. I want someone who knows people matter, that love matters, that I matter. If I wanted to be ordered around in a role-playing arrangement, I would create an OF and gain an income from it. I don't. I want someone to love who loves me; someone who feels like home; someone who is home.
.
I want a man who makes mistakes: The type who’s intimately acquainted with his own weaknesses and who doesn’t see admitting fault as a loss. I want a man who walks beside me, not one who positions himself as though we’re at war. Someone who tells the truth, not because he might get caught in a lie, but because honesty matters to him. It matters because he can't respect himself any other way. No person can evolve without the capacity to be honest with themselves, and no relationship can evolve until the hardest truths are known.
.
I write and post on the forums. A lot. When I was new I read and read but nothing really spoke to me. It was all very black and white, theoretical and serious. BDSM is serious stuff but it should also be full of fun and light. It's a romance, not a religion. In the beginning, I spoke with people who told me that this was no different to vanilla dating and it is. It's not the same at all. There's an intensity about it. I needed to read about other peoples experiences and how they felt because I feel that I might have been able to relate to it. I needed something tangible. I still do.
So I write the things that I'd have liked to have read from my experience so far in the hope others find it useful but also to get the thoughts out of my head and into some sort of logical form. Some will be reflections on my experiences, some will be questioning, and others will simply be sarcasm.
.
if you want to know more about me, maybe have a read.
.
Writing on Fet, though, has taught me that everyone reads through their own lens. No matter how hard you polish those glasses, people will apply their own tint to everything they see. Everyone seems to carry their own agenda around with them like a shopping trolley. Then they unpack the contents in everyone else's kitchen because it will be about them no matter what.
.
Few people put work into their online reading. They unpack that creaky old trolley with it's wonky wheel before they've even read the first line. I'm certain some of them don't even bother reading the post before disagreeing with it. Quite frankly, I'm quite tired of being manipulated into conversations I never signed up for. I am responsible for what I say, not what you read.
.
Please send ice cream
I don't play with anyone under 30!
I am in a poly D/s dynamic with Master Desire. Interested in casual but not disposible female Unicorns who want to play with us both. I can also play solo.
I'm a NeuroQueer solo poly submissive and plus sized beauty.
100% certified obedient good slave girl princess with soft primal prey tendencies. Ethically bratty only in casual play encounters.
Shibari practice both as *** and rope Mistress has been my the***utic happy place for 3 years and I enjoy continuing to learn and expand skills in this area. My FemDom side has been described as affectionately sadistic, I enjoy the power of my divine femininity and being worshiped on the rare ocassions of me topping that way in casual play.
Non Kink wise, I work in the Arts & Human Rights. I love to travel and spend time in nature, art galleries, museums, theatre, festivals, music gigs, cinema, restaurants, book shops.
As submissive and slave, I abide by my paraphrased words from Mollena Williams - Haas' Prime Directive on the M/s dynamic for any D/s dynamic as well as her specific words on the M/s dynamic
**
"It is the primary responsibility of the submissive or slave to protect the Master or Dominant's property at all times, up to and including protecting the property from the Master or Dominant"
**
I'm enjoying and looking for meaningful connections who share similar kinktrests to see where we adventure on from there. Open to regular FWB, casual play partners both in short and long term. Relationship anarchy doesn't need to equate to chaos.
Primal Pleasure Daddy Doms and Pleasure Sadists are my submissive play vibes.
BDSM for me is a beautiful partnership between the mind and body. It's empowering, healing, sexy, fun and more! I am facinated by and enjoy the exploration of desires on physical and psychological levels and how these evolve over time. Mutually honest and open communication, curiosity, playfulness, non judgemental, self awareness, informed and consensual negotiations, earning trust and respect matters to me. If you have gotten this far and want to reach out, put 'Beautiful Blossom' in your subject line so I know you've read my bio.
I’m 18, from England. about it I guess. if one more person asks me what I’m into idek what I’m gonna do but I’m into being degraded 😔. AND NO IM NOT ACTUALLY 6’7
Sapiosexual, demisexual, and submissive baby girl iso sweet and rough *local* Daddy Dom. I’m 5’9, green eyes, blonde hair, plus sized, easy smile, frequent laugh. I’m absolutely insatiable w the right partner and live to satisfy his every whim. A man who’s good with his words will open the door to oh-so-much more with me. Romantic heart with a filthy mind. ***I require connection before and after play. This is non-negotiable***
I will only respond to U rated openers.
Can’t wait to meet you 🥰
Clue is in the username I guess🤣 so if cellulite and rolls ain’t your thing, I’m not the woman for you🤣
I’m not looking for a relationship (not completely against it though) however I do like to connect with someone and see if there’s vibe first than just jump straight into bed with them🤷🏻♀️
I also may take a while to reply to messages if your one of those men (there’s a lot on here) who sends about 7 and get annoyed I haven’t replied in 2.3 seconds please don’t bother😩🤣
Someone who thought knew what I liked, turns out I think there's a long list more. Im a mum of 3 so pretty good at multitasking but awful at keeping in touch. If you treat me well ill be your best friend! Ill chat to anyone as long as your not rude. Tattoos and motorbikes are a instant plus.
looking for 1 time/occasional hookups.
Not experienced but want to explore the idea of being dominated/tied/toys used.
I am a parent so also VERY wary/cautious/nervous about meeting people but also think it will be fun but have limited free time.
I'm an independent, successful, professional, firey red head. That doesn't change. Put your hand to my throat and I melt into that lovely little space and fall to my knees.
I'm looking for a relationship. I'm looking for that right fit. Mutual respect, trust, communication. from there, you can build anything you want.
As well as kink interests, I love to travel and going to the gym💪. I enjoy dining out with some wine, hiking, being active and spending time with those important to me.
Kink wise, I love to be restrained, in a multitude of ways, ***d and spanked. I love alot of the psychological aspects of BDSM. I have many interests and and open to others, which is all a fun discussion 😊
please have some photos on your profile, or if you're messaging me, attach some there. im also willing to share face photos
Curvy, Kinky, Red-head looking for a female Dominatrix to join me in using and abusing my slave of a husband!
I've been his sole Dominatrix for 5 years, but we would both love to bring another into the mix for a very intense session for him...
Also looking to build any connections with full swap couples who are interested in a more regular agreement, rather than one offs.
Had to make a new account:3
im pretty inexperienced and want to change that. im a plus size girl so dont message if you dont like that. i like reading and videos games and will probably be lost in a book if im not replying
I AM IN ENM MARRIAGE. Primary kink is BabyGirl/Pillow Princess, in other RP I’ll be bottom but with clear boundaries set. I have a primary DD so there would be a few conditions in place regarding honoraries etc.
someone to can take care of me and treats me right I also have a thing for shoulders 🥰 you have to message first 😘
( I do have a face you just gotta match with me to see it )
want that Gomez and Mortisha kinda thing
✨ dad bod for the win ✨- I want someone who can scoop me up yfm
✨🗡️Princess in the streets slut in the sheets.🗡️✨
I'm here to explore my submissive side with someone who excites me, not only with their dominance but with the ability to hold an intelligent conversation. A sense of humour is also something that I enjoy.
I'd love to hear from you if you think this sounds like you and look forward to the fun we could have together.
It's been too long since I've heard those words, good girl, you've pleased Sir.
Into all things mystical and magical. I need a Dom to make sure I am making smart decisions and to challenge every now and then....I can't be perfect all the time!
Taking things slow and getting to know myself. I suppose my long term goal would be to meet someone I have a proper connection with, and trust implicitly, to enable me to fully submit. Not looking for a one night stand or some quick fun. Looking for something deeper and meaningful, after all, BDSM is more than just sex!
Looking ? No.. . Playful leggy (6ft1) , few years out of long term vanilla relationship and more than ready to explore my sub side for the first real time..
No conventional relationship desired.
Quite a penchant for the silver fox currently..
I certainly cum with my brain and not a clumsy fumble of body bumps and tweaks. .. Hope to get into your head before I get into your pants
i have a lot going on in my life so please be patient with me as i will be on and off a lot on here. especially if i take ages to respond to messages.
my profile is very basic for a reason. come get to know me and we can go from there.
i’m into exploring male chastity and cuckold (which I’ve never done) but not so much the sissy stuff. I am looking for a dominant guy, I am a switch but prefer to be a sub. I can dominate when needed too.
I’m not into hardcore BDSM so if thats your thing please don’t waste your time with me.
respect me and i’ll respect you.
NOT interested in meeting OR talking to MEN. Moved this to the top to help all the guys read this better, you’re welcome! Men who message without reading this will be subject to sarcasm and I’m not liable for emotional damages to your egos…. anyway!
I am not single, I am part of a couple. Together we’re looking to get to know, share pics and chat to about all things kinky with women and trans people.
Vanilla Alternative Club Member
I have been in and out of the kink lifestyle for a few years. I’m a switch, I love to be a sub for my partner, but I don’t mind switching things up occasionally and dominating my play partners… I love hearing those whimpers ;P
I love spanking, teasing, edging, praise, degredation, and making my play partner beg… amongst other things!
My partner and I love having kinky conversations, together and solo, but we are monogamous so no I won’t be cheating on my partner, and he won’t be cheating on me! We’re not into affairs or anything of that sort!
I primarily use this app to read the posts and stories, so even when I'm online I often don't see messages. I would be interested in finding a dominant play partner but there doesn't seem to be many suitable candidates nearby, so for now I'm quite happy to read and to learn.
I am not looking for; online, long distance, submissives, women or couples, people who cannot host - I prefer not to and only invite people into my home once I know them well.
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