Apparently this has to be reiterated at the top. I am not here to help you cheat. BDSM/ kinks are about consent. If you can't even practice consent with the person that should trust you, you're a shit practitioner. With all disrespect, catch an itch.
Hard limits (please don't try to negotiate, BDSM is respecting boundaries) : Age range, FWB 28-48, relationship 33-43. Local only, maybe moderate exceptions if it leans towards something serious. I also do not want to be the only one traveling. I do not do anal, I don't play with women (we can be friends ?), no ***, ***, urine, no marks visible in the workplace- this includes hickeys ( full stop, I will never give second chances, they're unprofessional and childish), no diapers, little play, pup/pony play, not an exhibitionist/voyeurism. Not playing with anyone who uses -hard- ***. I don't play with racist, sexist, heavily religious, hard right, or toxic/sensitive masculinity. LGBTQ+ friendly is a must. I am straight, cis attracted but an ally. I have a hard time enjoying sex with men considerably bigger than me, not weight shaming, I'm a bit chunky so not a high bar, but I like to play in a closer range. For context, my waist is about a guys size 36/38 if that helps. For serious relations, I'm kid free. I don't have any. I don't like most of them, I won't seriously date anyone with any. Adult kids out of the home are a different matter. Not interested in one night stands. Not here to help you cheat either. I don't have issues with open-poly, but it's not a dynamic I'm capable of.
Condoms until trust is there.
Now that I've pushed away half the state.
I'm submissive, sorry I don't have it in me to be a switch. I'm attracted to masculine energy (please know there is a difference between healthy and toxic). I love restraints. Ropes, cuffs, or just being physically pinned. Choking if done right. Impact play is fun (as always, if done right). Giving/receiving oral is fun, working on getting better at deep throating, help me practice? I -really- like getting my cervix hit. So unpopular opinion, size matters, motion of the ocean absolutely counts, but I'm not getting to England in a row boat. I do like mild size play. I'm massively curious about trying MFM, but as I don't have interest in reciprocating in the opposite not really a need-need. Have a decent toy collection, definitely working on adding more. Definitely into more, ask?
FWB- more interested in finding a full relationship, not against fwb but really need to enjoy company and want consistency.
Outside kinks, long term relationship would be nice. In that aspect, I like being somewhat domestic, as long as it's not inferred to be my job due to some archaric gender garbage, don't mind indoor cleaning (I am pale and freckle, I hate the sun xD) I love cooking, cross stitching is my old lady hobby, love video games (gamers much appreciated!), reading, cartoons, sci-fi, fantasy, all around huge geek. I have a few too many pets. Must love ***s. I do enjoy the occasional fishing and camping. Museums and the like are awesome. I am a godless heathen, I generally do not enjoy relations with the religious. I am a card carrying member of The Satanic Temple (not Satanism, protection of bodily autonomy). By local standards, I lean left. Not a patriotic bone in my body. Kind of a grumpy old lady, but I'm here to do good, not be positive. 420 friendly, light drinking, occasionally mushrooms.
